AIBU to get butt-hurt about pples reaction to my pregnancy ?!..

[Littlehouseonthepraririe]

Am pregnant with my 6th! I want to share the good news on facebook, not with a fanfare or some obscure balloon riddled/ cryptic sign (tho I do enjoy other pples announcements like that)! But just with a standard f.b post as we have a lot of friends /fam all over the world (and mainly because I'm excited)!

However, when I shared the news of our 5th along with the congratulations I had a Lot of OMG ur mental/ mad etc comments.

Would I look weird if along with sharing the news I tagged on a little light hearted something like ' we know the Waltons life isn't for everyone and we might seem a bit bonkers, but we are really excited to introduce a new member to our clan'.. In the hope that it will ward off What's Wrong With You type comments ?!?

We have a large home for lots of children and my OH works from home so the children aren't lacking in time or space etc and they are always asking for more siblings, and this is the life I've Always wanted, so I don't really Get why pple would write comments like I had last time..
I mean I have lots of friends travelling in the back of beyond or moving up the corporate ladder , which personally is my idea of hell, but I am genuinely happy that they are happy and following their dreams, so obviously just write positive, congratulatory comments when they announce they've landed in a new country / got a promotion..
Am I being butt-hurty and overly sensitive unnecessarily , and would it look rude for me to write something jokey in an attempt to ward off the bat shit crazy comments..?

I think it's a bit excessive in this day and age I'm afraid. But there's no law against it. Yet.

I'm one of 8 and DH is one of 9. We also know a lot of people with 4+ and have never seen the problem. I do understand how comments can be hurtful though as I know MiL used to get the "you need you get a TV for your room" comments. Considering she was told she'd never be able to have children, it was very insensitive. So of course she made the most of actually finding out she could have them! She'd have had more but her DH said no more 😂😂😂

Congratulations! And announce it however you like, whether that's with humour or not. Who cares as long as you're happy!

A friend of mine reacted to news of my SECOND (planned, wanted) pregnancy by saying "that sounds like a terrible idea". I was a bit taken aback but I think she was trying to be funny.. she's not really a fan of children so I suppose she was mostly projecting how she would personally feel if she was having a second child.
Point being, people are weird, unless they say something truly nasty I would just try not to let it bother you. You're happy about the pregnancy so that's all that matters. Congratulations!

CONGRATULATIONS! I only have four but boy people can be rude to larger families! Put aside a pound every time someone says “you must have your hands full” and buy the baby something nice. Of course you should announce it, your sixth little one is every bit as valuable as your first. Enjoy your family!

If people comment that you are crazy they are just projecting the fact that they couldn't do it. I know I couldn't and I take my hat off to you!
Don't take it to heart, it really isn't aimed at you so much as a comment on their own parenting capabilities/financial status etc.

Never justify your choices, just don't. You don't need to.
Congratulations on your pregnancy

OP how about you keep this one quiet and act all shocked with 'oh fuck, not again!' when people notice you're upduffed?

The more the merrier, if you can afford it. These children will contribute to my pension eventually. We need more!

Butt hurt stood out as really unpleasant in this post but I see you have already apologized for it several times, I suspect it may be more commonly used in the US.

I have a lot of siblings, it was okay growing up but is really great as an adult. We only have two but they have lots of cousins their age. I like being part of a large sibling group, although I didn’t want to parent one.

Congrats!

To be honest it is a lot of children for most people, especially in modern times, that’s where the ‘omg??!!!’ comments are coming from. They couldn’t imagine it/couldn’t handle it/didn’t grow up in large families either. As long as you understand that angle and expect those comments then you’ll be less sensitive when they arrive?

Also it is kind of hard to be as excited for someone’s 6th baby compared to the 1st baby if you know what I mean? Don’t expect the same fanfare reaction as you had when you announced your first so you won’t get ‘butt hurt’

Again , sorry for the butt hurt 

Please don't apologise, butt hurt is fine and it's not homophobic ffs!

Congratulations!

Ignore them. As my grandma says "a baby is always good news!"

I’m one of 6 and when anyone finds out they say ‘didn’t your mum and dad have a TV’

It’ll just the the same old unoriginal jokes you could probably just ignore them.

Anyone who tells you about the environment/hand outs etc, what do they want people to do have a termination against their will?!

We are a family of vegan, eco car driving, considerate of our carbon foot print kinda family , and husband works for a environmental company if tht makes us any less hideous ?

I'm skeptical that you're vegan, but in any case that's not how it works.
It's the gazillion grandchildren, great-grandchildren etc you're going to produce that's the problem. But as someone said upthread a bit, it's not illegal yet.

haha if you gave a stuff about the environment you wouldn’t be churning out your sixth not matter how vegan you all are

Anyone who tells you about the environment/hand outs etc, what do they want people to do have a termination against their will?!

I've managed to limit myself to 2 children without ever being forced into an abortion! I got here by using birth control and reading the occasional article about the sustained decimation of the planet, as well as generally finding children hard work.

Nobody cares as much as you do, they really, really don't. Btw, you have five kids and they're always asking for more siblings?
I don't believe it.

Museum yes but this poster hasn’t, so what do people want her to do have an abortion?

It’s a bit late going on about birth control when she is pregnant with her 6th child.

I don’t believe they’re asking for more siblings either I hated having so many siblings!

Jesus some people on here are just vile. Congratulations on your pregnancy op

So presumably the person thinking it was homophobic assumed it was something to do with anal. I wonder where the phrase does come from.

Haven’t RTFT but butthurt is due to spanking not because of anal it’s not even remotely homophobic

Omg

Some of the comments on here are crude, vulgar and just cruel.

Ok congratulations. I'm one of eight and speak to my siblings almost daily. I loved growing up in a big family, but being Irish, we were the norm rather than the exception.

'Churning out is just a disgusting phrase to use when someone has planned and hoped for a child.

(off the topic and why I think its grim - many people disagree on that Dipping/gotta. another explanation relates to rape, and by using it as a term for petty upset, its minimisation)

If you google the origin of butthurt

Butthurt is an online slang term used to describe a strongly negative or overemotional response. It is used to draw attention to a person who shows signs of being irritated due to a perceived insult, an unfavorable situation, or a lack of decent communication.
The term “butthurt” originates from spanking, the act of striking the buttocks of another person, which is often seen as a method of punishing a child. Though some cultures view this as an acceptable form of discipline, it can be interpreted as abusive corporal punishment. Online, one of the earliest archived mentions of “butthurt” appeared in a 1998 comment posted on the website of Swiss surrealist painter H. R. Giger.