AIBU to get butt-hurt about pples reaction to my pregnancy ?!..

[Littlehouseonthepraririe]

Am pregnant with my 6th! I want to share the good news on facebook, not with a fanfare or some obscure balloon riddled/ cryptic sign (tho I do enjoy other pples announcements like that)! But just with a standard f.b post as we have a lot of friends /fam all over the world (and mainly because I'm excited)!

However, when I shared the news of our 5th along with the congratulations I had a Lot of OMG ur mental/ mad etc comments.

Would I look weird if along with sharing the news I tagged on a little light hearted something like ' we know the Waltons life isn't for everyone and we might seem a bit bonkers, but we are really excited to introduce a new member to our clan'.. In the hope that it will ward off What's Wrong With You type comments ?!?

We have a large home for lots of children and my OH works from home so the children aren't lacking in time or space etc and they are always asking for more siblings, and this is the life I've Always wanted, so I don't really Get why pple would write comments like I had last time..
I mean I have lots of friends travelling in the back of beyond or moving up the corporate ladder , which personally is my idea of hell, but I am genuinely happy that they are happy and following their dreams, so obviously just write positive, congratulatory comments when they announce they've landed in a new country / got a promotion..
Am I being butt-hurty and overly sensitive unnecessarily , and would it look rude for me to write something jokey in an attempt to ward off the bat shit crazy comments..?

Nobody cares as much as you do, they really, really don't. Btw, you have five kids and they're always asking for more siblings?
I don't believe it.

Well, I have five and three of mine have mentioned quite recently that they would love another brother or sister. I don't know why you wouldn't believe that? It might not be your experience but some children do love coming from a big family. No matter how much some MNers want to pretend that isn't possible.

Congratulations OP. You do not have to justify your choices to anyone. Butt-hurt is also not offensive or homophobic so take your apology back

I bumped into a lady I used to know (at school) last year, and I hadn't seen her for 25 years! I said, 'last time I saw you, you were getting married to Paul, are you still together?' She said yes, and I asked her if she had children. She went red, and said 'this is a bit embarrassing but we have 7 children.'

I was completely gobsmacked as to why she was almost apologetic. Probably because she has been made to feel bad by some people for having 7 kids. Quite sad really.

Not all children enjoy being part of a large family. I'm the eldest of 6 and, looking back, would have much preferred it if there were less of us.
None of my siblings are particularly close.
My mother loved being pregnant and having babies.

Not so great for the children.

Not all children enjoy being part of a large family.

Well that is pretty obvious.

However, I see no reason to disbelieve OP when she says her children would like another sibling just because some people didn't like coming from big families themselves.

People are different. Who would have thought?

It sounds as though you are sort of apologising to them in advance and hoping that thye will be okay with your decision. I wouldn't even bother making an announcement, just let them know when you see or speak to them next. I think by the time you get to the point of announcing your 6th people have sort of lost interest anyway.

6 children?

Tie a knot!

Can you turn off the comments thing?

I've only ever seen people on mn refer to concerns for the environment when someone says they're having a baby. Everyone is different. I've met people who think having 3 or 4 children are crazy. You often see posters getting negative comments about having "only" one child. I think if you are worried about negativity, be selective about who you announce it to and let the news filter through to the nay sayers so your don't have to hear their opinions.

I think it is great news. I have a largish family (5 kids ) and i love it and wouldnt change a thing.
Be proud and ignore any negative comments. And many congratulations . I envy you !

Might I just add I think anyone who has more than one is mad because my one is a handful I don’t know how anyone does it

However, I see no reason to disbelieve OP when she says her children would like another sibling just because some people didn't like coming from big families themselves.
I didn't say I don't believe what the OP says. Of course children would love the novelty of a new baby.
As I said in my post it's only when I look back (as an adult) that I realise being part of family of 6 children has had more negatives than positives for my life.
When I was a child I enjoyed the excitement of each new baby arriving.

I worked with a guy a long time ago who said. "We have six children. Yes, we know what causes them."

The news is only exciting to you, nobody else cares.

People will comment because it's not the norm. There's the environmental impact of it all, the cost to the state (School/healthcare/benefits) not to mention it would be impossible to give them all enough one to one time, hobbies etc that they all want to do so they will miss out lots and I speak from experience. I'd never do it myself as far too many downsides.

I wouldn't be rude to you if you announced your 6th pregnancy but I would be sad you hadn't given more thought to the future of your children. 2 is enough. Any more and you cannot claim to care more about your children than your own selfish needs, no matter how you try to spin it or lie to yourself.

www.independent.co.uk/environment/children-carbon-footprint-climate-change-damage-having-kids-research-a7837961.html

But yeah sure, ignore any 'negative pesky comments about the environment. And this is why we are all going to hell in a handcart. Sigh.

Do you truly believe that the miniscule percentage of six child families in the UK are the sole reason for the downfall of society?

Sigh.

Agree with IneedaMagnum. I wouldn't say anything but would be internally at the environmental impact. It seems greedy somehow. What if everyone had 6 kids?

But... They don't. And they won't. Pointless question.

Ahh yes that old attitude. I can do what I like because it doesn't matter. So it's ok for me to steal because not everyone does it and the shop won't miss the odd item gone missing? And before you go there, stealing is legally wrong yes but it doesn't compare with the environmental effect having more than 2 kids has. Educate yourself.

Its too many kids in this day and age with the environmental issues we all face its not right no matter how you try to spin it or however many lentils are woven.

I am always slightly suspect about the multiple children but very green, vegan food, hand me downs, camping, non flying mindset. Suspect the minute the kids reach 18 and escape they will be hopping on planes and scoffing Macdonalds with abandon (don't blame them but still).

More than 3 kids?
I'd judge you.
But that's OK, we're not friends.
If your friends are offending you tell them.

Many congratulations. Six is the perfect family size. Ignore the comments of others. There will be the expected ‘Are you mad?’ But it passes quickly.
I have many friends with four+ children. I have three close friends who also have six and a friend with seven (we tell her she had no self control). They are mainly late teens/ young adults now and all happy, well adjusted, academically successful and compassionate.
If you can afford it, if you have a stable marriage and can provide a good, secure upbringing then there is nothing nicer.

"Six is the perfect family size" heard it all now.

Oh behave crumbs1 how is it the perfect family size?