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Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

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Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 20:12

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything Smile
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked Shock
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T Gin

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

OP posts:
MaggieFS · 11/12/2017 22:21

Well done OP for being calm and sensible through the whole awful (and ridiculous) thing.

Why would the thread need zapping?

Hissy · 11/12/2017 22:21

... and the cheeky fucker surfaces?

Or could she actually string a sentence together?

StrangeLookingParasite · 11/12/2017 22:21

Oooh, I do believe she's here.
If you weren't such a lazy slack bugger, none of this would have happened.

ferntwist · 11/12/2017 22:21

Fantastic! Love the fact the police rocked up during her bridge club and that she tried to lie but got called out immediately as told her they’ve got the CCTV.
Well done OP. Sweet justice.

ArchchancellorsHat · 11/12/2017 22:22

Mommy - you must be the CF in question?

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 11/12/2017 22:22

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Pearlsaringer · 11/12/2017 22:22

I think Mommy has had too much caffeine Wink

WhatCanIDoNowPlease · 11/12/2017 22:24

She left her job because u instigated a meeting with personal that led to her been outed

No, she left because she was not working the correct number of hours. She was a cheat.

Willswife · 11/12/2017 22:24

Great update! Now if only the local newspaper ran the story...

I personally would issue her a money claim on line (small claims court) for the cost of a replacement handbag. It's very easy to do and she absolutely should pay for the damage she has done. You simply can't go around behaving like that.

StaplesCorner · 11/12/2017 22:27

Just watching the thread for a while whilst Mommy attempts to string another sentence together ....

Fishfingersandwichnocheese · 11/12/2017 22:27

Oh please be her.

PieAndPumpkins · 11/12/2017 22:27

Read both threats and gobsmacked people can lack so much self awareness. Shocking.
It sounds like you've suggested she might be on some kind of professional register along the lines of health visitor, social worker. Honestly I hope there is a long term consequence for her. She is totally and utterly unfit to work as a professional with vulnerable people. I thought people were very harsh to you previously. You were right to involve Personnel and you wouldn't have been wrong to have reported it quietly and directly to your manager. If your manager tries to reprimand you for not forwarding the emails, I think you can be justified in defending your position. She wasn't even an employer there anymore, I don't see how you had any obligation to report back to her ex employer.
Hilarious her entire bridge club know she had a little police visit. Hilarious and serves her bloody right Grin

JustAnIdiot · 11/12/2017 22:28

Bridge Club - hahaha - now she won't be able put on so many airs & graces

Xmas Grin
thatduck · 11/12/2017 22:28

Please please mommy be FTCF, I've followed the whole saga

SuperSue77 · 11/12/2017 22:29

Wow About, I've just read both threads and am astonished! But I think you have played the whole thing superbly the whole way through. Although FTCF wound you up and demoralised you and other colleagues, you were fair the whole way through, asking Personnel to do a session on flexi time was the perfect opportunity for her to see the error of her ways, start behaving correctly and I doubt there would have been any negative consequences for her. But she chose to fight it and brought everything on herself. Of course you couldn't give her a reference but I don't think you have anything to worry about not having told work earlier about it. From my perspective, I can see why you didn't say anything. You refused to do the reference and you knew that prospective employers contact HR departments to corroborate references so "telling" on her could be seen as bitchiness and you didn't want to be that person. You were also fairly traumatised about the whole situation with her, having worked around her taking the piss for the past 4 years and you wanted to keep out of it. I don't blame you for that and I hope your boss sees it the same way as you don't deserve to get any grief for your actions in this whole affair. I work in Local Government and understand how that type of behaviour from a colleague is not on so I feel you did the right thing and chose a clever way to go about it without being unfair on her. All the best for tomorrow and glad your handbag has recovered!

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 11/12/2017 22:30

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BlackeyedPetitsPois · 11/12/2017 22:30

Karma. Hope she's got the message!

Mommyto2gorgeousgirls · 11/12/2017 22:31

My sentace was perfectly fine thanks 🙄All bully's stick together I see

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Abouttoblow · 11/12/2017 22:31

I thought the call from the police was the highlight of my day then Mommy comes along! Grin

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mrswarthog · 11/12/2017 22:32

Sentence
Bullies
#FTCF

SadTrombone · 11/12/2017 22:33

Gotta be a troll / wind-up if you misspell "sentace" in a post defending your SPAG... surely.

ChanandlerBongsNeighbour · 11/12/2017 22:33
Grin
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Traffig · 11/12/2017 22:34

Great result OP!
I do love a good bit of karma and this was it! Fab when the police turn out for the decent folks.
Loving the Bridge club.

Talking of which- one of them there bridge dwellers seems to have surfaced Grin
Spluttering away like a coffee percolator.

Jux · 11/12/2017 22:34

Mommy, you were stealing from your employers and fraudulently taking your salary as if you were working the contracted hours when actually you were running about doing your own business and not theirs. Of course you would have been disciplined at the least but with your attitude they'd have been better off sacking you; the only honest thing you did was run away before you were pushed. Then you tried to involve an ex-colleague in your dishonesty and fraud; as she has refused to collude with you, you have lied to your mum and encouraged her to take an action against the OP entirely erroneously (and very stupidly) which could have left her in serious trouble. No doubt your mother pretended that OP attacked her and that prompted your threatening text. Neither you nor your mother have anything at all to be proud of. You are both cowardly dishonest nasty characters.