AIBU Wedding Evening Invite- cancellation

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Predicament- been invited as an evening guest to a wedding on an weekday, its after the reception/meals for main/day guests and they is a buffet for later for the evening.. AIBU if I cancel last minute even though I RSVPED as attending?

mainly because I am worried about travelling there and travlling back on my own - as i would need to go from work which finishes at late. Then I would have to travel quite a bit to get there and then it would mean I have to leave early to travel back as it means catching trains/public transport as I recently moved quite far away. Not only that, my OH has booked a holiday the day after. I'm going to be exhausted, just to turn up for an hour! As I am only an evening guest- AIBU if I don't attend?

Have we got this sorted now for OP.

Sorry s/he should have had this worked out from the get go. Anyway. Over and out.

It is not a life or death matter is it. Card with regret and maybe a few bob is all that is needed. No one will remember, even if you think they will. And if they do, they are not enjoying their wedding!

I have to say YABU to cancel at such a late point. You should have just said no to begin with. I hate people cancelling, especially in the days leading up to an event. It's rude. You have said yes, people are expecting you. Unless there is some circumstance beyond your control (family illness for example) it's really bad manners to cancel so late on and I would think much less of you for doing so

It's rude to cancel for such a pathetic reason in the last week (basically lack of thought/planning on your part). Evening guests do matter to the bride and groom, and it does cost per head to feed evening guests.