OH told me he fancies someone else...

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Kind of lighthearted but I'm still a bit When me and OH have discussed our celebrity crushes in the past he has never said anyone. Obviously I know there are people he must find attractive but he's always joked and said 'No one. I've got you- your better than any celebrity.' We've always had a bit of a laugh about it. Yesterday I asked if if he likes Rita Ora's new song and he said ' yeah. I like more than her song.' And said he fancied her. I sound so stupid but I feel a bit weird about it. He's never said anything about other woman's looks before and I feel a bit shit about it. It's probably not helped that we are having a rocky patch at the moment and it just felt like he was trying to upset me on purpose. Help me get a grip!!

Oh I thought you meant a real person. Don’t give it another thought.

Do you fancy any male celebrities? Unless Rita Ora is part of your pub quiz team you should forget about this.

Goodness I thought you meant a person!

Rita ora wouldn't be interested in what is probably a frumpy middle aged bloke anyway

Are you worried about him liking Rita Ora?!?!

Honestly...

It's a celebrity, I wouldn't give it another thought, honestly.

Not that celebrities aren't people of course, just an actual person your Dh actually knows!

My son told his dad Tom Hardy was my favourite man . I could not deny it! DP fancies the tall Russian dancer on Strictly.

So, you say you have discussed celebrity crushes in the past but 'he has never said anyone'. So presumably you did say you fancied some celebrities so otherwise it wouldn't be much of a discussion.

Bearing that in mind, it sounds like you have told him multiple times in the past about celebrities you fancy. And now you don't like it when the shoe is on the other foot.

So yes, get a massive grip. And I doubt Rita Ora is patiently waiting for your boyfriend to come into her life so she can jump on him. So you really have nothing to worry about.

Luckily she isn't someone we are likely to bump into anytime soon It's not really the 'celebrity crush' that's the issue it's how it's come about whilst we are having a shit time and he's never said anything before about finding anyone else attracting. I have many celebrity crushes

Dp has a thing for Kylie and I joke I would run off with Colin Farrell given half a chance. All nonsense and fun. Not real.

Me and my DH talk about people we fancy all the time. Real life people not just celebrities.

Getting married or having a partner doesn't suddenly mean you lose all appreciation of the opposite (or the same) sex.

It baffles me a bit how people can be insecure about celebrities. I can understand people they work with or friends etc but celebrities?

Make him write a list like Ross in friends and then take him to a concert

Oh dear. It looks like you really did believe he only found you attractive and that would be quite abnormal. I think, if this is real, which I hope it’s not, then uou have some significant self esteem issues.

I also thought it would be someone he actually knew.

I know it's sounds really silly. Yes I've told him about famous people I find attractive before and when he's said 'Nobody' in the past I've always laughed along with him as obviously there must be some one at least.

I am going to marry Colin firth - my Dp understands

@NotSureThisIsWhatIWant No lot at all worried about it. Just the fact he hasn't said anyone before.

Luckily she isn't someone we are likely to bump into anytime soon

Yeah, that’s lucky. She’d be all over him clearly if she did meet him.

But you have your own celebrity crushes. Why is it one rule for you and another for him, plus it's Rita Ora. It's not Kate from next door, is it.

@Bluntness100 Yes I do I have self esteem issues. Of course I don't believe that he is only attracted to me. I think before he has tried to 'spare my feelings' but for him to say it kind of shocked me.

Are you 12? Why would this even matter or be a point of conversation?

My husband would definitely consider trading me in for Helen Skelton if he got the chance and i would definitely consider trading him in for Philip Glenister but only if he was dressed in Gene Hunt mode.

To make it a bit clearer we have many issues in our relationship. I don't think I want to be with him anymore and it's been this way for over a year. Although it sounds silly it's just another little thing that makes me realise the dynamic of our relationship has changed. In the past he's always said that he wouldn't tell me if he did have a celebrity crush (he gets in a tiz if someone I like comes on the tele!) He always thinks I've been disrespectful in the past if I've commented on someone being handsome or attractive (I realise it's not disrespectful and is perfectly normal)

This is why he always said 'no one' before! You really need to get a grip. He sounds like he really cares about you, but you need to work on your self esteem before you drive a wedge between you over a throw away comment about an attractive celebrity

@Blackteadrinker77 It doesn't matter as such. I know it's perfectly normal to find others attractive. I was just a bit that he chose to say it now whilst we are going through a rough patch and never before.

@ninjapants This little comment is nothing in the grand scheme of things. Our whole relationship isn't normal.

My husband has been in love with Tina Turner for more than 30 years. I’m not worried. He probably likes the odd woman here and there, but is generally too polite to mention it, which is normal and appropriate. Rita Ora came up in your conversation and your DH made a throwaway comment. Chill.