Would you call a land line at 9.30pm?

[Tinkerbec]

Someone has just called my home for my mother who is out. Waking up my dd.

I think it is way too late. I know its a Saturday but really!AIBU?

I find land lines intrusive at the best of times.
Grrrr! Not happy.

[FreshHorizons]

Yes

[Tinkerbec]

What? Are you 95 years old?



I feel it sometimes. I don’t actually sleep until after 10.
I would not mind a friend calling. They would text me though.
I think I meant more of an aquantance to ask something. Like the vicar informing my Mother of what hymns he wanted that week.

I would not have a landline but my parents will not do without it.

I still think, unless friends, anything after 8 is disruptive.

Also it woke my dd just as she was going to sleep. So maybe the bad timing angered me even more. 😀

[EmmaGrundyForPM]

I don't tend to ring anyone after 9pm unless it's urgent.

We don't have mobile signal where we live so if you need to speak to me you'd have to phone our landline.

[Tinkerbec]

By intrusive...

I meant the obnoxious loud ringing noise filling my house. The mobile is permanently on silent or vibrate and I don’t have to jump up and run to make it stop.

[ButImNotOldYet]

@danTDM I was taught the same as you. It was just not the done thing but in my case to ring after 9pm. And in some ways I think we are losing a lot of ‘the done thing’ in society as a whole. Nothing to do with class, just part of being a considerate member of society. People think they have the right to contact who they want, whenever they want and that person should respond. Personally I wouldn’t ring a landline after 9pm unless I desperately needed to speak to the person and even then I would probably text first and check it was ok (not immediate family, I would just ring them and visa versa). I certainly don’t want to talk to people after 9pm, it’s part of the extremely precious and short amount of time dh and I get to ourselves each day.

[Tinkerbec]

Also my dd wike up when my parents came in at 11!

Some people are just light sleepers. She is definitely one. It’s a pain!

[meredintofpandiculation]

What? Are you 95 years old? I wouldn't call my 95 year-old DDad after 11.30pm, even though I know he's up and about until 1am or later.

[Xmasbaby11]

I'd phone a landline at 9.30pm. I wouldn't expect an adult to be in bed then! I wouldn't expect a ringing phone to wake a child. It would take a lot to wake mine once completely asleep at night, you'd have to physically wake them. But maybe my dc are heavy sleepers.

[VioletDaze]

I thought it was 'call with consideration after 9 pm, don't call after 10 pm except in emergency'. But I'm not sure what 'call with consideration' means. It's just something I was told.

I guess generally maybe only call good friend etc after 9 pm or if it's urgent/important?

[specialsubject]

Pointless calling mobiles as unless someone is carrying their brick around they won't hear it.

London based mn does amuse me ' we don't know anyone under 70 with a landline'. Outside the holy city there are a lot of poor coverage places. And if you want to pay a lot more for a phone, fine, but don't sneer at those who dont.

[KiaOraAura]

Sometimes I think my world is so different from other people's. I genuinely don't know anyone who would be offended by a phone call at 9.30. Or by receiving a call without prior arrangement. Or who has children and goes to bed at 9. Or most of all, would describe the ringing of a phone as obnoxious and filling their house. You can turn a landline down a bit you know, just like a mobile.

[elQuintoConyo]

My 6yo goes to bed at 9.

So for me personally, i'd say 10pm is late enough to call. Luckily DS sleeps like a log, so anyone calling at 9.01 wouldn't wake him.

But i'm not UK-based. DH gets calls at 11pm on his mobile.

[Lizzie48]

London based mn does amuse me ' we don't know anyone under 70 with a landline'. Outside the holy city there are a lot of poor coverage places. And if you want to pay a lot more for a phone, fine, but don't sneer at those who dont.

This, absolutely. We've been on holiday in a lot of places where there is practically no mobile contact possible at all. As I live in a big city myself, I find it very hard to get used to!! 😂

[Grilledaubergines]

Some friends up to midnight, others maybe 10.30. Parents are usually up until about 1.00am so up until then.

[excitedforxmas17]

9pm cut off for landline.

[daisychain01]

Lizzie I agree, there are a lot of sneery people on this thread, saying if you go to bed at a certain time it must make you x age (as if reaching a certain age is a crime, where's the respect?) and guffawing at the thought people possess a land line.

My village isn't in the middle of nowhere but the signal is awful because it's classed as a rural location, the geography is not conducive (hilly, trees everywhere, very few local masts) but hey lets concrete it all over and let's all be 25 years old because an older age makes you scrum and unworthy.

[Lizzie48]

And most people I know do have a landline, FYI, and the majority are not over 70!

What I find annoying is when people actually forget that they can contact my landline if I don't answer my mobile. They'll yell me, 'I tried to get hold of you but you didn't answer your phone.' They seem to forget that landlines exist anymore.

[Tinkerbec]

Sometimes I think my world is so different from other people's. I genuinely don't know anyone who would be offended by a phone call at 9.30. Or by receiving a call without prior arrangement. Or who has children and goes to bed at 9. Or most of all, would describe the ringing of a phone as obnoxious and filling their house. You can turn a landline down a bit you know, just like a mobile.


I am honestly not an alien. I promise.

I am probably more sensitive as I would not use a land line and didn’t have one in my own house. It is just for my Mother as she doesn’t really use a mobile.

I like to watch TV in bed and relax . Not necessarily sleeping. I don’t want to have to jolt up to answer the phone.

Usually my mam is in to get it herself. Just not last night.

Sales calls after 8 are also more annoying than they normally are if that’s possible.

[Tinkerbec]

After speaking to my Mam I have found out he actually called to ask for a cow bell for the nativity not for hymns.

So would you call someone at 9.30pm to ask if they had a cow bell?

[CasualCunt]

Some person twat was ringing my landline at 3 am the other day! It was a withheld number and stopped before I came down stairs. Couldnt sleep for worrying in case it was important

Am umpluggin the phone at bedtime now

[meredintofpandiculation]

I like to watch TV in bed and relax . Not necessarily sleeping. I don’t want to have to jolt up to answer the phone. It's not compulsory to have a handset in your bedroom. And they can usually be switched to silent, or even unplugged from the line.

So would you call someone at 9.30pm to ask if they had a cow bell? Yep. Remember he was calling your mother, not you. I don't call people in the morning because they're getting ready to go out, I don't call them in the day because they're at work, and not early evening because they've only got in and are cooking etc. Not much of a window left, especially if I'm organising something and have lots of calls to make.

[EmilyChambers79]

The only time it is acceptable to call a landline that late is to do the pre-agreed three rings to confirm home safely

And then the whole thing goes to pot when the phone is answered! My Dad used to tell me to give three rings when I got home, gave three rings, he'd answer and say he had to answer in case it was one of my siblings needing something! It then turned into a half hour conversation.

OP, unplug the landline at 8om if you don't want it ringing.

[EmilyChambers79]

After speaking to my Mam I have found out he actually called to ask for a cow bell for the nativity not for hymns

Did she have a cow bell? I don't know anyone who has one.

[Stickaforkinimdone]

@scaryteacher I also grew up with a landline before the dawn of the mobile; alas I am older than I’d like to think I am

Bemused by the number of posters making out that those of us without landlines must be wrong because otherwise ‘how do you get your internet’ 😆
Seriously, it’s 2017, you don’t need a landline to get internet!

[Tinkerbec]

Phone is in my mums room and the hall. So I got it in stereo.

I didn’t even think to unplug it as it isn’t normally an issue.

I will in future though.

He called back at 9.30am. Not even joking. I found this much more acceptable.