Aibu for calling her a racist?

[spiritofadventure]

Went out for a few pre christmas drinks with a group of close friends on Saturday night. Nobody was drunk and we had been out for maybe 1 hour when somehow, the conversation turned into a discussion about Trump.

One of my friends came out with 'Trump is going to change the world for the better' and then proceeded to have a good old rant about how 'blacks and mexicans' are responsible for 'all' the crime in America. I asked her what she was basing this on , to which she replied 'people should just stick to their own people and stay in their own countries'.

This comment left me open mouthed and furious! I am mixed race and 2 other friends in the group are from another European country.

I told her that I had no idea she had such controversial opinions and that i didn't want to carry on a conversation with a racist. And then I left.

We haven't spoken since, but I have spoken to other members of the group and have been told that she is 'deeply hurt' that I called her a racist and she wants an apology.

I stand by what I said and i don't want to apologise.

Aibu??

please don't let @hjgguygi8y86 derail the post. S/he is being a GF and deliberately trying to press people's buttons

Or just offering a different point of view perhaps?

FWIW I'm another who thinks that what was said, in the way and context it was said, was almost certainly racist. But I hope I'm not so closed minded that I can't consider a well argued, alternative opinion, instead of just hurling insults

I kind of like hjgguy's post. it was fair for her to lay out a counter-perspective. I don't agree with any of it! But it's good to see the counter-arguments detailed.
For me, what hjgguy said is clearly refutable. Not convincing or substantiated. So yanbu to OP.

It's possible OP's mate was having a bit of laugh & trying to wind OP up. I really wish so.

But I hope I'm not so closed minded that I can't consider a well argued, alternative opinion,
If that had been produced maybe a discussion could have occurred, but we didn't get that, did we.

She sounds like an idiot. You are better off without her.

Gilead naturally we're all different, but considering the title thread I thought an "alternative opinion" is exactly what we got. As a slight aside, I especially like the way hjgg clearly addressed each point in turn instead of posting something more generalised

That doesn't mean I agree with all of it of course, but I did think there were some interesting points in there ... and after all, isn't that what a discussion's supposed to be about, rather than simply sniping at each other?

Good for you. No need to apologise. I’d do what others have suggested and reply to your friend that she is welcome to apologise to you whenever.