Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6

Original poster

to be upset for DD!!

137 replies

donners312 · 20/12/2017 21:54

DD13 been a bit fragile lately and this has led to bullying at school.

School have been pretty good but it has been tough.

There was a party tonight and DD had a friend coming over to get ready before so they could go together.

Low and behold she didn't turn up and then started posting photos rom the bullies house of them all getting ready together.

DD has still gone to the party I didn't want her to go and am on tenderhooks until i pick her up at 11.

How can they be so horrible?

OP posts:

violetbluesky · 20/12/2017 21:56

Fucking witches. Fucking fucking witches. The lot of them.

I'm furious on your DD's behalf. I hope when they're older they look back and are utterly ashamed with themselves.

I despise bullying. They're the weak ones and your daughter is better shot of the lot of them

Bambamber · 20/12/2017 21:58

Good on her for still going though, that must have taken some courage to still go!

Original poster

donners312 · 20/12/2017 21:59

Thanks Violet - it was awful she was waiting for this girl to come here and then saw pictures on snap chat of them all getting ready?

It's like the ringleader is going out of her way to exclude DD. MY DD is quite a gentle soul and i'm recently divorced so she has been struggling with that and has been quite upset in general lately.

OP posts:

Original poster

donners312 · 20/12/2017 22:00

Her face though - I don't understand why she wants to go I think she thinks they will be friends again if they see her but that worries me a lot as i just want her to find new friends now and stay away from them. They are not nice girls!

OP posts:

SparklingSnowfall · 20/12/2017 22:00

Oh I hate stuff like this, your poor DD

Original poster

donners312 · 20/12/2017 22:01

1 hour to go - I am sitting here just feeling sick!!

OP posts:

dalek · 20/12/2017 22:01

We've been there - I feel so sorry for you and your DD. I remember really wanting to hurt the other girls. Things got better for my dd when she made new friends and took the bullies off her contact lists for whatsapp etc. These were girls who had been to our house and we had taken out. To be fair dd had also been to theirs. Girls can be unbelievably mean.

It will get better but it's the worst thing as you just want to protect your child.

Sending love x

EduCated · 20/12/2017 22:01

Oh bless her, I so hope they are kind when she gets there.

monkeysox · 20/12/2017 22:02

Good on her for still going. Fuckers

Mousewatch · 20/12/2017 22:03

Bloody bitches! Have you heard from her?

Original poster

donners312 · 20/12/2017 22:03

I had even reached out to one of the Mums and if it was the other way around i would have gone out of my way to support her and make sure her DD was included. But its a case of "i'm alright Jack"

I know you can't make kids be friends but these girls are going out of their way to be mean.

OP posts:

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 20/12/2017 22:03

(((((((((((((((())))))))))))). Awwww your poor little lamb. I despise bullies.
The horrible little cows. There's an old saying kids can be so cruel, and this certainly demonstrates it.
I bet you feel like going up to your dds so called friend and saying. "Hey you little bitch stick her (bully) up your fucking arse.
but don't come creeping back when she turns on you. You wouldn't be a mother if you didn't.

RosieMapleLeaf · 20/12/2017 22:03

Ugh, girls can be so awful to each other sometimes, I had the same crap with my own DD and it gave me The Rage!

Good for her for going, that took guts.

Original poster

donners312 · 20/12/2017 22:03

Thank you for your messages!!!!

OP posts:

leftwiththedognow · 20/12/2017 22:03

She's got a lot of courage! She hasn't rung yet, so she must be ok so far?
Good lass.

Strictly1 · 20/12/2017 22:04

That is truly horrible but wow - you have a strong daughter.

This time will pass, you need to keep doing what you’re doing and keep the school acting.

I don’t even know your daughter but I feel proud of her strength. She shouldn’t have to put up with this - it is wrong in every sense and says everything that is wrong with them. Good luck.

Original poster

donners312 · 20/12/2017 22:05

Not heard from her but going to pick her up at 11 which is 30 minutes early but want to avoid the other Mums as they have been awful (over school stuff - eg school have tried to address the meanest but the Mums are of the opinion that there isn't a bad bone in their DD bodies etc so school are struggling a bit)

OP posts:

MyKingdomForBrie · 20/12/2017 22:05

I’m so sorry for your DD, I hate hate hate the way girls treat each other.

Original poster

donners312 · 20/12/2017 22:06

Lovely messages thank you so much they mean a lot!!!

OP posts:

GrooovyLass · 20/12/2017 22:07

This makes me so angry. Not only did this sort of thing happen to my DD but to me at that age too. Girls are fucking horrible.

Sorry I have no advice but a lot of empathy and I really really hope your DD has had a good evening x

Betsy86 · 20/12/2017 22:08

Im not even part of your family and im feeling super proud of your dd for still going to the party and not letting it stop her!!
Please update us after you get home hope it all went well for her xx

lauryloo · 20/12/2017 22:09

Awww your poor dd

Good for her going to the party though. I hope she’s had a good time

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 20/12/2017 22:09

Oh I can't stand all that
"My child is a saint"

Orchidflower1 · 20/12/2017 22:11

Your dd sounds strong and brave. Bullies are awful and made worse by parents who think the sun shines out of their a&ses. Keep on at the school. 💐for you.

Original poster

donners312 · 20/12/2017 22:12

I really do feel like i can't wait for the pendulum to swing - these girls really are horrible and i suppose they will all turn on each other at some point. Plus the Mums are all pretty shabby too!

But really i just want my DD out of there and in with another group of girls.

OP posts:

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6

Swipe left for the next trending thread