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Does you cook with wine for your toddler?

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missladybird · 26/12/2017 12:35

Slightly panicking about dd having beef gravy with red wine yesterday. I have bad anxiety and alcohol is a massive trigger due to my childhood and living with an alcoholic. I would never ever serve food cooked in wine but didn't realise yesterday until it was too late.

Am I overreacting or would you freak out too?

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missladybird · 26/12/2017 12:36

Obviously meant to say do not does.

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Rawhh · 26/12/2017 12:37

Complete over reaction. Your child will be fine

LyannaStarktheWolfMaid · 26/12/2017 12:37

Completely, totally fine. The alcohol boils off. Don’t worry.

GrumpyInsomniac · 26/12/2017 12:37

The alcohol cooks off. You're fine Flowers

steff13 · 26/12/2017 12:37

Alcohol evaporates during the cooking process. There's little to none left by the time you eat. YABU.

Capelin · 26/12/2017 12:37

Yes, no problem.

Ellapaella · 26/12/2017 12:41

Yes I do. I've always put wine into Bologna's sauce and risottos that have been given to my children from very early ages and they have always been fine.

Ellapaella · 26/12/2017 12:42

Bolognase sauce even!

frieda909 · 26/12/2017 12:48

She will be absolutely fine, I promise you! Don’t give it another thought.

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missladybird · 26/12/2017 12:52

It was Sainsbury's taste the difference stuff.

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missladybird · 26/12/2017 13:13

Now I'm worrying that the chocolate roll thing she had contained alcohol too

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WunWun · 26/12/2017 13:15

If it was yesterday and they're fine now then it's not really an issue any more.

I wouldn't do it in future though. I've read on here loads of times that the cooking off/evaporating thing is a myth.

Howsthings1234 · 26/12/2017 13:16

Try to be calm about it. It's done now and honestly I think it's 100% fine. I would give all these things to my toddler. You are upset but you need to be kind to yourself and if you know this triggers your anxiety just bear it in mind next time is all xxx

hungryhippo90 · 26/12/2017 13:17

Missladybird- I also have anxiety, I worry about everything, but honestly- No you shouldn't be worrying.
As soon as alcohol hits any sort of temperature it burns off.

Even if the chocolate roll had any alcohol it would be the tiniest, tiniest little amount with no effect on her at all I assume.

Really try not to worry, she is absolutely fine, you haven't done anything wrong.

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missladybird · 26/12/2017 13:21

It's gone from being a slight worry to full on anxiety attacks. I just feel like the worst parent and I'm usually so careful with checking ingredients.

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Weedsnseeds1 · 26/12/2017 13:22

It's fine. There would be miniscule amounts in a supermarket gravy.
If the chocolate roll thing wasn't advertised as "with brandy" or something, but has alcohol low down in the ingredients list, it's there as a type of preservative to keep the crumb soft, at about 0.2%, so no need to panic.
Even if it was sold as a chocolate roll, sodden with five kinds of spirits, I don't think a child would find it palatable enough to eat much.

Redken24 · 26/12/2017 13:23

Try not to worry about it, I did this when dd was six months. Exactly same as you.
Read a thread similar to your's and now just buy no-/low alcohol wine.

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missladybird · 26/12/2017 13:26

I took a pic. 9% seems like quite a lot

Does you cook with wine for your toddler?
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Weedsnseeds1 · 26/12/2017 13:27

Your child ate it yesterday and is alive and well.
It's not bad parenting, it's feeding a perfectly normal meal to your child.
Take a deep breath and calm down.
By it's nature anxiety makes you focus on irrational things and this is exactly what is happening.
I know anxiety is horrible, but trust all these posters when they tell you there is no harm done.

QueenNefertitty · 26/12/2017 13:29

9% of that tub is a small amount.

The amount of that tub that your toddler consumed is even smaller.

And most will have evaporated in the heating.

Please please relax about this- there's more alcohol (ethanol) in a dose of children's piriton.

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missladybird · 26/12/2017 13:34

It hasn't flared up in so long and now it's gone and ruined fucking Christmas. I feel sick and am shaking

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Weedsnseeds1 · 26/12/2017 13:35

It's 9%wine not 9% alcohol.
Say it's a 300ml pot and the wine was 12% ABV, that's. 1.08% alcohol in the entire tub. Your child had, what, a couple of tablespoons. So call it 0.01% alcohol, even without adding in the fact it's been heated up by the manufacturer and by yourself. So maybe 0.005% alcohol tops.

momjeansep · 26/12/2017 13:36

You need professional a help.
Seek it out.

Weedsnseeds1 · 26/12/2017 13:37

Sorry that should be 200ml tub for those calculations. If 300ml even less alcohol.
Hopefully seeing it laid out like that will help you rationalise. It really isn't worth stressing so much o re it that you spoil Christmas for you and everyone else.

PinkHeart5914 · 26/12/2017 13:41

Yes mine had had beef in red wine sauce or Spag Bol with in in etc. They are toddlers so have such a small portion I don’t worry about it.

Over Christmas they also had had xmas pud ( only a spoon or two full) and mince pies, it just doesn’t worry me.

Presumably your child is absolutely fine today anyway so no need for all this worry

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