To have let rip at the school?

[MajorMam]

DS's (age 15) school just rang me telling that DS had taken an axe to school.

It was actually a polystyrene scythe Halloween prop. He shouldn't have taken it if course.

Aibu to think the Head of Year should have checked whether it was an actual axe before she rang me. I lost it a bit because since DS has started there (this September), they have been constantly ringing me about the most minor of behaviour infractions.

DS has SN with associated behaviour issues (not violence) and this is an SN school who were aware of his behaviour before he started BTW.

Yes I am sure I can 'talk' him into changing his behaviour. Thanks for that Jayfee, you're a .

Not sure why you are getting such a bashing major
Lots of ignorant people on this thread

With respect Jayfee it's a world of difference dealing with an autistic child such as my own Dd (definately potential university candidate) & dealing with one such as my Ds who hasn't the emotional or social skills to know what is appropriate half the time.

Been advised not to Worried by IPSEA as LEA won't place him again and DS is not the type to sit nicely at home while I try to educate him.

Who said I 'accept' his challenging behaviour. School should be able to deal with it without contacting me every day

That’s the problem - you don’t want to hear about it. All of the things you have listed I feel warrant contact with parents and some of them eg inappropriate internet I’d take to the Governors if my child was in that class. It’s just going to go on with that attitude.

Is you son on the spectrum ( apologies if I haven't got the wordng correct)?

major you misunderstood me. i meant that talking to him about how it all makes him feel might help him. It was about how all ths makes him feel, not his behaviour.

I have read the whole thread and I am still struggling to understand what exactly it is that you are upset about. Your school will almost definitely have a policy in place about not allowing weapons, including toy representations of, in school. They have called you to notify you that your son has broken that rule by bringing in a toy axe. What am I missing?!

Barbie - what rot. They should be questioning themselves why a vulnerable learning disabled teen, with a history of inappropriate behaviour and social boundaries was given unsupervised use of the internet in school.

What are they expecting me to do about it, when he's at school, except for stress about it? That is why he has a home/school book and we agreed weekly emails. I asked for a copy of a behaviour management plan weeks ago.

A lot Hodge so you can move along now. Thanks.

More than anything on this thread I am concerned by what appears to be an obsession with violent imagery of horror. Is he watching 18 films at home? You have mentioned a foam axe, another fake weapon at some point (I think), accessing horror film footage in lessons and a Grim reaper Hallowe'en outfit.
All that added together might give a school cause for at least a discussion with parents..
I do also think that not all SN students are the same. it sis possible some students on the bus were genuinely scared of the axe, even if there was ne need to be.

I'm assuming he has an EHCP as he's in a non mainstream school? Would you consider asking for an emergency review of this, so you can express your concerns to the school in a formal and documented way. You could raise the issue of appropriate placement too, if you feel he's not in the right setting and see what alternative the LA can offer.

No Piggy why would I let an SN 15 year old watch 18 films? I mentioned a Halloween mask. You are concerned about a teen having a Halloween outfit just after a Halloween period? Is that because he's got SN?

I am astonished that the students can even access this sort of thing on the internet, OP. That sounds like a failing on the part of the school.

In my son's specialist ASD college (16+), there are so many safeguards on the server they can't even access Google.

And an axe.
And watching violent stuff on the internet.
You never answered OP. So you did swear at the school yes?

Nice attitude OP. You obviously have some serious back story beef with this school that you need to deal with.

Personally, if it was my child, I would want to be kept in the loop about rule breaking, especially simply stuff like this. You should be aware of what your child is doing because as you've said, you can now learn from this and check his bag in the future. Your aggression is deeply unpleasant.
I hope you find a schooling solution that will work better for you all in the future.

What are they expecting me to do about it, when he's at school, except for stress about it?

They aren’t expecting you to solve the problem. They’re fulfilling their duty of care as professionals by letting you know.

There’s been a bit of a drip feed about the inappropriate internet and whether it was during a lesson or while he was on his own but I’d be surprised if an ESBD setting had any free access for students.

TheHodgeoftheHedge - I asked the OP about what the point is etc too in my last post, maybe she'll reply to my post and we'll have a clearer picture.

No, no swearing unfortunately Wolfie. Am I supposed to the sweary because I have an SN child or is it the other way round?

On the flip side....
If my child is in a sen school (my ds had to have programmes vetted as he can watch anything with masks etc in due to asd related issues at 14), and is being scared by first a mask, then scary films on the internet then I found out this child had been waving a fake axe on the bus, i would be expecting the school to take action!

Read my previous posts FlowerPot, if it's that difficult to understand then this thread is not for you.

"I told them I was getting extremely pissed off."
Direct quote.
You have an awful attitude and are coming across as unreasonable and aggressive. Sounds like the school have been a bit OTT about a foam toy. But your stance that they should just deal with it in school and stop bothering you about his inappropriate behaviour is unhelpful and won't help your son.

If you “electively” Home educate, you step out of the system. EOTAS keeps you in it. I’d give Ipsea another call. X

Interested to note the usual posters on a thread about schools and SN. How about you get your kicks elsewhere?

OP hang in there.

Anyone else reading this, if you’ve got to 15 and in special placement for SN, you can be very sure the mum will have had a rough ride and can be forgiven for not being incessantly pro School.

MajorMam
Read my previous posts FlowerPot, if it's that difficult to understand then this thread is not for you.

I have done so. There is no need to be so rude OP.

Are you upset solely because the school did not describe imitation weapon as imitation? Is that it?

Your child is misbehaving at school.
He is doing this a lot.
He took an imitation axe to school.
That's not allowed.
It's not right.
You know it's not right.
The school contacted you.
Your child has done wrong, yet again.
The school has disciplined him.
What is wrong with all the above that you do not like?
What have you done with your misbehaving child about his taking an imitation weapon into school?