Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

[Abouttoblow]

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

*chances, not dances

Sorry about that

Police just called. They have spoken to her!

Don't know all the details but she said she accidentally spilled her coffee until they mentioned the CCTV. She has been instructed not to contact me by any means or approach me in person.
Oh, and she was hosting her bridge club when they went round

Lol. Good result :). Hope this is starting to make you feel a bit better.

Best update ever! Would only be made better if one of the bridge pairs were the Vicar and his wife!!
Well done OP!

Excellent result.

I hope you don't bump into anyone from the bridge club in a cafe alone! What if they are all batshit crazy too? Batshit Bridge Club. Gang warfare in a National Trust tea room. Wear a GoPro at all times now she knows to avoid CCTV.

Excellent result! Hope she is mortified and excluded from all local bridgey stuff henceforth! And denounced from the pulpit!

I cannot believe what I've just read (both threads).
Props to you op you have handled this like an absolute legend. I'd have lost my shit if someone poured their manky coffee into my bag (which would have obviously not helped my cause) you've played a blinder!

Karma has bitten her in the arse, firstly because she got found out for being lazy and entitled on company time, then because she couldn't get a reference and lastly because her mother's hideous behaviour was caught on cctv.

She does sound unstable, you were 100% right to inform police so that it's on record. Doubt they will retaliate further now that police are involved but do be careful. She may have nothing more to lose.

Yes! Karma has well and truly bitten her on her backside!

I am feeling better about it today Rarely although concerned about what's going to happen at work. I feel that they are unhappy with me not mentioning the reference request straight away.

But ........ the vision of the bridge club's collective jaws dropping is making me feel slightly better

Bridge Club???

Seriously?

You have patience I couldn't muster.

Hopefully, between the police and your place of work, that's the pair of them sorted.

Fingers crossed.

OMG just seen the update. That is fabulous!! Karma all the way

I love that she was hosting her bridge club. Wonderful timing.

With regards to work not being happy you hadn't mentioned the reference thing, you wouldn't go running with every little tale. She asked, you refused, end of story as far as you were concerned. No real need to go further with it. Until now, when she is clearly likely to try and escalate things onto someone else. It didn't seem unreasonable to me not to say anything.

Honestly you need to go to the police or get in touch with your solicitor I had problems with my husband ex family I was harrased when I was out they came to my house threatened to kill me , they came again an I spoke to my solicitor she wrote a letter stating that the police had been informed however if it happens again she would be going to court to seek a think it was a non molastation order and would be asking the judge to order them to pay the court costs I never heard a peep after that was 3 years ago , I have learnt that the best thing was to do it by the book and bullies will push an push if they think you won't stand up for your self good luck

^ Don't know all the details but she said she accidentally spilled her coffee until they mentioned the CCTV.^

That just says it all really. She'll put whatever spin on it for it to suit her narrative.

OP, I wouldn't worry too much about your employer not being happy with you. You thought you'd handled it appropriately by declining politely. I wouldn't have known that a request for a reference from an ex member of staff had to be sent to HR.

So sorry 😐 didn't read the bit wear you contacted police just wrote quick as I was worried for you !

I feel that they are unhappy with me not mentioning the reference request straight away.

I understand why you didn't though - what was there to tell? She asked, you refused. I have been asked to do this before (and refused) and it never occurred to me to report it to my managers. I offered a character reference, but that wasn't what the person wanted. Like you, they had told their prospective employer that I had a title which I didn't have to make me sound more senior than I was. I don't see why you would have thought it important enough to report - but now this has happened, you have reported it.

I'm extra impressed by your not shrieking at mum of ftcf when she tipped coffee in your bag. I'm not sure i would be able to stop myself from shrieking 'you fucking arsehole!'. I am not couth.

@kaitlinktm put that so much more eloquently than I did could. But that's what I was getting at.

Oh, and she was hosting her bridge club when they went round

That is the best thing I have read all night!

Mommy - are you the CF?

OP - I think this thread needs zapping ASAP

Good one Mommy

@Mommyto2gorgeousgirls - are you reading the same thread as us. If so you have a very odd way of interpreting things