Chocolate reindeer incident - who was bu?

[EscapeFromHubby]

Last night I was eating a chocolate reindeer. Had bought it a few days ago but DH wasn't overly pleased I hadn't got him one as well. Ate part of it then left it on the living room side table as I had to go out to the kitchen to do something.

One of the dogs then comes running out of the living room with foil in his mouth chased by DH was says dog has eaten reindeer. Great! My fault, shouldn't have left it on the side. But then DH and DD1 keep giggling about something.

DH and DD1 can be quite the jokers so I think they've eaten the reindeer and are blaming dog. This goes on for a while with them saying it was the dog, no it wasn't, they might've had a bit and got carried away and now it's gone, no they didn't really eat. So I don't know what they've done with it! I start looking around to see if it's hidden anywhere and DD1 starts warm/cold/hot etc. By this point I'm getting really pissed off. It's my chocolate and I want it back.

Then I have the bright idea that if DH has taken my reindeer I'll tip some of his beer away. I tell him this and head to the kitchen, get the bottles out of the fridge and open them. DD1 tells DH she thinks I'm serious and perhaps he should stop me but he doesn't, just more chuckling. So the beer goes down the sink. DH storms out, clearly pissed at me for tipping his beer away. Back in living room reindeer has magically reappeared on table untouched with DD1 trying to say it was there all along. DH then went to bed with the raging arse.

So WIBU to tip DH beer away in return for taking my reindeer (he did have plenty of chances to stop the joke before it got to that point) or was he BU for then getting arsey with me?

I can't get past the part where you eat a chocolate reindeer without sharing it with your husband and child

The whole thing is really, really childish.

I feel the amount of fuss regarding chocolate and dogs borders on hysteria on here sometimes.

Totally agree. My dog ate 3 boxes of Dairy box once, from under the tree, she was ill for a couple of days with the runs but to be fair I would be ill after eating that lot!

Anyway YABU, if you are don't want to share chocolate eat it when you are alone, and throwing beer away...very childish.

It was a ill thought out (and not particularly funny) joke that you took too far (but surely you must know that) by tipping away his beer

Blimey such a long op about something which is not even funny. Just odd. Very very odd.

Completely ridiculous behaviour, you were really greedy not sharing the chocolate and you behaved like a fool pouring his beer away. Why wouldn't you buy some chocolate for everyone if you don't want to share yours. You are supposed to be an example to your children. I pity your daughter

I can't get past the part where you eat a chocolate reindeer without sharing it with your husband and child

I can't get past the part where you think she can't have anything to herself.....

Its not about she can't have anything to herself but that you don't enjoy a treat in front of someone who is not having the same treat. I would expect my chocolates to be mine, so that no one would help themselves without asking me. I would not expect to enjoy your company, without offering to share a treat. I would not routinely have more than one token chocolate when someone was sharing a special box.

Thinking about it, I have absorbed these rules, not think anyone has really pointed them out to me. I remember my offering around their special treats sent out from the UK, so in short supply. Typically they would not be things that we especially liked (maybe they ate those in private, but I don't think so). It was obvious that the thing to do was have a small taste, and leave them the rest.

I think of it as a decent way of living, one that suits me anyway.

The Twits has some more good ideas for dealing with problems like these

Agree, it's fine to have treats to yourself, I do all the time, but I don't sit and eat them in front of the rest of the family who aren't having similar! That's a bit rude.

I still say that anyone who causes anyone else upset and says "it's just a joke, lighten up, grow a thicker skin" can fuck right off. When your "humorous prank" is not making everyone laugh but is actually upsetting someone, then it's not fucking humorous, it's tantamount to bullying.

Hope the dogs ok 🐶

Blimey, OP. So you bought yourself a treat of chocolate and you're supposed to share it. Next time you buy yourself a jumper or a skirt better make sure your DH and DD each get a turn to wear it too.

What's wrong with family members having their own treats? If children spend their pocket money or birthday / Christmas money on sweets are they obliged to share them with the rest of the family? Stuff that.

I only read half the responses, but I disagree with the majority of those I read. I think your DH was being VU to prank you for more than about ten seconds, after that it's not a funny joke, it's just mean. And he's VVU to be roping in DD. I think he's lucky you poured his beer down the sink, sounds like he'd pissed you off enough to pour it over him!

Regardless of anything else (and I too think its selfish to buy yourself chocolate and not share) you've just taught your daughter that when things don't go her way she can throw away someone else's property.

It's sweet that so many on this thread don't have scroungy pets

I think it's fucking depressing there are so many idiot owners who either don't train their dogs not to "scrounge" or have the mental capacity to separate their pets from toxic foods. My friend's lab is on diabetic medication for life because it ate 1/4 box of after eights - it isn't worth the risk not even to be goady on MN

Wow, I didn't realise this would cause such a divide!

It was a Tesco 50p reindeer. Yes I know it's November but it was cheaper than a regular bar of chocolate and I fancied something when I finished work the other night but didn't end up eating it as tired when got home so it lived in the fridge for a few days. DH was eating his own sweets and quite often buys his own munchies. DD is almost 18 and has her own wage that she buys her own treats with. Treats don't get shared in my house unless bought with the intention of sharing - big bar of chocolate/bag of crisps etc. I believe everyone has the right to their own treats and I thought I'd brought my kids up to leave other people's things alone.

After reading some replies saying I should share things I've bought for myself I wondered if I should share my new lipstick with DH and ask if he wants to wear some of my shoes out to his works Xmas do?? Honestly, if I was posting about a toddler not wanting to share a toy and another mum saying my kid was being nasty and selfish and I should make them share I'd be told my toddler has every right to keep their toy to themselves.

I wasn't concerned about the dog because of the way DH reacted. I did suggest DH ring the vet but was met with giggles. Yes I did leave chocolate within reach of a dog but I thought with an adult and near adult in the room they'd make sure the dogs wouldn't take any, like usually happens when anything steal-able is left out.

YABVU. He only his your 50p reindeer for a laugh, you tipped his £3/£4 beer away to be spiteful.

You got yours back, he didn't.

My friend's lab is on diabetic medication for life because it ate 1/4 box of after eights

That's got to be a one in a million then because Labs eat fecking everything on the planet - even after other Labs have eaten it first.

Some are even made of Chocolate.....

It was a bit of a stupid joke by DH and DD. They should have stopped it when they saw you were getting annoyed.

I wouldn't have poured the beer away in response though.

A Lindt reindeer is 100g of chocolate and 550calories, which is an average meal in our house. I would think it gross to eat an entire one

My eyes almost rolled right out of my head at that.

I ate my entire Lindt advent Calendar in one sitting the other day. May be gross but tasted good.

The OPs husband was being a dick with his silly little controlling game. Jokes like that aren’t funny. Sod his beer.

Chocolate is poisonous to varying degrees to everyone/thing. lostinscience.wordpress.com/2012/10/11/death-by-chocolate/

Sounds like a bit of silliness all round TBH.

An entire advent calendar?

My dog once ate a full try of chcolate brownies I had made (and left out to cool). I had used 80% cocoa too and was sure she was going to die.

I dont think it affected her even in the slightest! And she is a cocker spaniel so not a large dog, just has the stomach of a goat!

Yes OddMan, all 24 doors and 160g. Merry Christmas.

TheHungryDonkey

I don't know anyone who hasn't done that before - I think we'd get on well