AIBU to bring this up to my parents now? At Xmas?

[MrsSHolmes]

I've named changed, im a long time poster.

Its been building up for a few weeks now and i feel i need to say something to them

Ill give some background. My partner and I have a good relationship, stable jobs and expecting out first child early next year.
My younger brother has a 3 year old son to his on and off girlfriend. She doesn't work, fell pregnant within 4 month of seeing him. She dumped him for the 6th time about 9 month ago. My brothers been back at my parents house half a dozen times.
My parents have taught my nephew how to crawl, walk, use a cup etc as neither of them have any go in them. They dont take him to any activities, Its my mum and dad who do it all (my parents blame just her but how i see it my brother is his parent too).

Basically, my mum and dad have shown hardly any interest in how i am or the baby is. They know my baby will be looked after so they dont need to worry which is good, but because of this, theyre relaxed to the point of showing no interest.
My mum has bought things but cant help but feel its out of duty rather than interest.

My brother is now earning good money and now his ex wants him back, she tried to kiss his best friend when they'd split which DB doesnt think we'll know about. She'll no doubt fall pregnant again and thats another kid my parents will be practically bringing up.

AIBU to confront my parents how i feel? I feel knocking sense into my brother- but that's another thread. I dont want to argue over xmas but at the same time i dont want my baby pushed out cos my brothers chaotic life

Flappyears. Nanny0gg. Lovely! OP. Follow your instincts, especially after you have given birth. It's not foolish pride. It's self respect. Let them approach you and ask what's up. Tell them gently, like Flappyears and Nanny0gg have been. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!

You sound a bit Princessey. Sure you’re not but, that’s how your post reads

I’m sorry but your baby is not even born yet and you are already judging your parents as being bad grandparents to him or her. Sounds like they are being good grandparents to their first grandchild - please just give them a chance before you decide they are failing at something. If you as their pregnant daughter would like more attention from them - just ask them.

God, your poor parents.

Jealously is ugly.

Other people's babies just aren't very interesting, especially when there's already a baby on the scene.

But your parents are showing themselves to be excellent grandparents, you're lucky! If ever you need a hand, they will no doubt be a wonderful support.

But right now they are v busy parenting a v small child which, you will soon discover, is all consuming.

You do come across as very childish and jealous.

You need to get off your high horse about your brother and his ex, you come across as very sour and judgemental.

Try to focus on the good fortune you are clearly experiencing- good health,much wanted child on the way, fantastic grandparents etc

OP, babies aren’t taught how to crawl or walk. As with most things relating to motor skills, they learn by observation, trial and error, and persistence

Hi Mrs S, my DD is expecting her first child. Of course she wants her mother's support, the same as you do.

She's bought you things, but that's not the same as enquiring how you are, wanting to share your excitement.

It's not just the baby is it? You won't know how your parents will be with the baby until it is here but right now you are not getting the care and attention a daughter in her first pregnancy is entitled to. I do say entitled to, parenting doesn't stop at any particular time in a family with good relations.

Maybe not say anything over Xmas, but that is your call. However, I think you are perfectly within your rights to say how you feel. Not with accusations and anger but simple 'I statements' eg, I mentioned my scan yesterday (just as an example) and felt very pushed away (use your own words) when you changed the subject.

Good luck, with this and the pregnancy.

MrsHolmes. Fuzztgecat1 made perfect sense to me. You are attention-seeking and a bit jealous. Grow up

I think you're all with g a bit hard in OP. Yes her parents have their hands full with their grandson, but it doesn't take much for her parents to take a bit of interest in her pregnancy.