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Chocolate reindeer incident - who was bu?

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EscapeFromHubby · 17/11/2017 08:33

Last night I was eating a chocolate reindeer. Had bought it a few days ago but DH wasn't overly pleased I hadn't got him one as well. Ate part of it then left it on the living room side table as I had to go out to the kitchen to do something.

One of the dogs then comes running out of the living room with foil in his mouth chased by DH was says dog has eaten reindeer. Great! My fault, shouldn't have left it on the side. But then DH and DD1 keep giggling about something.

DH and DD1 can be quite the jokers so I think they've eaten the reindeer and are blaming dog. This goes on for a while with them saying it was the dog, no it wasn't, they might've had a bit and got carried away and now it's gone, no they didn't really eat. So I don't know what they've done with it! I start looking around to see if it's hidden anywhere and DD1 starts warm/cold/hot etc. By this point I'm getting really pissed off. It's my chocolate and I want it back.

Then I have the bright idea that if DH has taken my reindeer I'll tip some of his beer away. I tell him this and head to the kitchen, get the bottles out of the fridge and open them. DD1 tells DH she thinks I'm serious and perhaps he should stop me but he doesn't, just more chuckling. So the beer goes down the sink. DH storms out, clearly pissed at me for tipping his beer away. Back in living room reindeer has magically reappeared on table untouched with DD1 trying to say it was there all along. DH then went to bed with the raging arse.

So WIBU to tip DH beer away in return for taking my reindeer (he did have plenty of chances to stop the joke before it got to that point) or was he BU for then getting arsey with me?

OP posts:
Dagnabit · 17/11/2017 09:24

Firstly, we all know you should consume chocolate while hiding in the kitchen. Secondly, who puts partly eaten chocolate down? That's just asking for it. Thirdly, you took it too far and was a bad example to your dd. You need to apologise to both dh and dd for your poor behaviour.

user1492958275 · 17/11/2017 09:29

You sound ridiculous and pouring the beer away was a waste of money.

Don't eat sweets/chocolate in front of them if you haven't got them anything as well.

And when you say 'took the bottles out and opened them' .... How many did you waste?

Only1scoop · 17/11/2017 09:32

Mistake was not offering

Way ott pouring beer away

Be careful leaving choc where your dog could eat it

LizzieSiddal · 17/11/2017 09:32

"I would have been straight onto the vet first. If your dog had eaten Chocolate, it would need an injection to make him sick.
I have seen the after effects of chocolate poisoning in my work and it's not pretty"

Hmm surely you understand that

  1. half of a chocolate reindeer is not a lot of chocolate for any size of dog.
  2. Dogs are only affected by plain, dark choc.

My little Jack Russell scoffed about a quarter of a plain choc bar which dh accidently dropped on the floor. I didn't rush to the vets, I looked online and found the calculator which the vets use (very simple to find). It told me the dog was at no risk of any harm.

Aside from that, OP you really should learn to share!

washingmachinefastwash · 17/11/2017 09:34

It’s a chocolate reindeer.

To be honest, I would be more concerned with the dog potentially getting it.

My dog had to have vomit inducing medication because he had found chocolate and scoffed the lot.

ShoesHaveSouls · 17/11/2017 09:36

YABU on 2 counts I'm afraid OP.

  • eating a choc reindeer and not sharing.
  • pouring beer down the sink for no good reason.
Rebeccaslicker · 17/11/2017 09:36

YABU to eat chocolate reindeer in NOVEMBER. It's not Christmas yet!

Rebeccaslicker · 17/11/2017 09:38

The dog chocolate thing confuses me, being a dog lover but never a dog owner (sodding allergies!). Obv I would never ever let anyone's dog have chocolate now I know what it can do. But when we were kids, more than one friend and I would feed their dogs chocolate because we didn't know not to. They were always fine. Is it just certain breeds/types of chocolate? Is it that we probably only gave them like one button each? I'm hugely relieved we didn't hurt any of them!

mumeeee · 17/11/2017 09:39

You WYBU and childish. It was on some chocolate and you knew they were just messing around.

JaneEyre70 · 17/11/2017 09:40

My reaction would have been to get straight on the phone to the vet, not pour beer away Hmm

TSSDNCOP · 17/11/2017 09:40

You poured away beer? That's a capital offence in our house.

