To find everything boring?

[YellowFrenchFancy]

I know I'm unreasonable but I find everything boring. I find other people boring and doing things boring. I'm just bored and probably boring lol

Can you take the baby out for a walk each day? Challenge yourself to try to go on as many different routes as possible, and aim to go at different times of the day.

Do you have friends or family nearby, any other DC? Does DP help with the baby? Can you get 30 or 45 minutes a day just for you?

PND stands for post natal depression.

Baby was early and I worry he's not normal. Dp is supportive but also works full time

Why do you worry about the baby? Have you expressed your worries to the doctor or health visitor?

Maybe it's worth talking to your GP about your medication, in case a change or a different dose might help? I had to try quite a few antidepressants until I found one that really worked for me, then we've had to tweak the dose up and down a bit depending on how I'm doing.

I also personally find that even if I don't want to do something because it sounds boring (because everything sounds boring when I'm depressed), it's best if I go along anyway. If it were actually boring I could make my excuses and leave, but most of the time I found it was interesting enough to stay.

Sorry, I posted too soon.

It's very normal to worry about a newborn, especially if he was premature. Have you spoken to someone about your concerns? Is there anything in particular the baby does, or doesn't do, which makes you concerned? Is he your first baby? It's really, really normal to worry and even the meanest-faced HV is totally used to being asked 'stupid' questions by new parents / parents of newborns.

Health professionals aren't worried about him but I dont see how he can be unscathed. I cant have another baby either

I get like this when I'm really struggling with my MH. I'm on the up at the moment, but just about the only thing that can 'entertain' me is doing physical things with my hands that don't require huge amounts of thought; e.g. sewing, making teenage style friendship bracelets, candy crush, chopping veg, counting things like cards or money, cutting and sticking, etc. I got an old compact film camera for Christmas and DH is helping me make a home dark room (another handy physical thing I can do - and used to love).

It is so shit to feel like nothing is enjoyable, OP. Is the baby your first? The only joy I feel these days comes from my (older) children, they honestly wouldn't have helped when babies (as awful as that sounds). I like seeing them happy and talking about their joy, which you can't do with babies obviously.

Definitely talk to someone. If you can afford it, go private to speak to a professional as soon as possible, even if it just ends up being someone impartial to moan to once a fortnight - it can help. That's all my therapy was for years.

OP I think I remember you, or someone very similar, posting directly after your DS's birth. You had a very traumatic time.

Please do seek help. If the Prozac isn't working you must tell your doctor. If you have specific concerns about your DS please ask your GP. Have you spoken to any of the premature birth charities? There's a lot of help out there. It will get better

I have felt exactly like this in the past and after a visit to the GP found it was linked to low levels of iron. I feel fine now my levels are back to normal. You have recently had a baby OP, are you eating healthily ? Your energy levels are bound to be low and babies are hard work so it could lead to mild depression.

Most of life IS boring, isn't it? I don't see that as a sign of depression.
Isn't it just getting older? Life just becomes more of the same. Go to work, do boring work, have some nice chats, come home, go on the Internet or watch TV, go to bed. Boring, boring. Time off for Christmas, go and do the same thing as every other Christmas, they all blend into one. Blah, blah, blah.
Isn't that life and we just have to try and grab the little moments of connection with others???

Can you take the baby out for a walk each day? Challenge yourself to try to go on as many different routes as possible, and aim to go at different times of the day.

^^This. Have you got a sling you can put the baby in while you walk? Walking is great for MH issues

Do you think you could be depressed? I would make an appt with your GP about how you are feeling.

Oh sorry I see you are already on meds

You're a new mother and looking after a newborn is so tough. Things will by easier as time goes on. My baby is 10 months and it's so much better and less boring than it was at the newborn stage

I just can't get over having him early

Having a premature baby must have been so worrying and would have taken you off guard. It's not surprising it's taking a little time for you to adjust. The important thing is how your ds is doing now and it sounds like he's doing incredibly well. You have to be so proud of yourself for being an amazing Mummy.

Just had a quick read of your other threads. Congratulations on your baby! Do you think you may be feeling a bit numb because a lot of your attention for the last 2 years has been on getting pregnant and being pregnant and now Baby is here you don’t have that to occupy your thoughts? 10 Weeks is still oh so early- I was barely leaving the house then. As others have said, are there any groups you can go to? At my NHS centre they had a Group for mums of newborns. I also used to take him to a weigh-in once a week to get out of the house. Don’t feel guilty about not being interested in things though - your brain and body have been through a massive change and just need time to adapt and heal. Sending love.

It really sounds like you might have PND, and the Prozac isn't cutting it. Could you make an appointment with your GP and tell them what you've told us?

Having a baby is bloody hard, especially with a premature baby.

You describe your feelings as boredom rather than depression/sadness, and this feeling has a name; ennui.

ennui
noun [ U ] UK /ˌɒnˈwiː/ US /ˌɑːnˈwiː/ literary

a feeling of being bored and mentally tired caused by having nothing interesting or exciting to do:

"The whole country seems to be affected by the ennui of winter."

And the example given above is probably quite coincidental given as the excitement of Christmas is over and two long dull freezing months lie ahead.

Yeah, I can relate.

If you're on Prozac and you cannot muster up any interest in anything in life, I would recommend going back to your GP.

My mother always told me that only boring people are bored. There are a thousand ways you can entertain or divert yourself, but if you can't be bothered then of course you are bored.
Take responsibility for it!

I don't agree with that Curry. I could turn it around and say you're quite a boring person if you find boring things interesting.

@Curryworst I don't think that's particularly helpful when OP just had a baby 10 weeks ago.

Your hormones will still be all over the place and you'll be suffering from sleep deprivation. Go easy on yourself @YellowFrenchFancy it takes time. Things will improve as your baby gets older.

How about setting up a Pram Walk group on Facebook and then posting on all your local Facebook groups . Pick a day and time which suits you, create a Facebook event with the details and location of your local park. Just say meet outside the cafe at 11 . We will set off at 11.15 for two laps of the park. I did this and gained a great group of friends . I know it sounds scary but sometimes you gotta put yourself out there. I had 10 people turn up on my first walk! There will be so many others feeling like you.
Also go to gp and get iron levels checked and thyroid etc