AIBU to get butt-hurt about pples reaction to my pregnancy ?!..

[Littlehouseonthepraririe]

Am pregnant with my 6th! I want to share the good news on facebook, not with a fanfare or some obscure balloon riddled/ cryptic sign (tho I do enjoy other pples announcements like that)! But just with a standard f.b post as we have a lot of friends /fam all over the world (and mainly because I'm excited)!

However, when I shared the news of our 5th along with the congratulations I had a Lot of OMG ur mental/ mad etc comments.

Would I look weird if along with sharing the news I tagged on a little light hearted something like ' we know the Waltons life isn't for everyone and we might seem a bit bonkers, but we are really excited to introduce a new member to our clan'.. In the hope that it will ward off What's Wrong With You type comments ?!?

We have a large home for lots of children and my OH works from home so the children aren't lacking in time or space etc and they are always asking for more siblings, and this is the life I've Always wanted, so I don't really Get why pple would write comments like I had last time..
I mean I have lots of friends travelling in the back of beyond or moving up the corporate ladder , which personally is my idea of hell, but I am genuinely happy that they are happy and following their dreams, so obviously just write positive, congratulatory comments when they announce they've landed in a new country / got a promotion..
Am I being butt-hurty and overly sensitive unnecessarily , and would it look rude for me to write something jokey in an attempt to ward off the bat shit crazy comments..?

"Butt-hurt" is the single most cringingly irritating Americanism in the history of language.

If you can afford 6, and aren't expecting any extra government handouts for them, then why not?

Quim Reaper agreed!! They use it waaay too much for my liking (yes i know i'm one person i don't count for much 😂)

I know someone with 7 who is one of 7 so you’re behind.

I think enthusiasm does wane after 4.

Could the person have been TTC and struggling having a bad day and next second someone is announcing they're having their 5th or 6th child. Not that it excuses rudness, but. Sadly jealousy doesnt bring the best out in people.
Of course you're going to be the envy of a lot of people.
I mean don't get me wrong people might just think youre barmy.
Not only that but The more pregnancies you have. The less interested people seem to be.
After all you're on your 6th. You're a dab hand at it all now.
Congratulations.

I like the Waltons remark btw!

“Overpopulation is now a major threat to civilization… People shouldn’t have the right to have as many children as they want just because they can plan the timing of their births. Responsible reproduction is not just about supporting one’s offspring – it’s also about considering the world in which they and future generations will try to live, and that means carefully limiting their numbers.”
(source: Millennium Alliance for Humanity and the Biosphere)

... so I would not be surprised if your friends are less than enthusiastic about your announcement.

Congratulations and sod any Naysayers!

We have 5DC but we've been very lucky all of our friends and family were really pleased for us with every pregnancy and we still get asked now and again if were going to have any more.

That only works if everyone who comments negatively about the 6 children has no children of their own. Otherwise they really have no right to whinge about overpopulation that they too are contributing to

What is this ‘butt hurt’ you speak of?

American term for sulking basically!

I wouldn't do the Waltons remark- you have absolutely no need to make apologies for your decision to have a large family, and to preface your announcement with something like that., no matter how jokey, sounds needlessly defensive.

Just make your announcement- we are absolutely delighted and excited to announce that we are expecting a baby, due to arrive in late spring (or whatever). If anybody has the nerve to make a cheeky comment, call them out on it as you see fit, but don’t set yourself up for it!

Alternatively, don't do an announcement!

We are a family of vegan, eco car driving, considerate of our carbon foot print kinda family , and husband works for a environmental company if tht makes us any less hideous ?!
Also, dnt receive any government handouts (including child benefit)

Thanks for the congrats comments, and appreciate hearing from people who come from homes with lots of siblings , I'm one of four and speak to mine most days :)

We have 4 under 5 and I never felt anything negative from the 'Jesus are you mad', 'I couldn't do it' comments.

Why are you so sensitive about something that's a normal reaction to an unusual thing you're doing? If you said you were running a marathon you'd get lots of 'rather you than me' etc but it's not really anything negative, just a reflection of the speaker themselves. Not you.

People are openly fucking horrid to large families. I’m one of a very large number of children and my mum had some truly hideous comments, to her face, when we were children. She just told them she was happy with her choices and we were all also happy, well fed and looked after and doing well at school. They couldn’t compute that a large family could be be anything other than a mistake.

Now we’ve all grown up, gone off to Oxford / Cambridge, got great jobs, fabulous marriages and had lots of children ourselves. We’re all incredibly close as adults and have a fantastic time meeting up. The smug bastards are laughing on the other side of their faces now.

From my dad, on announcing my pregnancy with my first: "Are you sure that's good news?"

Again , sorry for the butt hurt

"government handouts..." nice.

Tell anyone who comments there is a lady on mn who has 11(me) and direct their comments my way as well- used to them now.
Congratulations op!!

Given that's usually the first thing thrown at large families - how much money is the government throwing at them - i think Government handouts is a fair term here

Government handouts

Yes, sorry only mentioned g.'handouts' after being asked about it in prev. Posts, dnt begrudge anyone anything x

We are a family of vegan, eco car driving, considerate of our carbon foot print kinda family , and husband works for a environmental company if tht makes us any less hideous ?!

I don't really think so. I think that's like when rich bastards on Grand Designs build a fucking huge concrete monstrosity and then wax lyrical about how little they spend on their heating.

But, anyway, I use paper plates at parties and keep the house running at holiday temperature so I'm not judging. Congrats on you new little one.

To be quite honest I'm an awe of mums with large families. 11 a PP said? Wow! I certainly wouldn't say 'are you mad?' because that's downright rude, but I would be thinking 'bloody hell how on earth do you manage that?!'

But that's only because I find one challenging, and am still only just considering my second 😂

My friend is pregnant with her fourth. One of the best comments she's had is 'oh, they must just slide right out of you by now!' Delightful!