To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??

[Choccywoccydoo10]

NC as could be outing.

So we are suppose to be visiting friends this weekend. They have a 6 month old we have a toddler. They want to go out for dinner and drink then go back to theirs and pop open the champagne. Apparently they have quite a few bottles. My DP friend then said he's going to guzzle the wine and his wife will be drinking too.

Obviously most of the drinking will be when the kids are in bed but AIBU to think you wouldn't do this?? What if something happened like an emergency and you needed to go out or the baby needed something. I wouldn't want to get really drunk while caring for my D'S.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

AIBU or would other people do this?

Unfortunately if you strongly disagree with something on Mumsnet, that's not allowed. You must either disagree a little bit or not at all or you'll be deemed preachy, sanctimonious and a pearl clutcher. It's pretty standard Mumsnet tosh and in real life, people are much more accepting of lifestyle choices.

A hotel sounds good.

PAH! *Professor, are you really criticising others of not being accepting of other's life-style choices? Oh the irony...

Just because I disagree with something doesn't mean I don't accept it. That's not ironic...

I disagree strongly with religion, I accept that some of my friends have beliefs.

Funnily enough, some of my friends that drink disagree with my opinions on alcohol but wait... they accept it!

Makes you wonder how anyone over thirty is still alive, the way we take everything so seriously now. It’s a rum do if you can’t get drunk occasionally. I brought up five boys and not once did we have to rush to hospital with any of them at night. Some serious perspective needed. Oh and they are all still alive! 😬

YANBU I was told that it is actually illegal to be drunk in charge of a child under 7.

marymoosmum only in public. It is not illegal to be drunk in charge of a child in your own home.

And what constitutes "drunk" anyway? One person's limit is another person's sober.

ok so yes it is illegal to be drunk while in sole charge of a minor under 7. However, having a few drinks (or even getting completely smashed) is not going to kill the kids. We do have a 1 parent at least slightly sober rule in my house but there has been the odd occasion when ive been completely wasted, nothing happened. in fact the last time I was sat in the garden with my bestie and we sat there and drank a litre of vodka neat between us playing the have u ever game, it wasn't until I stood up that I realised how shitfaced I was and I did worry about my dd but just that worry (and a strong black coffee) sobbered me up within 1/2 hour and it was all good. No hospital needed and the world didn't end.
id b a little concerned if shes breastfeeding but hey even then if she expresses enough b4 having a drink it's fine.

ok so yes it is illegal to be drunk while in sole charge of a minor under 7

In PUBLIC. Not in private. And "drunk" does not mean over the drink drive limit.

@marymoosmum there's no point in even trying...most people here are adamant that being drunk around young children is acceptable behaviour, best just leave them to it.

it's the same if it at home too bit both parents (or every adult in the house) would have to be completely impaired and incapable of tending to a child if they were to wake up or there be an emergency

Actually I couldn’t care less what other people do or don’t do with their kids, that’s their decision. So I’ll revise my statement to not being impaired enough while in charge of MY kids to be unfit. But since I don’t drink (stomach problems which mean it’s just not worth my while) it’s not an issue.

So aye, if any of my friends got into such a state they weren’t fit I’d probably offer to have the kids for the night, but other than that not my concern.

Unfortunately if you strongly disagree with something on Mumsnet, that's not allowed

No, its definitely not allowed to disagree. It's not like that is the entire fucking point of the entire fucking website or anything.

Honestly, what do you think this place actually IS?

Did you mean to be so rude? It’s really ironic that you’ve taken such an issue with people apparently being offensive when in reality your posts are far more offensive than anyone else’s!

Me? Yes, I did.

When do parents get to feel human if not when their kids are asleep?

I STILL don't understand the point about it being illegal. Why is this so important to you? It's clearly not enforced, it's something to be used to prosecute should anything happen to a child in the care of a drunk person. You ALL KNOW the police aren't patrolling private houses and family pubs arresting people who they think are drunk whilst their children are present.

The whole constant dragging up that it's illegal sounds so dim, honestly. I don't get it. It's robotic

It's not illegal.

Personally, I wouldn’t have more than one or two drinks in charge of any child because your judgement and reactions are impaired. I wouldn’t do it, especially with a baby that young.
It’s fine to get drunk as a parent but not when responsible for the children. Get someone to watch them for the night or have a “designated” sober person.

says above it is in public

then you need to specify in public, because we are talking about in private.

Personally, I wouldn’t have more than one or two drinks in charge of any child because your judgement and reactions are impaired. I wouldn’t do it, especially with a baby that young

You've got your pronouns mixed up. You start with I wouldn't and then move to your judgements are impaired. What you mean is YOUR judgement is impaired, that does not mean other peoples necessarily are.

When you are speaking about your personal choice, please do not then apply it to everyone else.

Hotbutteredcrumpets calm down and stop snapping at anyone who posts. If you read My post you'll see it's not about whether is illegal, it's the ridiculousness of that even being a factor in whether or not people should drink whilst looking after their children

We have both incurred the wrath of MN over alcohol Choccywoccydoodah10... I started a thread about my DHs drinking (3 large glasses for no 'reason' last night. Wouldn't/couldn't help with DCs/dinner).

Yes parents get drunk and should be able to have a laugh. If both parents were bladdered with such a young kid then that wouldn't be good. But sounds like he's on a mission and his Mrs will have to keep vaguely sober.