@SheGotBetteDavisEyes
"I like old fashioned manners. My husband has them and it makes me feel cherished"
Don't want to burst your bubble but?
Chivalry is NOT dead it's just reserved for those women who DESERVE it apparently.
Chivalry according to men, is men doing women a favour, a special favour and only for those women they fancy but the ones they don't fancy they will happily slam the door in their faces and get a real kick from treating women like that and see it as a little victory for themselves and their like minded bro''s.
Women who are not attractive to men will know the true nature of men better than anyone else
because men don't hide from those women their disdain for them or restrain themselves from collectively openly expressing it and often other women who are in awe of those types of men and who vainly welcome their fullest attention, will join in with them to gleefully pulverise and smash down the self esteem of those women their manly heroes loathe.
The explanation men give us for "Chivalry" is.
It's the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, namely courage, honour, courtesy, justice, & readiness to help the weak!?
"OMG WOW!"
But if you examine that claim closely all those qualities men revere in the art of chivalry and espouse are what women have always had in abundance and for most women those qualities come naturally to them because most women have a conscience and a predisposed concern to nurture and protect others?
So it must be that men got their chivalrous ideas from women because men wouldn't normally employ them, not even around each other unless specifically told to.
Yes to most men, those qualities do not come naturally to them and they have to be cajoled into acting that way with an offer of reward at the end of it.
So what kind of reward would tempt men to act in that way one wonders?
*"Self flattery & self promotion, probably! Vanity.
*"Ooh look at me bro's, I am putting myself out and doing a woman a favour, hey bro's pat me on the back and give me my gold star and now she owes me big time & soon I will be calling in that favour, hoohaha!"
So the idea of chivalry is female but men will never admit that and they try to follow in women's footsteps, but most men don't actually do it for altruistic reasons but do it for their own ulterior motives.
In other words
"What is in it for them"
and if there is nothing in it for them, then they aren't interested.
When men's fanciful idea of their own self worth is scrutinised, men and the image they hold of themselves as brave heroic self sacrificing martyrs quickly evaporates into thin air and men then land with a heavy thud and a loathing back into what we women call reality! ..