Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

[Abouttoblow]

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

Ptumbi Police can get it from my workplace tomorrow if need be. I just wondered if they had ways of tracking people down without having an address.
Dances I really don't know. I didn't respond to the text. Could be anything I suppose.

Op I think you should text her back and say "hi ftcf hope your well, what are you talking about?? I'm in the Maldives!"
Then they can panic over which poor unsuspecting woman had had coffee poured in to her handbag (until the police get there).

The police have lots of ways of finding people's addresses. They will defo find them so don't worry.

That's genius fishface

Fishface That's the first thing that's made me smile today.
Thank you

I'd have been tempted to say I didn't know her address but that I knew she volunteered regularly at the church so they would find her at the 10 o'clock service or the vicar should know her address [wicked face smiley]

Change the Maldives to Maui, just for MN amusement

In all seriousness, don't respond. Let the police do the talking. You just stick to

Did the police give you any indication of what to do if ftcf and her mother contact you again? I'm just thinking ahead for you in case she texts you again after the police have spoken to her?

OP, have you washed your bag yet?

Wow you can see where the daughter gets her crazy from!

Fgs, I can't believe the front of some people! The woman got her just desserts for her piss taking and now her mum has poured coffee in your handbag. I'm really glad your DH has reported them to the police, it could well escalate to one of them actually hurting you.

Alpaca We didn't discuss that at all. I was focused on them speaking to her. Maybe they'll advise when they tell me they've spoken to her?
TheOther Sorry, yes! Ran it through a 30 degree wash and it's fine. Haven't told DH though Might go for an LV for the emotional upset (kidding obviously)

@Abouttoblow I've caught up on both of your threads in the last two days and I'm honestly gob smacked 😳

I'm going through some stuff at work at the moment (not really along the same lines but still because of other people's behaviour) and the mind really does boggle as to how anyone can act like they're above everyone else in this manner!

Like so many here I've read both your threads tonight with open mouthed horror!

Firstly at the utter gall and entitlement of the FTCF, then at the absurd mumsnetters who were hell bent on labelling you as jealous (i mean - really?!?!) and finally this!

Please don't feel like reporting to the police was an over reaction or under play to yourself what a horrible shock yesterday was. I would have been distraught. Keep reminding yourself that you've done absolutely nothing wrong, and try and forget the fuckers. And definitely get an awesome new handbag!

Gobsmacked reading this and the first post. The nerve of them both! The mum is crazy and the daughter is just deluded with zero work ethic. If she didn't wanna commit she should have stayed home. I'd have rather stayed home full time than taken the piss at work! What a complete dick.
I just hope the Police let you know how it all went down aftwr thwy soeak to those batshit crazy tits.
I'd also keep an eye on fb too. They just reek of being those kind of women who will post shit on there for attention on how much they have been wronged. Ducks.
Your hubby is awesome btw.

Dicks* not ducks lol

i hope the police strongly suggest that they replace your handbag, i mean that might go a long way to convincing you not to sue her for criminal damage, which really wouldn't look good at church or the charities, and really she should have no issue with that as they did remind you actions have consequences

Not a handbag but a tale of why things that seem minor end up not being
I was driving home late at night, long story short a man punched my car. I rang the police (after dithering between 101 and 999). Police were there within 10 minutes while I drove slowly to keep the guy running after my car so he didn't disappear! You think, oh a punch is nothing to a car. Gave a witness statement at the station straight after (incident at about 00.45, was giving statement at 02.30)

The punch turned out to have dented the A frame bit above the window. £970 worth of damage. And as it was on a free insurance (car was a month old), they don't protect your no claims so I lost all that. And had to pay the excess as he was a pedestrian so no insurance to claim off

If I told anyone someone punched my car and caused that much damage and the police were there in ten minutes, they would have been at me! But reality is sometimes bloody strange

Thank you for refusing he reference - no other organisation wants to accidentally end up with her either!

Tbf we've all worked with someone like this - got one at the moment - but not to her scale of entitlement!

I have been thinking that you are probably lucky that this woman didn't throw hot coffee into your face. It's been known to happen - this behaviour is becoming more and more common, isn't it? It's almost like they've let every guest of Jerry Springer out into the world to breed.

If they contact you again in any manner even before the police visit, just get it added to the report.

I hope they don't bother you again though.

Ooh bunbunny you evil genius, you!!

Have just read your original thread OP.
I would definitely be asking for a meeting with work and letting them nonevery single detail and why the police will be asking for information. Chances are they will want a heads up before she starts up with fake claims against work

ByeByePrivacy good point about work being prepared against future claim. They also have it in their power to search her IT records, emails sent etc. She could be in some really deep shit.

It's taken me a while to get through both threads.

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