To be seething at DH

[Midge1978]

I have looked after dd all week with the vomiting bug and now I’ve come down with it myself. Dh is refusing to look after her this afternoon because he wants to go to the football. He’s now trying to guilt trip dd into going to her grandma’s when she doesn’t want to. Aibu to think that just this once he should look after dd and put his own interests second?!

YANBU. Your DH wants to spread the bug to grandma as well, instead of manning up and being a parent to DD and a supportive DH to you. He’s being a selfish &£&

A bit unfair to potentially spread the bug into his mothers house to via your dd don't you think? He should be looking after her.

Yanbu. Selfish twat.

Dd is better now so no risk of spreading it to her. He says she loves looking after dd like it’s all to do his mum a massive favour!

You are not being unreasonable if he is going to watch. You are not being unreasonable If he is playing as he should have made sure the team knew he was not available because you need a break, especially as you now have the bug. And your child may still be contagious, so she should not be going elsewhere.

He’s going just to watch.

Midge, you have a very valid point but think of it this way - if you’re ill you could probably do with a good 24 hrs break for looking after anyone, even yourself. Let him go, but tell him he can’t come back drunk as he’ll need to pick up and look after DD tonight (dinner, bath and bed) and then he can do something fun with DD tomorrow as you will be retiring To bed and getting up Sunday afternoon.

DD may not want to go but you need to get better quickly to look after her.

If she's been completely clear of symptoms for 48 hrs then she's not contagious. Otherwise she might still be spreading it.

She has been clear for over 48 hours.

My DH would do the same. I would let him assuming he was going to make sure he was sober enough to collect her and care for her for the next 24 hrs.

If she has germs relating to the bug on her clothes, hands, belongings ....which seems possible at this point with you being ill OP, then surely it could still be spread to her grandmother. I am not sure about that, just speculating but if she does go make sure clean clothes and hands and wipe any things she takes with her.

She really doesn’t want to go, she’s tired and wants to stay home. I’m looking after her.

He's being selfish and a twat. Does he realise he's a parent?

Yanbu

Yanbu.

YANBU

If it’s norovirus the can still infect people a few days afterwards. Also virus can stay alive on objects for a couple of days (report of whole football team getting it from touching a carrier bag) and only takes few viruses to infect - about 100?
I’d steer clear of any older people for a bit

What Marmalade said. Trade this afternoon for a full day off tomorrow.

YANBU.

I hate fucking football though, so may not give the most unbiased opinion on this!

Trade this afternoon for a full day off tomorrow.

What? Sod that! Have both.

How old is DD op?

She’s five x

Another fucking selfish dickhead husband, trying to avoid his responsibilities.

He should stay home and look after both of you. I hope he gets the bug too.

YANBU, I would be seriously pissed off!

Honestly at that age if she's still getting over the after effects of a really bad bug, I would tuck her up in bed with me and watch TV. You both get to rest and recover.

Obviously, I would also tell DH he's a knob for putting football first and making sure he knows he needs to be back, sober, in time to feed and bath DD and then he will be looking after her tomorrow when she is a bit perkier and in need of occupying.