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Original poster

We are a vegan house, meat eater friends over this evening. WIBU to cook a vegan menu?

379 replies

AddictedtoAIBU · 15/12/2017 13:49

Hi all, this is my first AIBU but I'm having a panic.
Non vegan mates over this eve, they always make every effort to accommodate us when we go there but this is their first visit to ours since we are vegan.
Shall I suck it up and cook a corpse or stick with a vegan menu? Would you be offended to eat vegan at a friends as a meat eater?
Thanks in advance if you reply. Could do with a few views...

OP posts:
shhhfastasleep · 15/12/2017 14:18

Glad you apologised. I would reject your invitation if I knew you talked about meat eaters like that.
Cook vegan. Have a lovely time.

polkadotpixie · 15/12/2017 14:18

Cook Vegan!

I'm Vegetarian not Vegan but if people come to our house they get Veggie food. The only meat that enters my house is dog food

Most people are fine with it, you get the odd person who moans (ie my Dad) but if they can't survive one meal without dead animal on their plate then they're obviously not that bothered about spending an evening with me so I'm afraid it's like it or lump it in my house 😂

Willow2017 · 15/12/2017 14:19

Was going to say i would love a proper vegan meal at someone's house to see how to cook one properly. Then you go and spoil it by saying Thai green curry😕 i couldnt eat that even with meat/fish.

If thats what your friends like then it will be a good night all round. I would never expect a vegan to cook meat for me.

P.S. Whats for pud?

Jaxhog · 15/12/2017 14:20

Cook your best vegan meal. It'll be fine.

glitterbiscuits · 15/12/2017 14:22

Vegan meal!

Show off all your skills!

Original poster
AddictedtoAIBU · 15/12/2017 14:22

Thanks Chrys will check it out now 😁
I totally see why I'm getting a bit of stick, my wording was bad (and to be honest some have made me belly laugh with sarcastic replies) But thanks for being overall really helpful and putting my mind at ease.
I asked the question because I care about my mates and don't want to be 'that vegan'. I don't want to lecture them or anyone about what they eat. Now to make my house look less like I've sat on my butt all day.....

OP posts:
mindutopia · 15/12/2017 14:23

Your house, your food choices. I think most reasonable human beings can cope with a vegan meal for a night. If not, you can always offer to go out somewhere, but I think it would be rude of them to be too picky. I know me personally it would make me uncomfortable that someone cooked meat for me when they could have just made what they would usually eat.

whatdoidoaboutds · 15/12/2017 14:23

If they make the effort for you, and are aware of your principles I'm fairly sure they'd expect a vegan meal but if you're not sure, why not just ask them???

LaPompadour · 15/12/2017 14:24

You might want to research the difference between carnivores and omnivores Hmm

Of course cook vegan. No need to "cook a corpse". Would you find it more civilised if people like me were eating or cooking their meat still alive? Most of my food is already dead, how is that such a bad thing Grin

scatterbrainedlass · 15/12/2017 14:26

If they are friends and know you are vegan then they are probably expecting a vegan meal. I would in those circumstances and I wouldn't be bothered by it assuming I was aware beforehand. I'm a meat eater.

Original poster
AddictedtoAIBU · 15/12/2017 14:28

I'm inspired ladies, I'm going to do a proper vegan feast. The Thai curry is going away for a mid week dinner. I will update you all with pictures (should it go to plan!)
Willow- dessert is still a w.i.p
This is a fairly last minute plan (I've known for a week 🙄) so I now have under three hours to create my masterpiece!

OP posts:
BatShite · 15/12/2017 14:29

Surely they will be expecting a vegan meal anyway, knowing you are a vegan household?!

Lethaldrizzle · 15/12/2017 14:32

It's kinda ironic how sensitive some of the meat eaters are on this thread given they eat dead animals! I eat meat and am not remotely offended by the corpse comment. It was merely factual imo

RestingGrinchFace · 15/12/2017 14:32

I wouldn't expect a vegan/celiac/whatever dietary requirement to cook me a separate meal when I could easily eat what they have prepared for themselves. I would also be absolutely horrified at being served a corpse! I know you vegans don't like animal products but canibilism is going a bit far when you could just cook some lentils instead.

Seniorcitizen1 · 15/12/2017 14:32

If I had gone to the trouble of making you a meal to conform with your eating preferences I would expect you to return the favour. If you served me vegan food I would not come again to you for food - but we could still be friends

applesareredandgreen · 15/12/2017 14:32

Looking forward to seeing your menu with pictures. I'll await my invitation!!

Clandestino · 15/12/2017 14:32

Shall I suck it up and cook a corpse or stick with a vegan menu?

Wow. And the vegans wonder why they are the butt of all jokes.
If I visited a vegan family, I'd fully expect to be served a vegan meal. I'd be actually hoping to try something new and interesting.

ptumbi · 15/12/2017 14:34

I'd love a vegan meal!

But I know people (DM!) who turn their noses up at 'vegetarian' food - like she's never had a tomato-cheese-basil pizza, or a veg soup, or a mushrooom risotto!

I do a great pumpkin curry, and would love a thai green curry Grin

FoofFighter · 15/12/2017 14:34

I'd totally expect a vegan meal.

I would not however like any attempts to convert me or call my usual food a corpse.

Live and let live

MissWilmottsGhost · 15/12/2017 14:35

No of course YANBU to cook a vegan meal, and I say that as an omnivore.

However, YWBVU to spend the whole meal going on about your lack of a "corpse" or preach on about other vegan propaganda. It's your choice, not theirs, to be vegan.

I presume if you are inviting them for a meal it is because they are your friends, not because you wish to convert them?

ptumbi · 15/12/2017 14:36

I would also be absolutely horrified at being served a corpse! - assuming you are not tucking into a big Turkey roast at christmas?? Roast chicken on sundays? Nice fried trout?

A corpse is a dead body - not just a human dead body

BarbaraofSevillle · 15/12/2017 14:36

Was going to say i would love a proper vegan meal at someone's house to see how to cook one properly. Then you go and spoil it by saying Thai green curry

What do you think 'a proper vegan meal' is if Thai green vegetable curry doesn't count?

Does indian vegetable and pulse curries, rice, breads, samosas, bhajis count?
Falafels, hummus, pittas and salads?
Tapasy stuff - patatas bravas, spinach and chick pea curry, vegetable paella, tomato bread?

Or is none of that vegan enough for you either? Confused

If fewer people had the attitude that vegans eat unrecognisable weird food, vegans like the OP might get less anxious about cooking for friends who are not vegan. And others might be more accomodating about being offered vegan food.

Most of the answers on this thread have been surprising. There's usually a significant minority who say that they don't like vegan food and would never eat it.

Frederickvonhefferneffer · 15/12/2017 14:37

A vegan meal can be eaten by a meat eater, a meat meal cannot be eaten by a vegan. Yanbu. I would absolutely expect to eat vegan at your house

JacquesHammer · 15/12/2017 14:38

I chortled at the "cook a corpse". I'm most definitely a meat-eater. I'm under no illusions as to what it is Grin

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