Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

[Abouttoblow]

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

I didn't go shopping for a new bag. To be honest I've been on a bit of a downer today about it all.
Think maybe adrenaline or gin kept me going last night.
I know it's only a bloody bag but it's not even that. It was just such a shitty thing to happen, especially coming from a church going, charity organising, lady that lunches.

How did it go with the Police at teatime?

Oh OP, coming into contact with complete craziness is enough to get anyone down. Some people lack any ability to self evaluate; problems they encounter are always someone else's fault.

The mother is crazy and clearly the acorn didn't fall far from the tree. I hope you receive some resolution soon and FTCF gets a rude awakening.

I totally get why you feel down, such a shitty thing to have happen to you!

It’s not about the bag, it’s about the intimidation and aggression. You’re understandably shaken up by it.
Take care of yourself op, a little r&r to ease the anxiety x

Sorry you’re feeling low. Not surprised! Well done for reporting - Family are clearly delusional or the daughter hasn’t been entirely honest with her mother about what happened...

I have been following these threads and I am so sorry that this has happened to you. Hopefully once the Police have been and gone it will make you feel a little better.

I am not excusing the mother's behaviour in any shape or form but I do wonder what the daughter told her and she acted on wrong information but as I said that does not excuse her bad behaviour.

They both sound like fucking nasty pieces of work.

I really think you should take this as far as you can; what happens if you see her again? What happens if she hurts you?

I bet her vicar would be interested to hear what a nasty piece of work she is.

Two very nice PCSO 's(?) have just been round. Side note: I must be getting old as they both looked about 14
Went through what happened and asked if they could just speak to her and give her some kind of warning not to speak to or contact me again. They appeared to agree that was the way to go and didn't discuss formal charges or anything like that. I'm happy with this approach.
I know both of them appear crazy (which they are in this situation) but are very active in their communities - charities, church, etc so I do think a visit from the police will be enough of an embarrassment.
Don't know either address so not sure how they will find her and I didn't ask. Do police have the ability to track people down with little info?
Anyway, they said they would just give me a call when they've spoken to her.
Large on the cards again.

Vile people Op. Make sure you dont back down.

Its a really quite frightening thing to happen. I think if it happened to me id probably cry right there and then or something. im terrible at confrontation. Thats why I really think you did the right thing going to the police and it was brave to. People just cant go around doing aggressive things like that and it IS illegal.
I know someone who got charged with assault for pouring a can of drink over someone. The police do take it seriously and in your case its even worse because its harassment not just a one off incident. Coupled with the texts and email I think the police will certainly atke it seriously. They should deliver them a harassment warning.

I'd personally hope she IS charged.. this is an appalling way to behave.. a disgraceful woman... you have the CCTV to back you up.. you should have insisted she was Charged... then let her Community see what she really is....

They will be able to get ftcf's address from your work. Well done for speaking out, no way they should be able to get away with this. As an aside, as someone said up thread does your work know she asked you for a reference? If not I would definitely make that clear tomorrow.

Yes, they will be easy to track down -you obviously gave a name, I could track somebody down easily from that knowing the area. Well done OP hope this is the end of it!

The police have their ways of finding people. A few years back a family member of our ndn threatened to harm our baby. Ndn claimed to not know their address. Police found him anyway.

I had mentioned the email requesting the reference at work but not officially. Told my boss when I spoke to him and he wants the email so I'll do that tomorrow.
Let's hope that this is the end of it.

You could find out from the census for example for the area - aren’t they all online?

Woof electoral roll would be more up to date

@About did you show the police the threatening text the FTCF sent to you as well? I hope they would take that seriously and note it in a file as a possible start to harassment.

I did Jings

Just remind yourself, you've done absolutely nothing wrong. You did not deserve what this women did to you at all or her daughters horrible text.

Won't BIL have CFs address - on her job application?

The police will def find the mother - through CF!

Wow! Have just read both threads! I am betting that the FTCF's Mum has realised what a stupid thing she did to you and has made up some cock and bull story about you 'starting it' in some way to cover her tracks. Thank the Lord for CCTV and a cafe full of witnesses.
Awaiting update with interest!