AIBU to think Friends With Benefits, is a bit tacky?

[brasty]

Maybe I am? But this seems to be much more common amongst young people. It all just makes me feel a bit "disgusted of Tunbridge Wells".

Women who think they can maintain an emotional distance are trying to fool themselves - and I care not how many of them claim otherwise

Bless your little heart.

It's our truth; it's not really something that you can form an opinion on, is it?

You can only speak for yourself dear, not all womankind.

Weird. I know different as do many on here and yet it's ignored. I had an arrangement all those years ago and it really really worked. And the drifting apart was absolutely fine because we were both adult about it.

It's fucking RUDE to keep insisting that we don't know our own minds and are kidding ourselves

Exactly!!! Some of the posts on here are bloody unbelievable

So, I've also had FWB set ups where we were both women. Were we both deluding ourselves? Who was using who? How does that even work?

Oh Violet, I’m surprised you could physically disengage your limbs from one another for fear you’d both fall apart in a heap of tears afterwards.

@Shizzler

I was speaking for those who have already stated that they know their own minds; not all of womankind.

And please don't call me 'dear', there's a good girl!

Bless.

There are a lot of posters around lately who think that adding 'dear' to their snippy little comment somehow elevates them to the status of comic genius.

and a perfectly timed 'bless'! Are you 15?

And if you’d care to cast your eye back to your post...

You stated agreement that your ‘truth’ was not to believe women who said they’d be a-okay if their fuck buddy ended things. So you’re not just talking about ‘your’ truth are you? You’re choosing to believe that your ‘truth’ is everyone’s truth.

Bit silly to do that, no?

Women who think they can maintain an emotional distance are trying to fool themselves - and I care not how many of them claim otherwise.

Have you always been this patronising or did you have to practice first?

Women who think they can maintain an emotional distance are trying to fool themselves - and I care not how many of them claim otherwise

Since when are women a homogenous group with a hive mind? I couldn’t have sex without an emotional connection, but that’s because of what’s in my head, not my pants! Fucks sake, having a vagina doesn’t mean we all think the same way!

I find it hard to get emotionally attached to people so I mustn’t be a woman according to posters on here

Me either Dipping. I've also been to Sainsburys with the lad from technical at lunchtime, so i'm apparently now in a relationship with him. Fuck my life eh!

This post does have a lot of "pink brain" argument. People seem to be saying that FWB doesn't work for women because women are all too emotional and clingy to cope with it, as opposed to men who actually like sex.

Are the puritans out in force in honour of Thanksgiving or something?

I'm not American but I give thanks this day for the ability to see sex as a fun pursuit that does not always have to be a reverent union between bodies and souls. Lovely as that also can be.

Hear hear squoosh you put it better than me

And if you’d care to cast your eye back to your post...

You stated agreement that your ‘truth’ was not to believe women who said they’d be a-okay if their fuck buddy ended things. So you’re not just talking about ‘your’ truth are you? You’re choosing to believe that your ‘truth’ is everyone’s truth.

Bit silly to do that, no?

If that's aimed at me, then I suggest that you revisit the thread. My post was supporting those previous posters who maintain they would be OK if their FWB ended things. Their 'truth' is that they'd be OK. I too would be OK. It's a fact. Because we're telling you that.

A bit like me telling you my name is Stevie and I'm an accountant. Would you be likely to counter that with: 'Well, my opinion is that your name is Stacey. And you're a doctor?' I'd like to think you wouldn't do that. So why try and form an opinion on what actually is a fact?

Sorry if I'm missing something. But I really don't think you've fully grasped my vpoint. And replying with 'Bless' because you're stuck for words does you no favours

@Shizzler

Actually, looking back, I think you and I have the same viewpoint. You just misunderstood my earlier post. And called me 'dear'

It does sound tacky on paper but I can see the attraction.

If I ever found myself single again, this would certainly appeal to me. I have no desire to get married again, i don’t want anymore children, I’ve got my own property, my own friends and I like my alone time and space, but I would miss male company.

Friends with benefits would be the ideal solution, you could hang out maybe once at weekend and once in the week, have a good time, so fun stuff and return back to your normal life.

Dipping this makes you an alien like me i'm afraid. Which planet do you hail from?

You could be forgiven in mistaken that I am from Venus but I am in fact from Nibiru, yourself must?

Fucks sake, having a vagina doesn’t mean we all think the same way!

What revolutionary idea is this you speak of?

Dipper i am from a little known planet called whogives...hope of the 'whogivesafuckites' - it's a very interesting place to be