Spelling someone's name wrong on Christmas card every year

[mydogisthebest]

Mr and DH and neighbour have been giving each other cards for about 10 years now. Every year without fail she spells my name wrong.

My name can only be spelt 2 ways, with an e or without an e. It's not difficult. Does she not read the card we put through her door to see that I don't spell it the way she writes it?

I know it is silly but it really winds me up. If people don't know me very well then I accept they may spell it wrong and the first year she gave a card I was ok with it. Since then I have not been ok with it.

Mind you she also writes DH's name first and then mine. I was taught that you always put the woman's name first and then the man's.

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That is this whole thread!

My mums brother and his wife have never spelt my name correctly in almost 40 years. Despite me being named after my nana (my mum and uncle mum) and it being the catholic saint spelling as nana family were catholic.
My dd2 has a fairly old name with the regular spelling but dh’s Aunt/uncle never spell it correctly.

Both examples they will have seen the names in cards etc. Correctly spelt !

Cupoffrothycoffee, maybe she doesn't give a shit how I spell my name so why bother giving me a card?

Sorry but while I agree it is not important in the scheme of things I also think it is bloody rude. Even if someone has an unusual name it's not usually that difficult to find out how to spell it.

I was brought up not to be rude and considering my neighbour is older than me I would think she was too. She obviously doesn't look at the card I give so not sure why we are bothering

My name is ANN not Anne. Been spelt wrong all my life as people assume (obviously wrongly) that I was named after Princess Anne.

Fair enough for people that don't know me but lazy and rude for people that do. My name could not be any simpler

My MIL does this to me. If shes talking to my DH and she mentions me it's always spelled wrong. Same thing if she sends me a message via facebook, she has to literally search my name yet still cant spell it!

My mother EVERY Year spells DHs name wrong-& I have no idea why-similar example would be say his name was Sam-she writes Samm! Just yet another example of her narc thoughtless behaviour.

@mydogisthebest
maybe she doesn't give a shit how I spell my name so why bother giving me a card? - Because she's a nice neighbour?

I was brought up not to be rude and considering my neighbour is older than me I would think she was too - It's not rude, it is the correct spelling, just not your spelling.

You really need to let this go, you're taking it far too seriously. You're not that important that people shouldn't ever mis-spell your name.

I know it is silly but it really winds me up

It is very silly. It's a christmas card. It literally does not matter.

I get cards from m neighbours with totally the wrong name, nothing at all like mine. But it doesn't wind me up, because they are trying to be nice. What kind of person gets mad about someone making a mistake while trying to be nice?