Is a nice advent calendar too much to expect?

[IsLindtTooMuchToAsk]

Ok, so......

Every year I buy DS and DH a well thought about, nice advent calendar, well in advance of December 1st.

Around about November 28th and usually while in the supermarket DH says “ooh, you don’t have an advent calendar yet, choose one you like while we’re here” and so I end up with “whatever’s left” in said Supermarket.

Same thing happens at Easter. Every. Fucking. Year.

So, around mid October this year I send DH a link to a very lovely advent calendar containing my absolute favourite chocolates (see username!) with a jokey #justsaying lol he says “is that a hint? Lol” YES!!!

Cut to start of November I come home with advent calendars for them both. Knowing DH prefers sweets to chocolate I bought him a Haribo one. Top wife points!!

Now here’s my dilemma...... there has been no hint or suggestion of my advent calendar so do I:

A) hold out til December 1st in the hope that my hint plus Haribo effort get me the advent calendar of my dreams?

B) start dropping some MAJOR hints again while he still has time to sort it?

C) outright tell him that he better be planning to buy me the fucking advent calendar.

D) but it myself because let’s face it, I’m not getting the advent calendar from DH am I?

Ummm just buy your own like the rest of us?

I would say b and if b doesn't work, c

Lol

I’m coming round to that way of thinking.....

Just buy it yourself?? Don't actually know any adults that have their own advent calendar, or at least none that are so bothered about it.

Just buy it yourself.

I always think if gifts between married couples, have to be specifically asked for/strongly hinted at, somehow it becomes more like placing an order than receiving a gift.

So yes, just pick one up for yourself in future, when you're picking up theirs.

D - it's win win, if he forgets you have yours and if he remembers you'll have two!

I always think if gifts between married couples, have to be specifically asked for/strongly hinted at, somehow it becomes more like placing an order than receiving a gift.

This is exactly why I’m reluctant to drop any more hints but then I know I’ll be in a mood for not having one when they both have them.

God I’m sounding like such a spoilt brat

How come you don’t just grab yours when you’re out getting theirs? Genuinely?

I don’t get the problem here - just buy all three at the same time. The Lindt one is about £6, it’s hardly the Jo Malone type where you might feel extravagant buying it for yourself.

ummm D , if you want it go buy it, why nag your husband?

I was brought up that they’re bought as a gift and both my family and DHs family buy them for each other as gifts - I genuinely didn’t realise people buy their own advent calendars!?

DH has bought me one every year, my gripe is that he leaves it until the last minute and then buys me anything to hand rather than putting thought into it like I do with his iyswim?

If you want a specific advent calender, buy it.

If you're not fussed, just wait till your DH gets you whatever is in the supermarket.

YABU, it's an advent calendar. I genuinely don't understand why, since you're buying two for your DS and DH you don't just buy your own?!

Even if you have a tradition of "gifting" advent calendars, you don't like the "gift" you usually get so just buy the one you do want. It's surely all coming out of the same money so why does it matter whether you're the one who physically pays for it or not?

I genuinely didn’t realise people buy their own advent calendars!?

I'm not sure they do. Most people I know buy them only for children.

yo9u was brought up that it was a gift?

ita a bloody calendar just buy one

id hate to buy you presents thyr prob all petrified of getting it wrong

It's surely all coming out of the same money

Not really, we manage our finances separately.

id hate to buy you presents thyr prob all petrified of getting it wrong

I’m generally pretty easy to buy for, think I’ve just got a buzz in my bonnet about him not putting any thought into it

Bloody knew I was BU

*toddles off to give oneself a stern talking to

I’d be annoyed if he

I buy them early from the Cathedral shop they are beautiful religious ones with meaning and divine pictures. Kids hate them!! They want chocolate .....

Dropped the phone! I’d be annoyed if he didn’t put effort into my actual Christmas present but to me an advent calendar certainly isn’t a gift or worth bothering about. Well maybe the really expensive ones are more of a gift, but not chocolate ones.

But even if he buys it he hasn't put any thought into it as you have specifically told him to buy it.

Literally the only difference between him buying it and you buying it is that he touches it for a few seconds longer before you do.

Just buy a carton of Lindt for yourself and screw the advent calendar.

Advent calendars are just for the kids in our house. We've got paw patrol and Lego. I can't be bothered with worrying about advent calendars for the adults.

Does it have to be a present? Can’t you just buy three?

I agree with PP; buy your own.

I got a box of 150 Lindt truffles delivered today. They're destined to be teacher/coworker gifts.

What’s he like with actual Christmas and birthday presents?

Meanwhile I’d probably buy myself a few boxes of Lindt and eat way more than 1 a day.

Just get your own. I wouldn't buy for your husband either though. When you go to the supermarket just say, oh, you haven't got an advent calendar yet. Better get yourself one