Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

[Abouttoblow]

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

Holy shit! I remember the original thread but nothing could have prepared me for the batshit behaviour of FTCF's mum when I opened this thread!

I'm glad you've reported it, OP. They both sound utterly unhinged!

OP you have definitely done the right thing at every point. I can only hope that the police visit knocks some sense into this pair.

I’m actually still in shock after reading both threads, so I can’t imagine how you are feeling having lived through it all. I thought I had a CF at work but now she seems like a great worker in comparison.

Well done on your professionalism through out the whole situation! You’re an inspiration to everyone dealing with a CF! 😀

I hope your DH is still keeping you well supplied with gin for all your troubles and that they leave you in peace for the future.

Report!!

I would report her to the police. Take your bag and show them. They might visit - hopefully if they have enough staff! - and this would give her a shock - people can't just do these things and expect to get away with it. Also get this incident documented at work; it might well be necessary if daughter starts anything else like wrongful dismissal claims or employment tribunal hearings.

I’d report it if ctv caught the incident. I’d do it just to get her a warning

Cancel the cheque!

OP, hope you are feeling a bit better today. You have done absolutely nothing wrong. I'm sorry you had to have idiots like this in your life.

Poor you . I think you probably need to log this with HR at work in case more follows.

How brave of her to wait until your husband left.

I wonder if they read Mumsnet ?

Cash the cheque OP

I would report to police in case this isn't the only incident. Also as involving work situation would report to employer also to safeguard you should there be repercussions later on. Woman is a nutcase.

Or even cancel the cheque

How did today go OP? Did personnel come and talk to you about it? Have you hbeen are anything from the police after their visit yesterday?

Well done, OP, for reporting. Batshittery like this shouldn't go unregarded. (I bet you aren't the first that has had to weather this awful pair.)

"Actions have consequences."

Well YES, they bloody should. CF's (also CF) mother's actions should have consequences.

lt is technically criminal damage, and at a push, threatening behaviour. l'd report it. a

Have a large g@t let karma sort it out buy a personal alarm and don't let her come within arms distance of you again

I hope you hear back from the police today so you can start to put this horrible incident behind you and not be full of the stress these two awful women have heaped on you.

It is definitely criminal damage and if anything further were to happen it could amount to harassment. You did the right thing in reporting it and I would keep e mails and any records etc.

Hopefully a visit from the police will cause sanity to prevail. What a horrible thing to happen OP, I really hope that’s the end of it.

Used to work with a FTCG myself - she told me she’d like to leave at 3 every Friday but wanyes me to sign her records as finishing at 5. Totally unreasonable of me to refuse apparently.

Sorry, what is a CF?

Cheeky fucker Dagenham

Check if they have CCTV.

Sorry, just realised you have it on CCTV. Can anyone send a link to the original post?

Hope you ok.

Ah thanks, I did wonder! Mumsnet has its own rather arcane language.

Any update this evening Abouttoblow? I would not be surprised if FTCF turns up at your work/ waits for you outside of work. She is going to freak when she finds out you contacted the police. I am glad your boss knows what is going on! He should have that email! She was coercing you into giving her a reference and lying on her behalf! That is fraud! Hopefully, she will retrain, as she quite simply should not be in a role of responsibility, especially is she regularly comes in contact with vulnerable service users!