Is a nice advent calendar too much to expect?

[IsLindtTooMuchToAsk]

Ok, so......

Every year I buy DS and DH a well thought about, nice advent calendar, well in advance of December 1st.

Around about November 28th and usually while in the supermarket DH says “ooh, you don’t have an advent calendar yet, choose one you like while we’re here” and so I end up with “whatever’s left” in said Supermarket.

Same thing happens at Easter. Every. Fucking. Year.

So, around mid October this year I send DH a link to a very lovely advent calendar containing my absolute favourite chocolates (see username!) with a jokey #justsaying lol he says “is that a hint? Lol” YES!!!

Cut to start of November I come home with advent calendars for them both. Knowing DH prefers sweets to chocolate I bought him a Haribo one. Top wife points!!

Now here’s my dilemma...... there has been no hint or suggestion of my advent calendar so do I:

A) hold out til December 1st in the hope that my hint plus Haribo effort get me the advent calendar of my dreams?

B) start dropping some MAJOR hints again while he still has time to sort it?

C) outright tell him that he better be planning to buy me the fucking advent calendar.

D) but it myself because let’s face it, I’m not getting the advent calendar from DH am I?

Mmm I definitely know advent calendars are now marketed to adults as well. I just hadn't realised people really are so stupid they are sucked into more mass consumerism and take them seriously.

I always thought gin and cheese ones were the sort of thing you bought a loved one as a joke one year and that was it.

I know some adults have the cheap chocolate ones again for a bit of fun but seriously to give them even a second thought is bizarre.

Slimy who said it was a tradition? OP? What if the DH thinks it's all a bit silly?

I don't see why anyone MUST conform to their partner's ideas of what's nice or not in things like this.

I don’t understand, thought advent calendars were for children

This. If you want daily chocolate/gin/craft beer/candles then go buy some. You don't need to countdown to Christmas, you aren't 5.

Basecamp21. Well thank God you are neither stupid not a sucker!

I would try and put aside your feelings OP about advent calendars being bought in a reciprocal gift type way and just buy one you like if you want one.

With the Lindt one is it a different flavour every day? Selfridges do pick and mix of different flavour Lindt chocolates so you could always pick your own and make it exactly how you want it.

I flipping love doing advent calendars, me. This year DD has requested a Pusheen one & (as they don't seem to make one) I have been so excited looking for all the bits & bobs to put in it.

I don't normally have one myself but I saw a link to a German street picture calendar the other day which I quite liked the look of so might see if I can get that.

You don't need to countdown to Christmas, you aren't 5

My 10 year old counts down to Christmas, best tell him to stop.

I'm 37 and I count down to Christmas! Bloody love it!

We just buy them for our kids too. I must admit I never get threads with people complaining about what their partner does or does nor buy them though. Doesn’t sound like he is going to change and dropping hints is only going to set him up for failure. If he is a good partner in other ways, can I suggest letting go of the advent calendar thing and buying your own. If it makes yourself feel better..buy an advent calendar plus a massive box of Lindts as a treat to yourself to make up for the fact that buying your own calendar was not your first choice. Lindt have some new flavours in for Christmas I noticed.

Buy it yourself but don't let him know.

That way, if he does buy you it then you have 2, and who doesn't want extra chocolate.

If he doesn't then you still have one nice one.

Some of you are so judgemental.

German little town calendar here in case anyone is interested!

Little Town advent calendar

(They also sell it on amazon)

I still buy the the children theirs and I think they’d be upset if I didn’t. Our main two are ones we refill each year, so now when children aren’t home we have to open one each.

Lindt have some new flavours in for Christmas I noticed.

Which ones are they? Quite partial to a Lindt chocolate...

I've never had an advent calendar as an adult, and only realised last year that other adults had them. I just assumed they were for kids.

I've had a tough year, so decided to treat myself to a stupidly expensive John Lewis one this year. I'm ridiculously excited about it.

I wouldn't expect anyone else to get me one. I don't buy DH one either. I don't think he would appreciate it in any case!

An advent calendar may not be important to some of you, but if it is important to the OH- can’t you respect that fact and let her have her say without comments like “it’s only for Children.”

I was given an assortment of Lindt balls from Germany which included a delicious chocolate orange flavour I hadn't seen before. Hope I can get those here.

*My 10 year old counts down to Christmas, best tell him to stop.

I'm 37 and I count down to Christmas! Bloody love it!*

10 year old - yeah fine.
If you do this by opening little windows of 'stuff' then good grief!!!

I bought one for myself. Kids will have theirs, so I thought, I want one too. It's lily o'briens and it is very decadent. You pull out drawers to get the sweets so I've eaten a few already. I can re stock though. I might restock with lindt next year in time for the beginning of december
this one just treat yourself!

Japanese that's beautiful!

Silvercatowner. Oh don't worry yourself about what someone else enjoys doing for Christmas. At least she sounds like fun.

Advent calendars are for whoever wants one. My daughter is excited about her boots number 7 one. In fact, only the child in our house hasn't got one. I will get one for him too though.

It's all part and parcel of christmas. I am shocked some people would judge an advent calendar.. Wow, there's nothing some people won't judge!! It's not like somebody is actually sitting their feeling ok i'll open this winddow and then christmas will be one day closer. Don't be so joyless at christmas. you have the rest of the year to be joyless.

I just pick up 2 Advent calendars for me and DH when I am doing the supermarket shop, I treated DS(25) to a Hotel Chocolate one this year. I also have treated myself to the M&S beauty advent calendar

We all have advent calendars

At least she sounds like fun.

I guess we will need to agree to disagree about the concept of 'fun'!!!

I thought advent calendars were just for kids.

But I quite fancy a Lindt one now!

I think you’re right OP, give him another week then order it yourself so you don’t miss out. And if you end up with two, well then, Merry Christmas to you

If you really think he hasn't got you one, buy it yourself.

If you want to make a point with a huge amount of snark, buy a second one that he wouldn't like (but kids would) and present it to him a few days before November. Tell him it was all that was left and leave it a day before presenting him with his real one.

Then you can donate the spare one to a food bank (so you'd need to do it in good time).