What age did you stop DC coming in your bed?

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Title explains it really!

I've been called weird, my eldest son - nearly 5, will sometimes stay in with me, very rarely. Also my youngest (1) when he is poorly will come in my bed.

Is it time to stop them? I feel really stupid posting this but know I'll get the truth here.
Was really upset last night after several comments about it.

Some people are mean and a bit odd!
I love my DCs coming in for a cuddle. Sometimes my 5yr and 8 year olds climb in in the middle of the night! They won't do it forever. Get a big bed & enjoy the snuggles I reckon!
Admittedly I sometimes go and sleep in the spare bed when everyone snoring is keeping me awake. But it's your bed OP so up to you. Ignore the most people passing comment.

(Meant to say nosy people)

They're weird. Ignore them.

My almost 9yo cosleeps with me every night that she isn't with her father or on a sleepover.
We both like the cuddles.
I'm perfectly open about it - as is she.

Had pretty much stopped by around 5/6 but my 8&10yo will still climb in after a nightmare on the very very rare occasion!

My 5 year old has a monitor as does the 1 year old. He can tell the time and knows he can't come in before 7 am. If he needs something urgently before that he calls me. I can't do musical chairs/beds through the night. Happy to do cuddles before sleeping and in the morning though.

If he has a nightmare he just calls out to me and I go downstairs for hugs and cuddles and resettle him.

Ds had pretty much stopped aged about 7, and then dp moved in so I think that put ds off even more. Sometimes if dp is up and out and I'm having a lie in he might come and give me a quick cuddle, similarly this morning I got in next to him for 15min. I do the same sometimes with dd 11 but both of them only tolerate me for a little bit, then they want me out.

I've never really had my children in bed with me since they were toddlers.
To sleep I mean.
The teens will come sit on my bed to chat ds2 will jump under duvet for a cuddle occasionally but most of the time my bedroom is off limits to them.

Never stop them, they'll stop themselves

Sorry pressed too soon.
If your happy and your child is happy it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

I don’t ever plan to tell my DCs they must stop coming in my bed. DDs are 8 and 6 and are welcome stay in my bed if they want to. DD2 still comes in quite frequently but DD1 hardly ever does anymore. I think it’s something that tails off naturally.

I’ve never allowed it but I don’t think it’s odd at all. Just ignore the comments.

Never.

My 17 yo DD will sometimes bunk up with me, if she is not well. Or sometimes if the boys ( OH and DS ) are away we will have a movie and chocolate night in her bed and sleep afterwards.

No big deal.

We are a family of bed hoppers.

11 year old who is taller than me ended up in bed between DH and I on Christmas Eve, he had a slightly raised temperature and was having feverish nightmares. Thankfully went back to his own bed after an hour. It was a bit of a squish. DS2 who is 6 comes in most mornings for a cuddle and a chat

My 14yr old has problems sleeping and still swaps beds in night. Woke up with her in my bed thus morning! It's lovely!
Whoever called you weird must have a heart of stone!

My 5 year old DD stopped sleeping with me a while ago. Neither of us sleep a wink together! But if she's ill she always sleeps with me, same if she's had a rough day. Who cares? If it works for you that's what counts

All of mine still end up in our bed occasionally- they’re 8, 10 and 12. I think it’s lovely.

I planned on cosleeping but at 4months they just wriggled, so In their own cotbed they went. We all sleep so much better. He's 12mobths now and only joins us when hes ill

Never had the children in with me and Dh. Ever. Even when they were unwell. Sat by their bed to breast-feed them.
Jumping into my bed for a regular cuddle, is a totally different thing.

But what you are asking OP? What age do I expect a child to not come in? Regularly? By 7, say? Possibly?

My 11 year old ds still sleeps in my bed sometimes. It doesn't bother me (I'm a single parent, so it maybe would be different if I had a partner sleeping with me). I am buying him a new bed in the sales though, as he's complaining his isn't too comfy, so that may put a natural stop to it.

OP- it's definitely not weird.
Enjoy it while they are still kids, myDd 9 still comes and sleeps with us.
Best piece of advice we had when we bought our house was to get a bed as big as possible to fit in our room and that's what we did- no regrets

Not odd at all with little ones that small! If your 13 year was creeping in at night I might raise my eyebrows, but frankly it’s no ones business but yours who has a bad dream and needs a cuddle in the night.

My Dd will be welcome in my bed for as long as she wants to be there. She’s 7 now and only comes in if she has a bad dream or is poorly but I’d never dream of stopping her.