AIBU to get butt-hurt about pples reaction to my pregnancy ?!..

[Littlehouseonthepraririe]

Am pregnant with my 6th! I want to share the good news on facebook, not with a fanfare or some obscure balloon riddled/ cryptic sign (tho I do enjoy other pples announcements like that)! But just with a standard f.b post as we have a lot of friends /fam all over the world (and mainly because I'm excited)!

However, when I shared the news of our 5th along with the congratulations I had a Lot of OMG ur mental/ mad etc comments.

Would I look weird if along with sharing the news I tagged on a little light hearted something like ' we know the Waltons life isn't for everyone and we might seem a bit bonkers, but we are really excited to introduce a new member to our clan'.. In the hope that it will ward off What's Wrong With You type comments ?!?

We have a large home for lots of children and my OH works from home so the children aren't lacking in time or space etc and they are always asking for more siblings, and this is the life I've Always wanted, so I don't really Get why pple would write comments like I had last time..
I mean I have lots of friends travelling in the back of beyond or moving up the corporate ladder , which personally is my idea of hell, but I am genuinely happy that they are happy and following their dreams, so obviously just write positive, congratulatory comments when they announce they've landed in a new country / got a promotion..
Am I being butt-hurty and overly sensitive unnecessarily , and would it look rude for me to write something jokey in an attempt to ward off the bat shit crazy comments..?

How can "butt hurt" be homophobic? Gay men aren't the only people who do anal.

vegan eco warriors breeding like rabbits... ya ok.
still gross and vastly unnecessary

Back to having six or more children. You are all going a bit doo lally.

If you can afford it, have the room, etc. etc. Good on you. As I said earlier all these lovely children will be working and contributing to our pensions in time. We haven't got enough of them!

Congratulations OP. I don't envy you, but you know what, it is not about me at all.

If youve got 5 kids expecting your 6th and you don't get government hand outs. Then your dh must be on a very very very good wage. Sadly not all families are as fortune so they have to rely on Tax credits, which shouldn't have to exist as your wages alone should be enough to live on, and if you do need them and don't claim them. That's noone else's fault.
Also do you work. If not, I'm sorry but you're no different to a single jobless mum who is living off the taxes she has paid into.

If you can afford it, have the room, etc. etc. Good on you. As I said earlier all these lovely children will be working and contributing to our pensions in time. We haven't got enough of them!

Good god have you read a newspaper recently? Have you heard about this thing called robots? Automation? Job elimination? Citizens income? Political unrest? Diminishing resources?

OP "We are a family of vegan, eco car driving, considerate of our carbon foot print kinda family , and husband works for a environmental company if tht makes us any less hideous ?!"

No. Puzzles me even more, being allegedly green and adding so many to the population.

I didn't know butt hurt was a problematic expression, is that just MN?

Congratulations

How far are you? Are the older siblings excited?

I hope that everyone who has commented on the environment has no kids & has reduced their carbon footprint to the smallest possible. Otherwise you're hypocrites

Mustbemad, I'd imagine so but dont forget about people who adopt for these reasons too. There's a lot to be said for adopting children in an overpopulated world.

Op I'd never make a rude comment on your Facebook page but I have a friend with four children and I'm slightly edgy when she talks about Eco stuff!

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Nyx fair point, i'll rephrase.

I hope those spouting environmental stuff don't have any biological children. Obviously adoption is different as the poor kids are already here so fair play there.

I announced my fourth with a picture of the scan and titled. Yes this is mine, yes it was planned, my tv works just fine, and no I’m not mental.

@Littlehouseonthepraririe

Congratulations OP. I don't know why people are so sniffy about people having more than 3 kids. Not that many people HAVE a lot of children, not where I come from anyway. I can count on the fingers of one hand, the amount of families I know with more than 3 kids. I used to know more pre 1980s, and there were about 15 families in the 5 streets surrounding me (about 100 homes,) that had 4 or more kids. Now I don't know more than 3 families with more than 4 kids.

