To think my sister is being a cheeky fucker?

[Cheekyeffingsister]

We have a family whatsapp group and a few weeks ago we all put lists of present ideas for ourselves/our dcs and everyone said what they would get to avoid duplicates.

Dsis sent hers over, ‘does she think we’re all minted’ says dp whilst looking at her list. Nothing under £75 for her or her dp/DCs. We’re not well off by any means (her present is more than what I’ve spent on my own child) but she had called me and said ‘oh I couldn’t find what you wanted but saw some beautiful things you’ll love while in House of Fraser so got you and dp a £150 voucher towards them’ so based on that I felt I had to get her the pricey presents as couldn’t believe she’d spent so much! (Our presents we sent we’re all under £20)

Now 5 days before Christmas she has sent a message to the group whatsapp ‘Hi guys, just to let you all know we didn’t budget that well for Christmas and Sam asked for an Xbox last minuite so we won’t be doing presents for anyone this year. Hoped to get the kids something but don’t think we’ll have time now. See you Sunday x’

AIBU to think she’s a cheeky fucker? I know I’ll get called grabby and you don’t give to receive etc but to me it seems she’s sent us all pricey things, acting like she’s doing the same then waited until everyone will have bought things to say actually she’s not getting us anything!

I’m more pissed off that she said she’d get one of the things on DDs list and now i can’t find it to arrive before Xmas.

Disclaimer as not to dripfeed - she has form for this kind of thing.

Hi guys, just to let you all know we didn’t budget that well for Christmas and Sam asked for an Xbox last minute so we won’t be doing presents for anyone this year. Hoped to get the kids something but don’t think we’ll have time now. See you Sunday x

"So, we've spent all our money on ourselves as usual, and it turns out after buying whatever we wanted, there was nothing left for any of the rest of you. We know its incredibly selfish to not even get the kids anything, so we'll mention how we thought about doing that, but still havent. Bring all our expensive presents to the usual address."

I think your husbands plan is brilliant and that way the kids don’t lose out and nor do they gain any more than yours. Let us know how it goes.

Men never get over emotional and irrational you know. That's why male violence is such a rare phenomenon. (Nods wisely.)

"Men never get over emotional and irrational you know. That's why male violence is such a rare phenomenon. (Nods wisely.)"

ahhh @GoReylo, this really made me cackle!

Did she respond op? I hope you feel good, you should do!

as others have said, whether it was deliberate or not, getcho money back - refund!

Agree with all above. Sounds well planned by her.

Is it worth keeping the presents you've bought for her kids wrapped up in the boot of the car in case she whips out some presents for your DC at the last minute and tries to make you look really tight?

Well done you and DH, OP.

Is it rubbernecking too obviously to ask if she replied?

GoReylo- big guffaw from my wise, balanced husband. Not sure how I'd manage without him.

Love the plan. Maybe your DSis could do with reading "How the Grinch stole Christmas" but I suspect the irony of the situation may be lost on her! Happy Christmas when it comes x

Well done op! Did she reply to your message?!

I would ask for a donation towards the food.........

Defiantly get them a selection box, as a kid one year I didn't get one, I was gutted.... still get them now and I'm 34

Agree with everyone else. She's totally out of order. Like the idea of replying along the lines of "great, that suits us too tbh as we are struggling a bit with escalating costs" and get refunds. Spend the money on your own family.

Awfully bad form, just because she's family, doesn't excuse appalling behaviour. Just give her a nice box of biscuits and be done!

How did she respond?

She wouldn’t be getting so much as the steam off my wee lol !! No way !! Say oh sorry we are the same here thanks for letting us know . And get a few £1 smarties tubes for the kids and let her go whistle Dixie ! X

Wow!! What a BITCH!! Sorry!!

I would return the presents and get a refund. I would also make it clear in the future that you will just give presents up to a certain value to her dc and suggest that she does the same. This is not what Christmas should be about. Sending you peace and joy!

Wow...just wow...I sometimes wonder how some people can be that cheeky. I don't know if I'd be comfortable seeing her over Christmas if that was my sister but then you don't want to ruin it for anyone else I guess - what do your parents say?

I agree with everyone else. Take them back and get refunds, it's extra money for you and your family then.

Still wow!

Dying to hear response!

Tell us, op!

Yep, lurking for a response