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We are a vegan house, meat eater friends over this evening. WIBU to cook a vegan menu?

379 replies

AddictedtoAIBU · 15/12/2017 13:49

Hi all, this is my first AIBU but I'm having a panic.
Non vegan mates over this eve, they always make every effort to accommodate us when we go there but this is their first visit to ours since we are vegan.
Shall I suck it up and cook a corpse or stick with a vegan menu? Would you be offended to eat vegan at a friends as a meat eater?
Thanks in advance if you reply. Could do with a few views...

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Trinity66 · 15/12/2017 15:07

Yeah If I was going for dinner at a vegans house I wouldn't be expecting meat. I doubt anyone would, meat eaters can eat vegan food aswell

Anatidae · 15/12/2017 15:07

Why are people objecting to "cook a corpse"? What do they think meat is?

Well it’s a bit of dead animal. Referring to it as a corpse makes the person sound like they are judging and superior. I wouldn’t come round making remarks about rabbit fodder, I dont expect to be mocked /judged or generally bored on over eating meat

twiney · 15/12/2017 15:07

So many illiterate people on here.
A corpse is a dead human body.
A carcass is a dead animal body.

OP you side-stepped the question regarding your copious wine comment: are you going to make sure they know to bring vegan wine or are you the type of vegan who suddenly doesnt have any principles anymore when it comes to alcohol?

isthismummy · 15/12/2017 15:08

Cook vegan op.

My DH and I are both vegetarian. There's no way I would cook meat for anyone coming to our house. It's bad enough feeding it to our dog and cat!

AddictedtoAIBU · 15/12/2017 15:09

Plan to cook the best feast ever is going well thus far. Aside of eating the nuts I bowled up ready...
For those worried about me boring my friends to death, I promise I won't. I won't mention the 'v' word and will put my carefully prepared propaganda back in the drawer since I now realise this doesn't come under the category of polite dinner table conversation 😁

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Autumnskiesarelovely · 15/12/2017 15:09

Oh of course not - please don’t feel like you have to cook meat!

I’d go for a mainstream option though, like pasta or curry.

Rubies12345 · 15/12/2017 15:11

Make vegetarian chili with tacos (beans and sweetcorn instead of mince)

AddictedtoAIBU · 15/12/2017 15:12

Twiney, all wine in my wine rack is vegan. As are the spirits (and even the dairy free Bailey's!) I always take alcohol very seriously 😁 If they bring non vegan wine, they are more than welcome to drink it but I'll stick with my own.

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LegallyBrunet · 15/12/2017 15:12

I'm vegetarian and whilst I would expect to be fed a vegan meal in a vegan household I do occasionally cook meat for my boyfriend when he comes over as he is coeliac and it can be difficult to find a meal that is both gluten free and veggie friendly without having to raid the 'Free From' section

jcsp · 15/12/2017 15:12

I'm vegan, my wife is, 2 out of 3 adult children are. (One is nearly there)

All (extended) family+ friends coming over this weekend for Christmas/birthday celebrations.

Were all eating and drinking vegan. If MIL is staying over we do make a concession with a bottle of cows milk - but that's it.

They all understand and (seem) to accept it. Friends do us vegan dishes when we see them.

We've never had grief from anyone.

Its not a recent thing for us, 30years vegetarian, 2 vegan.

Don't do dead stuff for them. Stick to your principles. Most meat eaters quite like something different.

twiney · 15/12/2017 15:12

@isthismummy
You realise by having a carnivorous pet you're actually supporting the bottom dregs of the meat industry? In other words bolstering the very worst meat production methods, to a much greater extent than if you were eating ethical meat yourself?

NotWeavingButDarning · 15/12/2017 15:16

Of course cook vegan. I'm a recovered vegetarian but I'd be disappointed to come to your house and eat non-vegan food.

AddictedtoAIBU · 15/12/2017 15:17

Thanks jcsp, going to go with it. I will be buying milk as one maybe driving and soya milk is an acquired taste. It took some getting used to for us so I won't impose that on her.
Twiney, I have two dogs (omnivores) which I've had for years. They are both rescue dogs and fairly old. I don't think rehoming them is an option as they are part of the crew. It's about doing what you can or feel comfortable with I think.

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Lethaldrizzle · 15/12/2017 15:17

Twiney- The dictionary definition of corpse is 'dead body, usually human'. So the ops use of the word was still correct

ColonelJackONeil · 15/12/2017 15:18

There's loads of yummy vegan dishes meat eaters will also enjoy so they will be fine. As a vegan it would really be going against your principles to buy meat or animal products even if you don't eat them. So I definitely wouldn't.

pontiouspilates · 15/12/2017 15:19

Meat eaters don't always have to eat meat! I'd happily eat a vegan meal - and quite often do. One meat free meal won't hurt your guests! Have a great evening

RoseWhiteTips · 15/12/2017 15:19

Cook vegan. They won’t expect you to abandon your excellent principles.Xmas Smile

PricillaQueenOfTheDesert · 15/12/2017 15:19

If I went to a vegans house I would not expect them to cook meat for me. What I do find offensive is you referring to meat as “cook a corpse”
I dined at a vegan restaurant this week, I didn’t burst through the doors declaring “get out of my way hippies, I’m here for my lentils”

Genuinely surprised you have any friends let alone meat eaters with your attitude.

gingerclementine · 15/12/2017 15:21

We had dinner with vegan friends who made a Jamaican style curry with plantains and coconut. It was divine. Just make the best food that is naturally vegan. Ottolenghi has recipes that I'd choose over meat any day and I'm not veggie.

FML2017 · 15/12/2017 15:22

I'd expect a vegan menu x

AddictedtoAIBU · 15/12/2017 15:24

Priscilla, I know you didn't intend that to be funny but I laughed very hard. I would also have laughed if I was sitting in a vegan restaurant and you did that. I think I just have a warped sense of humour but I have realised my mistake and apologised for it. That still stands.

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Jux · 15/12/2017 15:24

I’d be interested. Just as I’d be interested to eat anywhere that has a different cuisine.

Frokni · 15/12/2017 15:25

Agree with posters on here. Your meat eating pals will be fine for one night. I know my DH would struggle with a vegan meal as he is mighty fussy about food but as long as your house guests have normal taste in food and enjoy a variety it will be fine.

Abra1d · 15/12/2017 15:28

You can talk about cooked corpses if I can talk about food miles on vegan essentials we can’t grow in the UK and water being excessively given over to almond growing. 🙂

pepperminttaste · 15/12/2017 15:29

I liked the corpse comment too. Made me chuckle! (I'm a meat eater).

Do update with your menu please!

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