Stealing from self service tills

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Dh has started to steal from self service tills. Mostly small items such as chocolate bars or cans but today he came home with a new wallet! He bragged about how the wallet was free. He has also on occasion come home with blind bags for ds. He'll pay for one but take 3! I basically told him he was shoplifting and we had a big argument over it. He said "everyone does it" and that I'm no better as we were under charged in a restaurant once and we didn't say anything. I told him he could easily be caught but he doesn't see the big deal in it. AIBU?

DD(2) accidentally shoplifted a toy dinosaur from The Range the other day, she was holding it in the trolley and I forgot, I realised getting her out of the trolley and walked back into the store and put it on a shelf. I could have kept it, it was a complete accident and no one noticed but that would have been wrong and stealing. I want to set a good example for my DC, even if they are oblivious to the fact that they have taken something I haven't paid for.

Your DH is stealing. It's wrong. He will get caught sooner or later. It will be mortifying. He could lose his job.

I'd be mortified if my husband did this. Is he happy to talk about doing it in front of his friends/his boss if he thinks "everyone " does it?

Does he ever have your children with him when he's stealing, op? How do you feel about that? Them seeing their father think this is ok, and the risk that they'll have to watch him being arrested right in front of them one day?

Wow - just wow. He is stealing, and boasting about it. I recently nearly walked out of a store with something that I had not paid for - I was holding a cheese stick in my hand, rather than in the basket, so did not give it to the guy at the till with the rest of my stuff. When I realized, I blushed bright red and the guy remarked not to worry, because I was obviously so embarrassed. I cannot imagine being so brazen about it.

I would seriously be reconsidering my relationship with him, and I would also be gathering evidence for a custody issue for DS. I would not want my DH to be behaving like a common thief, and showing such a poor example to my son. I hope you refuse to share the chocolate bars and throw away whatever it is that he is giving your son. And please come back and tell us when he gets arrested, so we can indulge in some schadenfreude.

Could you go to the store the wallet was stolen from and buy a new one? You can leave the new one in the store and show your husband the receipt.

Why should OP waste her money because her husband is nothing more than a common thief!?

Why on earth did you have a child with him?

Yeah I don't see how he could argue this is anything but stealing. He won't think it's no big deal when he gets caught.

I worked on self scan for years.Its quite easy to see who is stealing.And they are compiling evidence.They will make sure there is no wriggle room,when he feels teh hand on his shoulder.

Hopefully he will get caught and banned from the shop, it happened to some acquaintances if mine.

It's theft and I hope he gets caught.

Incidentally, when I googled thief (I couldn't remember how to spell it) this news report came up:

www.portsmouth.co.uk/news/crime/would-be-vodka-thief-convicted-after-putting-bottles-back-in-shop-1-8270970

He was convicted even though he didn't actually steal anything (he put them back because he got scared). The fine was relatively small but the big price he pays is whoever googles him from now until the end of the Internet will know what he's done. That could happen to your husband OP. Future employers will not want a common thief working for them, I'm sure.

That is stealing in my opinion

Opinion doesn't come into it. He is taking goods out of the store without paying
for them. That is stealing. Fact.

I honestly don't think I could be in a relationship with someone who did this.

With everyone else - surprised you even need to ask.

I have a very severely mentally ill friend who has done this to the tune of £1000s of pounds worth of food over the years, probably. THe way she talks, you can tell she sometimes sees herself as virtuous or accomplished if she has paid for something.

It's a very sad way to be and yes, she has been caught, cautioned and banned from several shops. She has had one court summons but it was sorted before she actually had to go. The only reason she isn't in prison is that she is so ill.

@teaortequila23

Yes it’s stealing but I find it weird that your outing him on here.
Surely u didn’t need ask if it was wrong

How on earth is she outing him? We know nothing about him!

Why must people find a way to blame women.

I’d be tempted to show him this thread!

Oh, and it’s theft

user This is also the DH that thinks its fine for your child to still use a dummy at age 5 and himself had a dummy until the age of 8 and your MIL agrees with him.

How many more examples do you need quoted back at you to point out he's a knob?

One day OP your DC will be out in the shops and will do what Daddy does and then they will be in big trouble, what happens then?

It's dishonest.
It is appropriation.
It is property.
It belongs to another.
He intends permanently to deprive the other of the property.

It IS theft.
He IS a thief.
I hope he is caught.

What a foul man.

Yes it's stealing. No not everybody does it. A lot of people do though.

Everyone assumes that the penalty will be a conviction and it may well be, but stores have more efficient ways of dealing with this, that don't require the same level of proof and effort such as, e.g. a six month or even a permanent ban from, say, all Tesco stores in the UK. The inside of a store is private property. Everybody in there is a licensed guest of the retailer.

In areas where there is a lot of private land, the results can be even more serious, as this recent example reported in the Evening Standard shows - shopper barred from every shop in Canary Wharf (privately owned real estate) for six months over dispute involving deli goods taken through a self-service check out without paying -

www.standard.co.uk/news/london/man-banned-from-every-shop-in-canary-wharf-for-not-scanning-2-tesco-ribs-a3602036.html

Yes we see this in court fairly often. What sometimes happens is that the person is stopped by staff one day then the staff go through CCTV for the previous occasions when that person has been in. Obviously they don't do this every time but when they know someone has been acting suspiciously over a period of time but have only caught them once. They then get charged with each of the thefts.

He's a thief. Simple as.

Bastards like him are also one of the reasons costs keep on rising on things for everyone.

Another friend telling me that she thought she might have triggered a speed camera but would just have her husband "take the points" if she had because she already had points. Would not be told that this was dishonest. (She hadn't actually triggered the camera so I never found out if she would have done it or not.)

I have a family member who does this. He actually pays people to take points sometimes. People who have a license but don't drive anymore usually. He hasn't mentioned it for a while so either he has finally started to drive properly or they changed the rules so he cannot do this anymore. I always found it odd that the system allowed for stuff like this, but I don;t drive myself so don't really understand it all tbh