I was just rude and unreasonable - how can I stop? :-(

[Auvergne]

I certainly wasn't raised to be rude to people.

I was in Tesco, at the self service, and was juggling everything and dropped something. No harm done. The sales assistant ran over making "squawky" noises and it really irritated me, I think because it made people turn and look which always flustered me.

So I (rudely) snapped, "All right, I dropped something, is there really any need to be so dramatic?"

This happened a lot when I was younger. I found myself being confrontational, surly and generally unpleasant in interactions with random people and it is starting to happen again now quite a bit.

Has anyone ever managed to successfully stamp this out of their character?

Cause of her squawking

Totally agree with your post anna. Whilst I say about myself that I don't suffer fools gladly, it's what I think in my head not what I say to people.

Similar situation to you, I'd just come from the hospice seeing my dear old Mum the day before she died, I had to pop and get some milk and a horrible bloke just laid into me about my parking which was no problem to him, he just wanted to have a go. I tried to say that I was very upset, please leave me along, but no, he came out with something like 'don't pull the sympathy vote with me' or words to that effect. It really really upset me just at the wrong time because I wanted to see the good in the world, not the bad.

It's not a badge of honour or good to say you're a mardy arse or you are a snappy angry bitch. AFAIC that's something you need to address.

People get irritated by my tone. Unfortunately that's just the way I sound. You have to sometimes just live with these things and care about the people you need to.

I am working through some exercises with a clinical psychologist for similar issues. I have always believed there was no warning but apparently you can learn to notice the warning signs and retrain yourself not to do this.

I’m 46, menopausal and on HRT patches. I am feeling a little bit like my old self. I have just had the worst 6 yrs ever! The last 18 months I think I could have done time for murder. I was irrational, angry, forgetful, fat and generally a hateful individual! I left my nursing managers post in Oct 2016 & refused to see anyone or have a leaving do. I have to add, I was treated rather badly by the new matron (who I had worked with previously) essentially she bullied and harassed me whilst I was off sick with cholicystitis and post surgery for gall bladder removal. When I went back I had lost all my confidence, handed in my notice & 2 weeks before I left she shut my ward ! Awful for my team😔
I really feel for anyone going through peri menopause and menopause. My mum died 5 yrs ago and I genuinely had no one to talk to about what I was experiencing. I thought I was going mad. We need to change the way womens sexual health is dealt with.
By the way I have a very stroppy 8 yr old daughter! Fun in our house! 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤪🤯🙄😩

There is a website I read called notalwaysright about awful customers so it’s interesting to see the other side.

Many children do not seem to be taught self control. It’s hard work so I can see why lazy parents don’t bother. ( Billy, use your words, count to ten, I won’t give you what you are asking for if you are shouting). The result is a thread full of people who can’t seem to manage not to translate every angry feeling into a selfish and rude actions instead of managing it internally.

I got into a massive argument with someone at the train station the other day. They've set up a second ticket check so I have to have my ticket checked twice every morning (and sometimes a third time if they ask on the train as well). I find this completely unreasonable and told her so. WIBU?

This thread is from December!