To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??

[Choccywoccydoo10]

NC as could be outing.

So we are suppose to be visiting friends this weekend. They have a 6 month old we have a toddler. They want to go out for dinner and drink then go back to theirs and pop open the champagne. Apparently they have quite a few bottles. My DP friend then said he's going to guzzle the wine and his wife will be drinking too.

Obviously most of the drinking will be when the kids are in bed but AIBU to think you wouldn't do this?? What if something happened like an emergency and you needed to go out or the baby needed something. I wouldn't want to get really drunk while caring for my D'S.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

AIBU or would other people do this?

hotbuttered

Do you really feel is necessary to jump on everyone on my post as soon as they say something you disagree with. Just agree to disagree and leave it at that!

RaisonableLady yes i know i had no idea this was such a touchy subject!!!

YANBU OP. I'll never understand the mentality of getting plastered while you are responsible for young children. Completely unnecessary and potentially dangerous.

hotbuttered

You sound like a very angry person. Why don't you have a nice glass of wine? It might chill you out a bit

I suppose after 16 pages the point is it's not odd at all, we're all at it. Ching Ching

Totally agree with you OP. It is odd and I will judge. Being incapable around children you're responsible for is at best inappropriate. Besides the fact that hangovers are vile and make caring for children properly very difficult.
All the posters minimising this behaviour are trying to justify their own drinking lifestyles.

Don't need to justify it brightredpencil

Currently sat reading through this with a glass bottle of red whilst my dd is tucked up nicely in bed.

I think alot of people are deliberately missing the point here. Nobody is saying don't drink any alcohol what so ever, the op from the very beginning referred to guzzling alcohol with the intention of getting drunk. 2 entirely different things. One which is acceptable when looking after a baby, the other most definitely is not.

It's not "most definitely not ok" to get drunk wyrh a child in the house though. That's the point, sleeping children, drunk parents... lots of people don't see the problem

@bubblebubblepop...it's doesn't make it ok though

Why not? Who gets to decide what's ok?

Ultimately you, if you think getting drunk when caring for a baby is acceptable then carry on. I am rather comfortable being in the minority on this thread in thinking it is completely irresponsible.

Each to their own.

Yanbu
People getting drunk with their kids about makes me cringe, there’s just no need for it. As for all the comments re parents need to relax etc, why does relaxing have to involve getting pissed?? I just don’t get it all.
I agree with others that the drinking culture in this country is just awful, people just don’t see the harm alcohol does -unless they work for NHS or similar and see the damage first hand

It's great we're both so comfortable with our own choices mumsiemummy

Drinking at home once ds’s in bed doesn’t bother me. Have a glass of red
right now!

Was speaking to a cop about something. A conversation came up about a woman who had complained that her neighbours were having a loud party and her kids were trying to sleep. When they turned up they found the complainant drunk and she got done (I don’t recall the charge he said, but I can remember thinking it sounded serious), as you have to ensure you are safeguarding your kids, and if your drunk you can’t do it

I'm with you, OP.
I would not want my child in the company of people thatvirresponsible either, especially as they will not only be impaired by alcohol but smoking weed as well.
If anything does happen on the off chance there is an emergency, and they are both impaired they would be seeing the full extent of the law.
They are responsible for a life... they need to grow up.
I don't even know why you are considering staying there and bringing any child of yours along. Unsavoury in my opinion and you are totally reasonable.
I would go so far as to say that you can't come, as if anything ever happened to either your children or theirs while judgement was compromised, you would never forgive yourself, not to mention risking said child being taken away.
Don't go and tell them why. Sounds like you have outgrown these friends.

And it's not about opinion. It is about the law and responsibility for the safety and life of a child.
If anything happened which put the safety of a child under that's persons care at risk, and said person was found to be drunk or on drugs, they will be held responsible by law. End of.
Too many people are "functional alcoholics" in this country, and hide behind trying to make this sound like others who are responsible are pride or a wall flower.
I like to party as much as anyone else, but as soon as I decided to have a child, I put my desire for "fun" way down the list and have fun in other ways so I can always respond in case there is an emergency.
I know too many who work in A&E with too many stories to tell about exactly these kind of parents who want to drink themselves into a stupor and/or get high while caring for children.
Just like drinking and driving don't mix, neither does heavy drinking and being the responsible adult for even a sleeping child.
If you've had too much to legally drive, you've had too much to safely be the person to care for a child if an emergency were to happen. Very simple, really.

You have made literally no sense thulasileaf

What is illegal?
What is the law clear about?
Does the law align with your very simple comparison to drink driving?

I’m with you OP, YANBU.

I don’t think you’re BU. And personally I wouldn’t go, because I wouldn’t enjoy it and would be uncomfortable. Now I’m a parent my fun is things that make me feel good and help me to stay healthy. I did all my drinking before having kids. Don’t miss it either.

I reckon its guilt aggression.

What's Guilt aggression? Why are you obsessed with guilt ?

You like saying I'm obsessed with things, don't you?