Pls settle conundrum between me and friend : how rare is this man?

[cdvegan2023]

This man:

• is anywhere from 30 to 55 yo
• has his own house, no share or living with parents
• good job, makes at least 50% or more above average income (at least for his area)
• is 6' at least (though slightly less is OK)
• has all his hair and teeth
• is at least somewhat attractive and keeps fit
• is not abusive, violent etc
• doesn't gamble, smoke, do drugs or drink too much
• is great in bed (also no pencil dick)
• is intelligent, funny and fun to be around

Im not sure why people are so upset about this list. I personally dont care about height and earnings but i am not attracted to balding men either. Although my dating pool is younger (around 28-38) Is it shallow to be only attracted to men who have a full head of hair? You cant force yourself to be attracted to something you are not.
However i think the list is unrealistic because of the height requirement combined with the earnings.
Also, the age range is pretty wide. A 30something guy living with housemates is fine, i think. But you would expect a 40something to be in a different stage of his life.
For me pencil dick translates as too long, so i understand why someone wouldnt want that. A penis that is too long is painful. I prefer short/ avarage lenght ones too.

This is my husband.

He wasn't on that money or a home owner when I met him though.

Funnily enough, when I met my DH I spent a long time bemoaning the fact I hadn’t met him years ago.. we both concluded that I wouldn’t have appreciate him years ago, he’s nice! I just seem to want a bastard (bad guy) in my youth..

I know having enough money is fairly important for a stress free and enjoyable life, but I don’t think what someone earns would ever be on my “list”.

I’d assume I would try to earn whatever I/we needed as a couple/combined. Not being goady, just don’t think that would be up there.

Also good in bed can be taught! Everyone has their own preferences anyway...

OP never came back to this one then?

I'm stunned.

DP makes more than average, but nowhere near top 10%. And rents from the council, as he has lived in the same house for nearly 25 years. Also, he is just over 50. Otherwise fits the "criteria". I think it's crazy to date with such a narrow mind set. Surely you fall in love with a person. Not his pay check, house, teeth or the length of his telomeres. As to pencil dick? It's not what you have, it's how you use it, surely! How would you feel about a list of rich, young, beautiful women with tight vaginas? I do hope you do your kegels every day! Haha.

He's in kitchen, doing the dishes.

I have half of those bullet points.

Well I know of one but sorry he's all mine.

My DB50 would fit the bill apart from smoking and gambling. He has never married, had kids, bought a home or even rented for that matter. He's a scrounging loser living for free taking the piss at my 84 mum's house.

Your list looks great but I would not be including living at house of mum and dad as an ok.

notangelinajolie I think she meant not living with parents.

not
You misread, the OP said he has to own his own house and can't be sharing or living with parents. So your brother would make the cut at all!

wouldn't

I've got one (except he cuts his hair very short). I sometimes forget how lucky I am until I'm reminded when out with the girls. I'm approached by short, bald, fat, octopus arms,bad humour, drunk 🙄.

I think I'm luckier than I realise.

There are loads of them, but they are all married or in long term relationships. Or gay.

Single, not a chance. They last five seconds on the open market. If you find one there will be a very good reason why they are still single.

Isn't there a reason why single women that age etc. are single too, then?

"Isn't there a reason why single women that age etc. are single too, then?"

Well it's usually because their husbands/partners have left them for a younger model.

Or they're single because they want to be or there is a reason and they have a "flaw" that makes them unsuitable relationship material.

But I reckon there are more single, eligible older women than older men. Precisely because there are more men with younger women than the other way around.

It's usually because they have been left with the children, so yes there is a reason.

OP?

No pencil dick. Shudder.🤮

My dh is all of these things except for the height. Why are women so hung up on height?

I do love a tall man. Doesn't have to be 6' though. Just taller than me. It probably makes me a bit shallow but I don't have a list as long as the OP's!

DH- Own house when I met him but in negative equity so not really an advantage
Salary not too bad when I met him but much higher than average now for his job (but his work is not brilliantly paid so not massive earner at all)
He meets all of your other criteria (or did when I met him) except that he is definitely not tall (about my height in bare feet and I am 5ft 8) and he is the kindest most wonderful man I have ever met. He is deeply respectful of women and genuinely does not have a mean or violent bone in his body.

I am just so happy that his height excludes him from your search as I myself am no catch but he seems to love me anyway. His height probably excludes him from the criteria set by a lot of "attractive women" for which I am eternally grateful as otherwise he might have been snapped up before I got to him (at 36 years old)

Of course you're well within your rights not to find balding men attractive but here's a newsflash - people's appearances change, as does their financial and housing status. If you're with someone for such superficial reasons, what happens when they get sick, lose their job, hair and / or teeth?

My DH scores 9.5 on that list

He drinks too much every now and again and enjoys a flutter on sports games (he’s up from a £50 deposit back in 2013 to around £2k, so can’t really complain about that)