To think my sister is being a cheeky fucker?

[Cheekyeffingsister]

We have a family whatsapp group and a few weeks ago we all put lists of present ideas for ourselves/our dcs and everyone said what they would get to avoid duplicates.

Dsis sent hers over, ‘does she think we’re all minted’ says dp whilst looking at her list. Nothing under £75 for her or her dp/DCs. We’re not well off by any means (her present is more than what I’ve spent on my own child) but she had called me and said ‘oh I couldn’t find what you wanted but saw some beautiful things you’ll love while in House of Fraser so got you and dp a £150 voucher towards them’ so based on that I felt I had to get her the pricey presents as couldn’t believe she’d spent so much! (Our presents we sent we’re all under £20)

Now 5 days before Christmas she has sent a message to the group whatsapp ‘Hi guys, just to let you all know we didn’t budget that well for Christmas and Sam asked for an Xbox last minuite so we won’t be doing presents for anyone this year. Hoped to get the kids something but don’t think we’ll have time now. See you Sunday x’

AIBU to think she’s a cheeky fucker? I know I’ll get called grabby and you don’t give to receive etc but to me it seems she’s sent us all pricey things, acting like she’s doing the same then waited until everyone will have bought things to say actually she’s not getting us anything!

I’m more pissed off that she said she’d get one of the things on DDs list and now i can’t find it to arrive before Xmas.

Disclaimer as not to dripfeed - she has form for this kind of thing.

Did she respond to your message?

Sorry everyone I don’t have a juicy update, she didn’t reply to my message (or at all actually on the whatsapp group) . I will be sure to update with her reactions and comments on Christmas Day though.

It feels good not pandering to it all

Please message and say 'that's fine - we're not doing presents either, see you soon x' DO IT NOW! And get a refund for any gifts you already purchased

Genuinley do people not RTFT. 7 pages long and you think no one has suggested this.....?

Is she the type to pull a stunt like giving presents to your DC to show you up, now she can see you're not playing her game?

I might put a few selection boxes in the car just in case. So if she does pull a stunt like that, you're prepared.

I know you shouldn't have to do that and it's probably overthinking, but I'd see it as insurance - (I often have spare presents like chocs with my for nicer reasons anyway - in case I forgot someone, which has happened!)

Selection box seems to be the seasonal equivalent of spa day.

Selection box covered upthread! General gist - parents think it's a crap present but actually kids love it.

I will be sure to update with her reactions and comments on Christmas Day though.

Oh gosh, you’re awesome. (I shouldn’t be this entertained by other people’s family drama. Sorry )

Eagerly awaiting Christmas, for this thread alone!
She's probably thinking of a way to get you all to buy the presents again now though. Hence the silence on her part. Cheeky cow

FWIW "spa day" was my worst ever birthday present.

DP had obviously not been arsed to get me anything in time. So he said "I'm going to treat you to a spa day" he turned to my good friend, who was there at the time and said "you go to, make a day of it together".

As we share all our money, what that meant in reality was "you take some of your own money to pay for a spa day we can't afford - oh and you find a spa, book it and arrange it with your mate".

Some present

I never mentioned it again and neither did he.

Oh also - a spa day is my idea of hell!

YANBU, she is a CF. Return all of her stuff and let her ask about it like the CF she is. SMH.

AIBU that nobody seems to have suggested that you have it out with her. Tell her that she’s a CF and won’t be buying any presents from now on.
Just not giving her a present is not addressing the issue that is she’s a CF

Glad your DH has finally stood up and said no to this shit. Shame you can't get the rest of your family on board. Your reply was perfect. She probably had a right cats bum mouth when she read it. I don't think I'd be able to resist asking where the £150 voucher went tbh, she told you she had already bought that. Lying cow.

Well done!

Hoist with her own petard, wasn't she?

You've spent less on your own kids than on your niece, all under duress. Why are you doing this?

Sorry just seen the update well done.

She sounds a little unwell and naughty. Why ask for expensive presents, lie, lie again and expect all to be well. Assuming she's a nuclear family that's £300 or more. Could she be struggling to buy things and she thought (god knows) that this was a way out? If she thought she would get away with it she seems very unwell...

CF?

well done OP

Seriously he made up a present and you never mentioned it again... did you marry him???

Get a refund. She is BU and your budget sounds totally normal. We spend about £20 on family presents outside of our family unit.

Brilliant reply OP. If she asks just say you were leaving present buying until last minute anyway so she's saved you the hassle.

user1493282396 - I did

I'd just reply and say I'm so pleased to here this as we're in the same position and I was just about to text the same thing.