AIBU to get butt-hurt about pples reaction to my pregnancy ?!..

[Littlehouseonthepraririe]

Am pregnant with my 6th! I want to share the good news on facebook, not with a fanfare or some obscure balloon riddled/ cryptic sign (tho I do enjoy other pples announcements like that)! But just with a standard f.b post as we have a lot of friends /fam all over the world (and mainly because I'm excited)!

However, when I shared the news of our 5th along with the congratulations I had a Lot of OMG ur mental/ mad etc comments.

Would I look weird if along with sharing the news I tagged on a little light hearted something like ' we know the Waltons life isn't for everyone and we might seem a bit bonkers, but we are really excited to introduce a new member to our clan'.. In the hope that it will ward off What's Wrong With You type comments ?!?

We have a large home for lots of children and my OH works from home so the children aren't lacking in time or space etc and they are always asking for more siblings, and this is the life I've Always wanted, so I don't really Get why pple would write comments like I had last time..
I mean I have lots of friends travelling in the back of beyond or moving up the corporate ladder , which personally is my idea of hell, but I am genuinely happy that they are happy and following their dreams, so obviously just write positive, congratulatory comments when they announce they've landed in a new country / got a promotion..
Am I being butt-hurty and overly sensitive unnecessarily , and would it look rude for me to write something jokey in an attempt to ward off the bat shit crazy comments..?

"Ahh yes that old attitude. I can do what I like because it doesn't matter. So it's ok for me to steal because not everyone does it and the shop won't miss the odd item gone missing? And before you go there, stealing is legally wrong yes but it doesn't compare with the environmental effect having more than 2 kids has. Educate yourself."

I never said anything of the sort. Before you start preaching to me, perhaps you ought to examine your own attitude? And btw, telling someone "educate yourself" hardly lends itself to a reply of "oh, what a brilliant idea, I had better sort myself out immediately!"

Hardly anyone in this country has 6 or more children. Most of them are immigrants, if the data from 2015 still holds.

Do you truly believe that the miniscule percentage of six child families in the UK are the sole reason for the downfall of society?

You're correct that the OP can count on the people of the UK to dilute her choices with their own more restrained ones.

Were she in Bangladesh (for example), she'd have received a visit from a Western NGO by now trying to get her on some birth control, but she's in the UK and she's got rights, innit.

I'd announce it as you have proposed, but I'd use a keyboard that includes vowels.

I agree with David Attenborough who said;

There is no major problem facing our planet that would be easier to solve if there were fewer people; and no problem that does not become harder - and ultimately impossible to solve - with even more.

It is a taboo subject but will have to be adddressed sooner rather than later.

all happy, well adjusted, academically successful and compassionate
And you put this down to being part of a family of eight, Crumbs?
What a crock of shit.

Sorry "that would NOT be easier to solve".

I don't understand the oft repeated sound bite about anymore than 2 children being fine. I presume this just suits people who have/ want 2 children and want to whinge overpopulation to those who have more?

If you really cared about overpopulation enough to limit your family you'd have zero children to make up for all the families who have 6 and the overpopulation of third world countries

@inneedamagnum is the only one on this thread talking any sense

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar. No I put it down to good gene pool, good parenting and a secure family structure. I am merely presenting a perspective that not all large families are benefit dependent, unstable, multiple Father, chaotic families. Some are affluent, middle class, educated and provide a very stable environment in which to raise children. I know some children from small families that are happy and well adjusted too - but not all small families offer the same.

Crumbs, no one said they were or did I miss it?

Bubble - yes, and / or adopt! I think UK govt is making adoption harder though which is a pity.

Congratulations! We’d love more than 2 but we couldn’t afford it.

I'd advise against you having more children. You don't seem to even have the time to spell words with all of the required letters. How will you cope with even less time on your hands?

I dunno like.

I think how many children you have IS other people's business. Unless you're planning on bringing them up off the grid or something. It affects society as a whole, for good or bad.

And I would not have wanted to be 1 of 6. Only 1/6 of my parents' time and attention. And money, let's be realistic.

My uncle used to say there were 2 types of people: ones who had ambitions and lives of their own and the other type who breed. Not saying I agree with that, but one wonders WHY you want/need to have 6 children. Is it for you? Is it for them? Is it for society? Is it some random inexplicable biological urge? Is it repeated accidents? I'm not asking for answers, just letting you know my thoughts, seeing as you asked!

But good luck. I hope you are like that nice family 19 kids and counting (the British one, not the creepy American one).

I'd worry if I had six children it wouldn't leave enough time for my all-consuming hobby of fibbing on the internet.

I would dearly love more. My ideal number was at least 3, however due to ill health I'm unable to go past my precious 2.
Honestly, announce it how you like. I used a 'I'm being promoted to big brother' tshirt. Maybe similar for your youngest?
If you can afford and have room and love and patience enough for 6, crack on. You've my utmost admiration.

Congratulations!

Ps, my American friends use the term butthurt all the time. I automatically assumed you were American too

Sorry but it’s irresponsible and reckless. Why should you be able to rely on other families monitoring their reproduction to average out your perceived wants.

The fact you seem so blasé about this speaks volumes.

Also, the more children you have, the more you "risk" having one with additional needs... I'm only stating this as a fact, not suggesting children with additional needs shouldn't be born or that they don't add to people's lives - but it would have an impact on your existing children.

If you can afford it then fine.

If you can't afford it you're a dickhead.

So let’s just think about the whole drain on resources twaddle.
When the children were young, my husband and I shared a car. I mainly walked. He often cycled. We talked about who needed use of the car most.

The children didn’t have to be driven for several hours to see their father.
We heated and lit one house.
We used one oven to cook one meal.
We didn’t fly abroad for holidays.
I’ve never used a bottle of formula milk in my life.

Now those families which are split, how many houses or flats do you heat and light? How many meals are cooked? My guess is the separated parents each have a household.
Those smaller families are, at a guess, more likely to fly on holiday, no?
What is the carbon footprint of formula milk and the bottles it is served in?
How many cars do split families use?

I suspect if proper analysis was done, the larger families might not be quite as environmentally unsound as the holier than though’s believe. Luckily, we don’t have a one child policy in the UK.

Actually, the biggest contributor to global warming is eating beef, so 6 non-beef-eating children is probably better than 1 beef-eating one.

Meh, as long as you don't sponge off the state, do what you want.

not to mention it would be impossible to give them all enough one to one time, hobbies etc that they all want to do so they will miss out lots

That's complete twaddle!!!

Do you think parents of large numbers of children are less likely to split up, Crumbs? . And parents of smaller numbers more likely to use formula and drive multiple cars??
Your "logic" is quite astounding.

You don't need to justify yourself Crumbs, it's obvious your children have no environmental impact whatsoever.

That makes no sense whatsoever all those kids will leave home, need a house each, a car each, food, generate rubbish, food will come in plastic, have children thermselves. I bet they will want to take holidays where you fly, especially after not doing so as a kid. The fact they shared a house for a few years is neither here nor there.

But carry on believing your theories, those of us that have concerns are allowed to think differently, David Attenborough included.

YY to what Kerala said. All these kids sleeping in the one bed or whatever will grow up and have lives and children of their own.

It's a bit of a pyramid scheme really, breeding, isn't it. The more you breed, the more we need to breed more folk to wipe the arses of the old folk esp now they're living for too long.

Personally I'm glad i have no kids and a firm plan for a one-way flight to Switzerland when I reach a certain stage of life.