Would you call a land line at 9.30pm?

[Tinkerbec]

Someone has just called my home for my mother who is out. Waking up my dd.

I think it is way too late. I know its a Saturday but really!AIBU?

I find land lines intrusive at the best of times.
Grrrr! Not happy.

[TrampyCat]

Yabu I don't think that's late

[Rainbowandraindrops67]

No - 9pm is my cut off. After that it’s energencies only and I’d get quite worried if the phone rang late.

Also 9pm IS a normal bedtime for adults who have kids or start early at work. It’s not ok to assume everyone keeps the same late hours.

[Gwenhwyfar]

"My OPINION is not after 9.30pm. My OPINION.

Is that OK everyone? "

Yes, that's much better.
My opinion is different.

[Gwenhwyfar]

"Also 9pm IS a normal bedtime for adults who have kids or start early at work. It’s not ok to assume everyone keeps the same late hours."

Unless you know the person's routine, you can only base it on average going to bed times, which is not 9pm. I don't know anyone who goes to bed that early.

[isadoradancing123]

Is your child sleeping in room where phone is

[allthegoodusernameshavegone]

Why did your DD wake up when the phone rang?

[Neiflette]

Depends on who I'm calling. If they generally go to bed early or have children then no.

[apoppetonastring]

I wouldn't mind/care if someone called ME at 9.30pm-10.15pm, but even a bit later than that would be pushing it I think. EG, if a friend called at 10.45pm-11.pm, and rattled on for over half hour, it could be knocking on for midnight before the call finished...

So 9.30pm is ok yeah. Even so, I would not call anyone my self after 8.45pm.... And not after 8pm if they have kids under 10. No reason for anyone else to think the same or agree with me; that's just me.

Never go to bed myself at 9pm by the way. Only if I am ill. Or I have been up very late the night before (like til 2am,) and got up at 6am that day, (so that I am shattered early.)

Several years ago, my daughter used to call at midnight around twice a month, tipsy and giggly with her mates in her student house. 'HI MOM!!! Say hello everyone! Mom you're on loudspeaker.' Then I would hear 'HELLLLLOO MOMMMMMM!' from a chorus of tipsy uni students!

Mad cow.

[MrsFamily]

Quite surprised so few people have landlines. We live 30 miles from central London and the mobile signal
in the house, and in many houses here, is terrible - and that's after switching provider when we moved here as it was even worse. I always have to call people back from the landline if they call on my mobile when I'm at home. We just can't hear each other. Not entirely sure why it's twee.

I would be happy for people to call up until 10 - we frequently don't answer if it's not convenient.

[BarbarianMum]

10pm is the cut off here. I prefer friends/family to call bw 9 and 10pm as that's when kids are in bed and I'm free to chat.

[RicottaPancakes]

Why would it be different rules for landlines and mobiles?
I think 9pm is the cut off point, unless you have previously agreed that you can phone that person after 9 or it's an emergency.

Lots of people have landlines! It's a good idea to have one. If there was a long power cut your mobile battery would run out pretty quickly and you would not be able to phone anywhere.

[TheOtherClass]

This is a daft thread. Of course it's ok in some circumstances and of course it isn't ok in others.

In the OPs case I think it would depend on whether the Vicar knew there were little kids and a new Mum in the house. If he did then i think it was a little thoughtless and if he didn't then I think it was not unreasonable.

If I had any doubt I wouldn't call after about 8. Although I honestly can't remember the last time I used my landline.

[Rainbowandraindrops67]

Gwen - you obviously don’t have any friends with kids yet!

[Animation86]

Nope
Only the hospital and in laws have the landline number.
If the in laws were to call at that time i’d Go nuts because they’ve been told not to

[MsHarry]

9pm latest to phone on landline or mobile. I would text someone first if I really needed to speak to them after 9.

[Sallystyle]

Wouldn't bother me at all and the only person I wouldn't ring at that time is my MIL as she is bed by 9.00pm.

I am happy for people to call me up to 11.00pm. Not that people tend to call me much at all though.

[MsHarry]

Why are landline intrusive? Surely mobiles are more intrusive as you can be contacted anywhere?

[Changebagsandgladrags]

The call from God can come at any time

[MillieMoodle]

Nope, not unless someone was expecting me to call or it was an emergency/bad news. I probably wouldn't ring a land line after 8.30pm.

I'd ring a mobile until around 10.30pm but not without texting first to check it was ok to call.

[RicottaPancakes]

I think mobiles are more intrusive. I only give my mobile number to friends that I don't mind talking to when out and about, or that I can ask to phone later. I don't really want to talk to the doctor's, garage, Tesco's etc when I am out shopping or playing in the park! I much prefer to do those things when I am at home and it's quiet and no one else around.

[PumpkinSquash]

I actually don’t think that I know anyone under 70 with a landline. I can’t remeber the last time I called a landline other than for work.

40 here and have a landline. Only because the parents cannot get their heads around us not wanting a landline, so it's much less hassle and grief to keep it!
even though we don't have it plugged in half the time which causes arguments in itself. Call the mobile then!

[MsHarry]

46 with a landline. Don't know anyone without one, under 30s included.

[Sallystyle]

I have a landline because I need one for my internet.

Only dh's grandparents and mum ring us on it though. Oh and people selling shit.

[Stickerrocks]

Rainbow I don't know anyone who goes to bed that early either. Anyone I know with small children is pacing local supermarkets with them at that time, hoping they will go to sleep so they can start cooking/eating/hoovering/doing the work they've brought home with them!

[apoppetonastring]

Most people I know have a landline. Except a couple of people I know who are a bit dodgy with money/paying their bills, and the phone has been cut off. And my daughter who lives in a rented flat with her boyfriend, both have mobiles. No landline.

It can be hard to get her on her phone sometimes - even when I know she is in, as she leaves her phone in the bedroom and doesn't fecking hear it!!! If I need her, I end up messaging her boyfriend, or one of her 2 friends that are often at her flat, and saying 'ask DD to ring me please!'

Then again, if she had a landline and not a mobile, I would never be able to get her at ALL unless she was in the house. (Though I could leave a message I guess!)