What age did you stop DC coming in your bed?

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Title explains it really!

I've been called weird, my eldest son - nearly 5, will sometimes stay in with me, very rarely. Also my youngest (1) when he is poorly will come in my bed.

Is it time to stop them? I feel really stupid posting this but know I'll get the truth here.
Was really upset last night after several comments about it.

AdidasGirl when DH was emergency services and on lates I don’t think DD and I ever slept apart

I don't believe you have to stop them. They just grow out of it.

My parents bedroom was totally off limits to us as kids, except on Christmas morning (didn't stop them divorcing!)

I love it when my kids snuggle up with us in bed. Dp likes it less. Whenever he's away both kids sleep in bed with me (aged 7 and 9) and end up in our bed a few times a month. Both are on the autistic spectrum so maybe the reason why they need us more in the night than most kids their age.

I often wake up to my nearly 9 year old having climbed into bed with us.

Its definelty decreasing in frequency as they get older.

In fact, the oldest nodded off in our bed last night so picked her up ready to carry her to her own bed. Held her in my arms and stayed there a few minutes enjoying the fact that she's still small and light enough to fit snuggly in my arms like she did when she was a baby. I'm enjoying those moments whenever I get the chance!

My DS is 11 and loves it when DH goes away for work as he gets to sleep in our bed with me. It’s up to him when he no longer wants to do so.

I hope they never grow out of it! Bought a super king size bed in readiness and love my 4 yr old bubba sneaking in and becoming a heated rucksack on me!

They'll grow out of it and then I'll desperately miss it.. sob... sob...

Errrr never, my kids don't sleep in my bed with me and never have, fair does to those that do, I just never had, but I don't think 5 is a weird age at all

I love snuggling with my kids at night!! Co slept with second one for 2yrs and third one still in our bed at 9months old. Both the older ones come occasionally in our bed as well. They are welcome! They are kids and Co sleeping is the most natural thing in the world!

Never. Hth

I'm being the odd one out here because mine never came into my bed. Apart from if they had been sick in the night and I wanted to keep them close (with lots if towels) so I could hear if they'd been sick again. DH would be sent packing to the sofa for the night.

Mine never came into my bed past a year. If they are sick I sleep in their room. They are not allowed in my room and it's completely off limits if I'm not there - my bed was smashed two years ago by kids jumping on it.

Ds was 12!

He's 13 now and going through puberty - so now he just plonks his bedding and himself on my bedroom floor if he wants to be in my room!

We're also a family of bed hoppers. We start off in our own beds. DS(3) joins us any time from around 2am and DH goes into the spare room. DS(10) usually sleeps in his own room but goes through phases of asking if he can sleep with me because he wants cuddles in the night. On those nights I end up with both DC and sometimes have to take myself off to another room because there's no room in the bed for me. I usually don't stop them, I love snuggles during the night with them and we all sleep better. The most important thing for me is that they start the night in their own rooms and don't mess around at bedtime.

its to the peoples mind that think its weird where lies the problem not you doing it.there is othing to it but families snuggling,gossiping,lying in bed together then that's all there is too it and how lovely.to be that comfortable with your family to want to to that is a gorgeous thing.there is nothing seedy or weird or wrong about it.only in the minds of those who cast those thoughts to it could there be wrong.
goodness sake your lying side by side.its the "bed" bit that is anything different to say a garden chair,lawn,sofa.
goodness.
I no adults still do it in the 20s and 30s.y cousin jumps into her mums bed wen she visits at Christmas.shes 30 and its funny and lovely to see.
friends son does it at 24 "shove up I'm cold and want to talk to you before work."
etc
its fine.any age.

We almost always end up with 2yo and/or
4yo in the bed. When 2yo wakes in the night he won't settle without coming in with us and I can't face the battle so we have a visit most nights. Can't deal with 4 in the bed so usually 4yo gets put back if he comes in, especially as he is really wriggly. But this morning unusually woke up with just the 4yo which was lovely.

5 year old still coming in every night. I don't mind but have a baby on the way so might have to somehow bribe encourage him staying put the whole night. He gets very scared of the dark though so not sure how it's going to go. Dh doesn't like sleeping with him. Might have to end up with a low bed on the floor...

Ds only comes in to sleep when dp isn't home also so they don't share the bed themselves. Feel slightly more normal; glad I posted.

Never. My 16 year old DS wanted me next to him in bed when he qas last ill and when he was recently dumped by his first girlfriend.

My dd is 22- she came home last week after having had a truly shit couple of months and the first night crawled in with me. She said it was the first full night's sleep she had had for months.

I still have my 9 yr old DD in my bed when DH works way if she wants to and I'm up for it. Its lovely. We watch a film and snuggle u together.

13 r old DS I would still have in with us if he was ill with a temperature o something that needed regular checking/meds...but only if he was happy with it.

No interest in what others do or think!

Dc 6 and 2 still sleep in my bed occasionally. Do what you want op and ignore anyone trying to tell you otherwise

As long as you're okay with it then sod what anyone else thinks. I made myself ill trying to get DS to sleep in his own cot. I started co-sleeping and suddenly he slept better. I went from barely functioning to enjoying my son again. He's only 11 months but I figure he'll let me know when he wants his own space.

I should have ignored it, I stupidly worry what everyone else thinks.

Before i had kids i was very anti co sleeping. I didnt do it with either of my children as babies but now DS is 7 and suffers from high sensititivy and anxiety which means it is hard for him to get to sleep and often he wakes up in the night and can't switch off. If he comes into our bed he relaxes immediately and gets to sleep before we transfer him back to his bed.

DH and i agree that he needs this and it is more important for him to get enough sleep than to stick to our original plan of no kids in our bedroom.

I think as long as everyone gets the sleep they need, you should do whatever works for you.