I would love to have lots of siblings (I have just one brother who lives 1000s of miles away, and DH has one too who lives on another continent too.) And we have very little extended family; just a few aunts and cousins who live 2 hours away who I see only 4-7 times a year. I have 3 pals who have 5 siblings each - all 45 to 60 y.o. now and I really envy them. Not all big families are close, but they all are. Plus side is, me and DH and our 2 daughters get invited to quite a few big parties of theirs!

By the way, 'butt-hurt' is a fairly common term amongst the younger folk. And also 30-50 somethings who have young kids and teenagers!

I am surprised so many people haven't heard it before.

Don't understand the comments like 'your husband MUST be on a good wage, or you will need tax credits' etc. Tax credits did not exist til about 10-12 years ago, and many families with 4+ children coped just fine then!

I hope those spouting environmental stuff don't have any biological children. Obviously adoption is different as the poor kids are already here so fair play there.

Can you grasp the difference between average childbearing of one (population sharply contracts), two (population gently contracts) and 6 (exponential growth)?

Consider doing some maths.

I have 2 kids because that is what I wanted, so if you want 6 and can support a large family you should.

I also believe that baby no 6 is no less important than baby 1 so you should be as loud and proud announcing as anyone else on Facebook. Anyone with even a remotely negative comment should be deleted for being a judgemental twat

Museum it doesn't matter. OP could have a big family but be exceptionally green. A family of two adults & one child could not give a stuff about the environment. It would probably balance out if you took it on a wider picture.

Nobody has the right to preach their eco crap to other people unless they are doing absolutely everything themselves to limit their own impact.
Rephrase that; of course people have the right, freedom of speech is a bitch sometimes. But it is highly hypocritical

PP mentions jobs and AI
I watched a documentary about this in summer
A couple with 7 children (presumably biological as no adoption mentioned? Though I don't mention it either unless necessary) were talking about how much they feared for the jobs in the future. They showed them with tots, so I was thinking, how did they think they'd get work?

Unless they want would population to get higher and higher and use more and more stuff - which of course some people really do actively want for the future.

I really struggle with people choosing to have several children...id still not be rude enough to comment on Facebook though.

That argument is akin to people who tell infertile couples 'oh you should adopt instead of going down the surrogacy/IVF route'

Tends to be the biggest hypocrites with the biggest mouths

Museum it doesn't matter. OP could have a big family but be exceptionally green. A family of two adults & one child could not give a stuff about the environment. It would probably balance out if you took it on a wider picture.

If you can't grasp the difference between linear and exponential growth, there's not much point in debating this with you.

I'm gonna say your nuts but that's because my body won't conceive number two and your clocking 6! I'm so jealous!

Congrats

OP, you are taking as an insult what is actually a massive compliment. Most people are posting that you are mad etc... because they couldn't cope with what clearly come to you completely naturally.

Most families feel overwhelmed after 2 or 3 kids, and certainly after 4, so they find it amazing that you would be prepared to have another one and on top of that get excited at the prospect of what they see as just more work and hassle!

People are happy for you, their comments are light headed. Saying that, I think the message you intend to post is sweet and not offensive at all, although I still think you'll get the' OMG are you mad' comments

Must "That argument is akin to people who tell infertile couples 'oh you should adopt instead of going down the surrogacy/IVF route"

Sorry, which argument?

I wouldn't dream of saying that to an infertile couple but that's just me.

I did notice that David Cameron was the only politician of his time who dared to say the O word but he didn't limit his family so I was a bit,meh.

Museum I have a great grasp of it thank you 😁 There is more to this than several families having more than one child. But no, don't bother debating with me because I really have no time for stuck up folk. Thanks tho!

Congratulations! 😊🌷

Don’t take the comments personally. It’s just short hand for ‘Fucking hell I couldn’t cope!’ Feel free to feel a little smug that you can 😊. I’d probably say ‘😁 Oh my god, you’re mad’ to a friend, but it would be meant with love. ‘You’re crazy, but I love your crazy, just wow!’ Definitely not negative.

Nyx apologies that posted late. Wasn't aimed at you