To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??

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NC as could be outing.

So we are suppose to be visiting friends this weekend. They have a 6 month old we have a toddler. They want to go out for dinner and drink then go back to theirs and pop open the champagne. Apparently they have quite a few bottles. My DP friend then said he's going to guzzle the wine and his wife will be drinking too.

Obviously most of the drinking will be when the kids are in bed but AIBU to think you wouldn't do this?? What if something happened like an emergency and you needed to go out or the baby needed something. I wouldn't want to get really drunk while caring for my D'S.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

AIBU or would other people do this?

Foo mate, sorry but you wouldn't have even brought up the parent's drinking if you weren't somehow placing the blame on it in some small way. It was a bit of a dick move tbh but not the end of the world. I wouldn't say it out loud though, people in your town might know the family and be upset by that kind of view

YABU and very judgy. If you don't want to, don't, but don't imply there's something wrong with people who do drink around their children.

You don't sound like you like them very much, OP. Why not be honest and not hang out with them, send your DP alone, rather than sit there judging?

I would say it’s odd.

I’ve got drunk with my OH. I’ve got drunk with my friends.

But I’ve never got drunk with a baby.

How much can they drink? I’m guessing a baby would expect me to buy the booze, too...

And how do you tell when they’ve had too much?

Doesn’t sound all that much fun.

Have a fun festive season, you'll probably be alone knitting or something

Crochet actually. It's quicker than knitting and therefore more satisfying

I did no such thing. I made it clear in my statement "because there were no ambulances in the area" I never have blamed the parents. It was simply a story which sent a shiver down my spine at the time. I know I would feel horrible if it were me, which is why I make sure someone is sober

Yeh right pull the other one, its pretty clear what you meant without actually saying it otherwise there would be no need to mention the story.

YANBU it is actually a crime to be intoxicated and in charge of a child under 7 years old!
And for the record that doesn’t mean you can’t have a couple of glasses of wine it mean you can’t be falling over drunk!
Also for the record I am no hypocrite. I do not drink, no not even one.

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That comes as no surprise katie

katie rtft - it's not, in fact, unless you're out in public in charge of them. Which clearly you wouldn't be. And nobody is defending getting insensible whilst being in sole charge of a child.

Foo mate, sorry but you wouldn't have even brought up the parent's drinking if you weren't somehow placing the blame on it in some small way
I would have blamed me if it were me. That's as far as it goes. And I'm not a gossip, so that wouldn't ever be a problem.

i'm sorry to hear your DC has been so poorly
She isn't poorly. She has a disability.

Jesus, the state of this thread.

People who don't get pissed whilst in charge of their kids are not ' boring' and don't have to ' get a life'

The parents that need to get a life are ones that think drinking and being drunk in front of your kids, then being too hung over the next day to look after them properly is absolutely fine.

Honestly, the drinking culture in this country is pathetic ifgetting drunk around your kids is acceptable. And as for smoking weed whilst they are in the house..that's utterly shameful in my opinion.

If it’s a criminal offence in public then it’s more than likely reasonable grounds for child neglect or an EPO. Obviously each case would need to be considered on its own merits but I damn well know Ive worked with families who have had action taken due to being pissed up whilst apparently caring for small children.

But hey if you speak nicely and live in a affluent area your less likely to have a police officer knock on your door when your pissed up and far less likely to have them react to it when they realise a kid is around than if your on a shitty estate.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

The irony of this statement in your amazingly judgmental OP is fabulous!

Who said anyone's getting pissed, I never get hammered but a large wine is over the limit for driving and that's what I don't understand ffs!! The bloody "on standby for a&e" mindset is bonkers, sanctimonius and bizarre imo

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

3 bottles of champagne won’t get very far, what 2/3 small flutes each? And in none of your posts have you said the dw will be ‘guzzling wine’ Just that she is looking forward to a drink.

Yes - both parents getting completely shit faced would be completely irresponsible (tbh I think getting in that state regardless of looking after children is a bit irresponsible) But having a few drinks is not something I would worry about.

People on here seem to think it is all or nothing, really weird!

"People on here seem to think it is all or nothing, really weird!"

Isn't it?!

I basically think a lot of people with kids have reaaaaaally boring lives where they are basically the perfect capitalist subject, always disciplined for work. And they try to rationalise that with a kind of sanctimoniousness. I say BAH to that and raise a glass of whisky to Dionysus.

That's on you, not on me

No, it's still on you. You mentioned the childs death on a thread about parents drinking, as a reason why not to.
That is all you. I understand you feel ashamed of linking the two, that is natural, however owning it and apologising would be more appropriate than insisting that the multiple people who understood it fully are in some way wrong.

Erm... I think people who want to get drunk, with or without kids, have a problem. And are weird, unless they are under 25 and still learning how to behave properly.

I don't get the mindset that people must have boring lives because they don't intake a particular liquid. Bizarre.

You are not BU,in my opinion.
It is an offence to be drunk in charge of a minor.I appreciate you will be at home but still the dangers are there.would you get steaming drunk and drive?no because your ability to cope,to assess,to react are severely impaired.so why be caring for children in that state?I've been to fatal house fires with dead children due to drunken parents leaving candles on.I've been to homes where a neighbour has call in a child screaming,we found drunk parents out for the count on alcohol and extremely frightened,hungry,thirsty children cuddled up on beds.and boy do social services then get a hold of your file.
I appreciate this is a worse case scenario,but it does happen and any person in charge of a minor should limit their alcohol to a sensible level.you can still have fun.
Have a great time,

I don't get the mindset that people must have boring lives because they don't intake a particular liquid. Bizarre

do you need it explaining for the 4th time?

It is an offence to be drunk in charge of a minor

NO IT IS NOT.

Nothing wrong with this as the baby is safe. I sometimes have a smoke/spliff when DD is in bed. Only on weekends though.

The parents that need to get a life are ones that think drinking and being drunk in front of your kids, then being too hung over the next day to look after them properly is absolutely fine

This! Fair enough if you want a glass or two but getting trollied while in charge of wee ones really isn’t on. I bet all those saying it’s totally fine would be horrified at someone coked off their head or on heroin in charge of a small child! It’s the same fucking thing, you’re impaired!

Try turning up at A&E with a poorly wee one when you’re wasted and see how ok the staff there think it is (hint, they’ll call the police because it’s child neglect and illegal!)