Makeup as gifts

[BadFeminist]

DD is 4.
This year the majority of her Xmas gifts are makeup.

Since starting school DD loves makeup, (and shit American accents and hair flipping) and this is what she has asked for.

She will watch YouTube tutorials on makeup (which I support because it's either that or that god awful Ava Isla and whatever the third one is and I cannot handle their mothers voice without breaking something) and really just wants to play and be "made up" with glittery shit and pink lipstick.

I don't do makeup, I use the same Superdrug eyeliner I've been using for ten years and my one bottle of foundation lasts about two years, so I'm a complete failure as a mother clearly.

Today discussing what the kids are getting in Work one of the wives of a colleague made hell of a face and said "oh god" but when I asked what she meant she just shrugged it off and said "oh nothing, I just think that's not really the done thing" but wouldn't elucidate any further.

Is is THAT big of a deal?

Okay so let me rephrase this without accusing you of this whole thread being BS (without, I'm not troll hunting!)

*I like how you refuse to acknowledge me directly but seem to want to personally insult me real bad.

I appreciate the effort, *

You are being so cringe and defensive, why even bother?

It still stands that you absolutely know you have massively downplayed the information originally provided in your OP. It has gone from being the "majority of her presents", to actually she has Christmas with another parent so she is getting loads of other stuff as main gifts, to it's actually only 1 of 3 presents being makeup, to it being just a bit of pink lipstick and sparkly eyeshadow. SO you are obviously defensive despite you apparently finding other posters' responses being laughable.

ANd I agree you are a shit feminist, and not in a good way. I'm a really girly girl and a young mum of a 2 year old and I still wouldn't let my DD watch youtube gurus in the name of creativity. It's like the onset of social media has made parents feel that any restriction of what our children are exposed to is damaging and stifling. It's the other way round; small impressionable kids are so easily sucked in by things on Youtube and social media etc and it portrays such a skewed view of the world and womanhood that even grown wordly adults are fooled by it. Why would you subject your child to that? It's irresponsible and crass, and lazy IMO.

Meh I'm going to play devils advocate and say if your DD wants to mess with makeup then I don't think it's "shitty parenting" to go along with it. Youtube tutorials are a bit hardcore but I doubt she is going to grow up with an insecurity complex as a result.
I LOVE makeup, always have done. I still get tingles down my spine when I buy myself a new UD palette or see a sparkly eye shadow that I want and I remember tinkering with makeup as a nipper.

I've not grown up to believe I'm ugly, I go to work occasionally with no makeup on (sometimes have to enter a lab where makeup is a contaminant) and I don't dread showing my natural look or feel less confident.

As long as it's not going to irritate her young skin or become extreme where she starts insisting on wearing it out of the house then it's just like a dressing up game imo.

On amazon there are some silicon makeup heads for practicing on. Could you buy her one of those for a “new year” present then she can practice on that instead.
If you get her into face painting and she’s good at it you could hire her out at parties! .

She's got a styling head and has no interest in it.
Haha, I'm usually face painting at the friends anyway. 😂

She has got a little lip balm with tiny flowers in it though that is so freaking cool!

BadFeminist-I don’t want to insult and not have I. However, this is (as you well know) a deliberately annoying thread for many reasons, not least the slight but significant changes you’ve made to your original story which you don’t agree you have.

OP, sorry to say but you sound really odd! Hay hoo...

So I guess I'm in the minority in thinking this isn't a big deal? I remember when I was little I just wanted to play with make up because it looked grown up to me. I also wanted to receive letters and hold the car keys when we walked to the car (because everyone would obviously think I was driving...) for the same reason

I might be uncomfortable with her getting "grown up" make up (Urban Decay, Kylie, Tarte, Too Faced etc) because it just sounds like too much, but a fairly generic but safe glittery palette and some lipstick doesn't sound too horrific if she gets other gifts too. Just my opinion, anyway.

Think it's a bit weird to say the least that the majority of a 4 year old girls presents would be makeup?!!! I can understand the odd glittery eyeshadow / lipgloss but Most of her presents...do 4 year olds even have the coordination to apply loads of makeup??

I like you OP. I may be in the minority