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After divorce did you change your surname?

133 replies

Justoneme · 12/11/2017 11:09

Following on from another thread I am interested in knowing; after divorce did you revert back to your maiden name?

If yes why?
And if no why?

OP posts:
wendz86 · 19/11/2017 18:00

I haven't changed mine mainly because of the children and just easier to have the same last name. I only changed it 4 years ago as well so can't be bothered with the hassle. Also I prefer the name.

Mari50 · 19/11/2017 18:13

I changed my name back about 4 years after divorcing, essentially because I fell pregnant to new partner and I had no intention of giving our child his surname and it seemed grossly unfair to give her my ex husbands.....
It also took me a year to change my name after I got married.
I still have one credit card in my married name- 14 years later.

DivisionBelle · 19/11/2017 18:33

No, never changed it in tne first place.
Dc has both surnames hyphenated.
No difficulties for anyone.

teamnomistake · 19/11/2017 19:48

I ummed and ahhed for a bit as I felt uncomfortable using Mrs or Ms Married Surname as I was no longer in a relationship with Mr Married Surname.

But then I didn’t want to go back to my maiden name as I’d always preferred my married name (easier to spell, went better with the version of my first name that I use)

So in the end I changed my name by deed poll to my grandma’s maiden name as the family name I liked most and felt went well with my first name. I love it, it feels like a new start. Luckily I’m on amicable terms with ex so no worries about having a different name to DC.

sizenines · 19/11/2017 19:56

I stopped using the married name the minute I decided to divorce because I realised Ex's name now disgusted me.

AngryGinger · 19/11/2017 20:18

My mum changed hers when my parents seperated. She never asked me and my brothers if we wanted to change ours and it never occurred to us to change it either. My dad is and always has been a waste of space, my name is my name, not my dads name. I won’t change it when I get married. Partner is welcome to change his to mine, f he wants to. Fine if he doesn’t want to. No identity crises growing up about my name/my mums name but realise for some children it would be important to have the same name as their mum

SweetIcedTea · 19/11/2017 20:20

I've kept my married name, because I want to have the same name as DD, and also because my maiden name connects me to members of the family I prefer to distance DD and myself from.

We've said that once she's 18 and doesn't need her Father's permission we'll both change our names to either a completely new name or a family name from my side, we have a couple of good ones to choose from.

empra · 19/11/2017 20:58

Keeping married name as I use it professionally. Also to be same as dcs. Although one dc is contemplating changing their surname to my maiden name once they turn 18.

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