LouBlue1507 · 17/11/2017 09:41

Wow some people love to be OTT and dramatic. The dog didn't eat the chocolate! Wtf should OP have her dog removed?

Loungingbutnotforlong · 17/11/2017 09:49

Your DH sounds v unreasonable- I cannot stand people that take a (rubbish) joke too far, even when the other person is getting upset and not finding it funny- it’s bullying. That said, you didn’t need to sink to their level and escalate the whole situation out of proportion by pouring the beer away.
Unless this is symptomatic of a wider problem with you being selfish and DH being an immature bully, I would draw a line under it (maybe buy everyone a chocolate reindeer for the weekend).

Loungingbutnotforlong · 17/11/2017 09:51

Also- if this was coming to the level of bullying, you’d have been better just leaving the room and ignoring them- you might be accused of being humourless, but at least your DH is not getting the pleasure of seeing you upset while he pretends he is a ‘joker.’

PiffleandWiffle · 17/11/2017 09:51

Do any of you that are banging on about vets actually own dogs?

I have mates & family with dogs that have demolished entire stockings of chocolate on Christmas Eve (or whenever it's in the house) - & have always survived just fine! Main worry has been about the foil, but it all comes out in the end....

Our dog used to love chocolate & he lived to be 15....

Back to the important bit....

OP YAB Massively U to waste beer over chocolate FFS....

CotswoldStrife · 17/11/2017 09:53

I hope this is some kind of reverse or simply not true. If not, are there health issues at play here because your reaction is completely over the top and vengeful - all that over a bit of chocolate? Really?

CanuckBC · 17/11/2017 09:54

I am really surprised at the answers here! Who really cares if she wants to eat all of the Christmas chocolates in November is she wants to. Is it really so offensive? It’s been in some stores in Canada since October is not earlier. It’s chocolate, whatever shape it’s in shouldn’t really matter! If it’s a special flavour etc, all the more to relish it while you can get it!!

For eating it in front of DH/DD, it sounds like it wasn’t around them but they saw it out. I admit, I do the same and my kids know it’s mine and that sometimes as the parents I get a treat and they don’t. It works the other way more often then not. They deal with it. I do usually hide it but if they see the treat, it’s not the end of the world.

The joke was not funny. First to make her think the dog may have eaten it and although may have not been deathly ill, it usually comes out badly at the other end. Then to continue it when she called them on it and continue on and on. My ex was like this, jokes that weren’t really jokes and aren’t that funny to anyone but him. They were more mean spirited then anything. Unfortunately my oldest son is picking up his so called humour.

I suspect with the beer retaliation it’s not the first time. Sometimes enough is enough. The DH could have easily said, ha ha, it was a joke, here’s your chocolate.

I also don’t know how big the reindeer chocolate is and how shareable it would be. How bad is it for mom to have a treat for herself once in a while?

VladmirsPoutine · 17/11/2017 09:55

You shouldn't have poured away the beer. I'd probably divorce you for being so petty.

CanuckBC · 17/11/2017 09:56

So many typos! It’s almost 2 am and I haven’t slept yet, that is my excuse and I am sticking to it😁. hopefully you can decipher I was trying to say, if not please ask for clarification.

FlipFlopFlappy · 17/11/2017 09:56

What a silly carry on. If it was me I’d think it was great that dd and dh were having a laugh together even if it was at my expense.

madeyemoodysmum · 17/11/2017 09:57

What frlliygorse said with bells on.

Clandestino · 17/11/2017 09:58

I get your DH, think it was simply a joke. Wasting the beer was moronic.
It's actually ironic that you are bringing this to a parental forum because you sound really childish and immature.
So my suggestion would be to apologise to your DH for the beer and next time get some sweets for everybody, not only for yourself. I only buy stuff for myself when I'm 100% sure they don't like it.

DownTheChimney · 17/11/2017 10:01

You are. First for not sharing your chocolate, second for needless waste.

This^
Also agree with Piffle my dogs have eaten chocolate (not intentionally) and never died Shock

daisychain01 · 17/11/2017 10:01

No wonder Christmas is the peak time for divorce!

Don't forget to include the reason "DH ate my reindeer and blamed it on the dog".

HardHatForTesco · 17/11/2017 10:02

In my family we share - I wouldn't sit and eat chocolate in front of others if they wanted some too!!!
As for the waste of beer - that's just ridiculous.

Time you all grew up.

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