Chocolate reindeer incident - who was bu?

[EscapeFromHubby]

Last night I was eating a chocolate reindeer. Had bought it a few days ago but DH wasn't overly pleased I hadn't got him one as well. Ate part of it then left it on the living room side table as I had to go out to the kitchen to do something.

One of the dogs then comes running out of the living room with foil in his mouth chased by DH was says dog has eaten reindeer. Great! My fault, shouldn't have left it on the side. But then DH and DD1 keep giggling about something.

DH and DD1 can be quite the jokers so I think they've eaten the reindeer and are blaming dog. This goes on for a while with them saying it was the dog, no it wasn't, they might've had a bit and got carried away and now it's gone, no they didn't really eat. So I don't know what they've done with it! I start looking around to see if it's hidden anywhere and DD1 starts warm/cold/hot etc. By this point I'm getting really pissed off. It's my chocolate and I want it back.

Then I have the bright idea that if DH has taken my reindeer I'll tip some of his beer away. I tell him this and head to the kitchen, get the bottles out of the fridge and open them. DD1 tells DH she thinks I'm serious and perhaps he should stop me but he doesn't, just more chuckling. So the beer goes down the sink. DH storms out, clearly pissed at me for tipping his beer away. Back in living room reindeer has magically reappeared on table untouched with DD1 trying to say it was there all along. DH then went to bed with the raging arse.

So WIBU to tip DH beer away in return for taking my reindeer (he did have plenty of chances to stop the joke before it got to that point) or was he BU for then getting arsey with me?

YWBU. And wasteful. And childish. And mean for not sharing.

apparently its dark chocolate & the ammo of chocolate/size of dog.
a chihuahua would be very ill if it ate a cooking slab of black chocolate apparently

"They are highly unlikely to have done it thinking it would upset her"

So why didn't they stop when it obviously was annoying her?

DD sounds more mature than both of her parents

The dog sounds like the most mature in the family.

But, silly to eat a choc reindeer in November, just buy a milk chocolate bar & hide it in the fridge next time
Share it & buy another
Walk away when they wind you up

Sounds like you need to re-introduce nap time to keep family in good humour and good behaviour through to bed time. That's for the adults. The child is the only one that comes away with any dignity.

I have to agree with the majority here - this was a silly set up from the start.
It's not nice to eat chocolate in front of people whom you haven't bought any for, that's a bit rude to start with.
It's really stupid to suggest that the dog has eaten chocolate, because you should ALL know that chocolate is not healthy for dogs unless it is special dog chocolate that has had the theobromine removed.
Your reaction is why they carried on the "joke" (one that I find unutterably unfunny) - but in terms of you playing "tit for tat" then I can understand why you would have threatened to tip his beer away.

However, you should maybe have tipped it into a glass rather than down the sink, as now they've returned your chocolate, so you have no net loss, but DH's beer has gone.

And that's the most reasonable response I could come up with.

Think YWBU to be buying and eating choc reindeer's in November tbh.... (misses point of thread)

Newtssuitcase - you have a very idealistic idea of how prankers work! Half the fun of a "prank" (which is why I loathe them and the perpetrators) is enjoying how wound up and upset the "victim" becomes.

You were going to eat a whole chocolate reindeer in front of your DH &DD without sharing? That's the unreasonable bit right there.

An overdose of chocolate can kill a dog, depends on the dog and the chocolate, but can be very serious

The fact you weren’t immediately concerned that your dog had eaten chocolate is bloody worrying.

If DP and DD had eaten your chocolate then why not just ‘hope you enjoyed it, you owe me another one DP’ I get you were annoyed and I would be too, but opening new bottles of beer and pouring it away is just ridiculous.

It's fine to joke but only if the jokers know when enough's enough. Unfortunately they didn't and it was clear it was pissing you off (very unreasonable of them), so you dealt with it in a similar fashion. Your DH had plenty of warning that if he didn't make your chocolate reappear then you'd make something he likes disappear. He kept joking, you did what you'd warned you'd do. Consequences of actions I say. It was all ridiculous but he was more unreasonable IMHO.

It sounds as if underneath you are very resentful and angry with your DH. You were glad to take the opportunity to vent against him by emptying the beer down the sink. Sounds like jokes go too far in your house, and people enjoy tormenting and being cruel to each other, and pretending it's a joke.
It's like bullying really. Hiding something and really, really, not giving it back and enjoying seeing the person tormented and getting upset. Like hiding someone's lunch at school and then waiting ages and ages to give it back.
Also shows an inability to communicate by reasonable discussion when people immediately resort to flouncing and revenge behaviour that's over the top. If it was just the two of you on your own it might have been OK but your DD was made to partake in the whole thing, and she may not have wanted it to go that far.
Her parents started with a small joke and that quickly escalated into a fairly serious row where your DH stormed away in huff. And she was made part of that.

Beer down the sink was a bit harsh.

They were hiding the chocolate for a laugh. If you weren't finding it funny anymore you should have just sat down and watched TV/looked at your phone for a bit while the appeal wore off and they gave it back.

Yes, choc is poison to dogs. Genuine panic and starting to ring the vet would have got the choc back as well.

I would have been straight onto the vet first. If your dog had eaten Chocolate, it would need an injection to make him sick.
I have seen the after effects of chocolate poisoning in my work and it's not pretty.
If it was a joke, then meh, just let it go. Pouring beer away is pretty childish.

"It was all ridiculous but he was more unreasonable IMHO."

I agree with that.

In fact I think that the whole post just sums it up perfectly.

The question you should be asking is how is your dog?

1. you should have your dog removed from you
2. youre an adult. Stop eating seasonal chocolate in novembrr
3. i would be massively pissed off at you if i were your husband

This is not a serious thread surely?

So many things awry here but lets face it, whilst everyone is being so judgemental can everyone who is judging honestly say they have never lost it and got upset when a joke has gone too far, regardless of who was at fault in the first place.

I would recommend hugs and apologies all round in the cold light of day (and try not to get too upset when DH doesn't apologise properly, if he's anything like mine) I would also probably pop to the shop and stock up on chocolate reindeer for everyone tonight and perhaps replace the beer.

I would think that the fact that he husband wasn't on the phone to the vet is how the Op knew that the dog hadn't eaten any chocolate!

Firstly, are you both 5? Secondly, who buys chocolate just for them and then eats it in front of their family members without sharing? Ugh.

Only arseholes think it's funny to continue a joke if the target is getting upset rather than laughing.

If they'd just done the dog thing, had a giggle, and then revealed the chocolate it would have been a joke.

Refusing to hand over the chocolate after the OP had rumbled them shows they were doing it mean spiritedly to 'punish' her. People hide all kind of shitty bullying behaviour under 'it was just a joke'.

YWBMU

It was a joke - your reindeer was always going to come back given you knew it was hidden - you just wasted money and beer by pouring it away.

Talk about an overreaction.

Oh, and don't leave chocolate around when you've a dog - be responsible