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AIBU to withdraw consent for hpv vaccine

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Ilovehamabeads · 08/11/2017 21:15

Signed the forms ages ago for DD to have the HPV vaccine tomorrow. I didn't really read up on it, other than the NHS info leaflet she bought home with the consent form.
Tomorrow is the day she's due to have the first jab. I'm now regretting signing that form so readily, having read more about it. I know in my head that the stories I've read are just the very, very few that went wrong out of millions. But, at the same time I'm thinking what if..
Would it be totally ridiculous to change my mind at the last minute? I think I just need a few people to tell me I'm an idiot for believing the evidence of a few, over the evidence of many!

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GladAllOver · 08/11/2017 21:46

OP you should be jumping at this chance of protecting your daughter from a horrible disease. If she gets cervical cancer in later life you will never forgive yourself, and she may not either.

potatoscowls · 08/11/2017 21:46

Anecdotal sorry but i had it and I'm fine

Tippz · 08/11/2017 21:47

My cousin had her daughter at school (and aged 13/14) when the HPV vaccine came out (around 2008-ish???) And she flatly refused to let her daughter have it as it was 100% brand new, and there was no guarantee of what the long term side effects would be.

No way was she letting her have it. And as she was not sexually active til 19, and has only had 2 partners, and there is no history of cervical cancer in her family, my niece will probably be fine anyway.

I also know several other women who have refused to let their daughters have it too.

The nurse at the school my cousin's daughter went to were proper arsey with my cousin for refusing, but it had fuck all to do with them.

I don't blame ANY parent for refusing this vaccine.

coldweatherlove · 08/11/2017 21:50

Please let her have the vaccine- I refused when offered it and now have a strain of hpv which could have been prevented had I had the vaccine!

speakout · 08/11/2017 21:51

I had no problems getting my daughter done at school.

How does your DD feel?
At 14 or so they will give vaccines at school with the consent of the child- parental consent wasn't needed.

PurpleDaisies · 08/11/2017 21:52

there is no history of cervical cancer in her family, my niece will probably be fine anyway.

Cervical cancer is not hereditary. Something like 99% of cases are due to HPV.

Sidge · 08/11/2017 21:54

I was a school nurse in 2008 and was part of the team rolling out the HPV vaccination programme in my county.

We also had to collate data about reactions and significant side effects. There were very few. Girls got rather dramatic about having the jab and there was fainting in a few, often whilst they were waiting in the queue.

It does hurt a bit, more than some other jabs given in the deltoid as far as I can see. Most girls get sore arms.

I even wobbled about my my daughters having it, but then copped on and researched what an effective vaccine it is and how it has significantly reduced the incidence of high risk HPV and associated problems.

pilates · 08/11/2017 22:09

YABU

AlexanderHamilton · 08/11/2017 22:12

What is your daughter's opinion?

I didn't sign the form for dd to have her injection. She informed me that she was going to give her own consent.

speakout · 08/11/2017 22:15

AlexanderHamilton exactly the scenario in my DDs school.
Those with signed consent forms could refuse if they wanted. Those kids whose parents did not give consent were asked and could have it if they wanted.

So basically parental consent or refusal meant diddly squat anyway.

speakout · 08/11/2017 22:16

It was the same with MMR booster.
The kids had the final say.

timeisnotaline · 08/11/2017 22:18

What if... your dd got cervical cancer? I am very lucky to have been at school in Australia when it was first offered there and young enough to have qualified for the vaccine. Don't deny your dd this safeguard.

PurpleDaisies · 08/11/2017 22:18

This is helpful if anyone is unsure about whose decision it is...

Although a parent is asked to sign the consent form, it is legally the girl's decision as to whether or not she wants the vaccine, as long as she understands the issues involved in having it.
From the NHS website.

SingingSeuss · 08/11/2017 22:19

Please don't withdraw consent. I wish I had the option. Currently going through treatment for pre cancer cells picked up by smear and caused by HPV. It is painful, not pleasant and emotionally draining. Why would you not let your daughter protect herself against that?

BeALert · 08/11/2017 22:20

No way was she letting her have it. And as she was not sexually active til 19, and has only had 2 partners, and there is no history of cervical cancer in her family, my niece will probably be fine anyway.

In what way does that protect her? You can catch HPV from any sexual partner at any age, and having no history of cervical cancer in the family is no protection.

PurpleDaisies · 08/11/2017 22:20

Why would you not let your daughter protect herself against that?

The daughter can still consent herself.

Atenco · 08/11/2017 22:25

Don't send her to school tomorrow. Everything indicates that this is a particularly iffy vaccine.

JamPasty · 08/11/2017 22:28

utter bullshit: Everything indicates that this is a particularly iffy vaccine.

JamPasty · 08/11/2017 22:32

Quoting the NHS on this vaccine:

"The HPV vaccine has been used worldwide for many years in counties such as Australia, Canada, the UK, the US and most of Western Europe. More than 80 million people have been vaccinated worldwide."
"A number of authorities around the world, including the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in the US, the World Health Organization (WHO) and the EMA, have monitored the use of the HPV vaccine very closely for many years. They use lots of different kinds of safety data and continue to say that the HPV vaccine is very safe."

Tippz · 08/11/2017 22:34

Of course they are going to insist it it safe; they are not going to admit it's not are they?

Girls who are not sexually active til around 18-20 and who have few sexual partners are a lot less likely to develop cervical cancer - without the HPV vaccine. Fact.

Tippz · 08/11/2017 22:35

Of course they are going to insist it is safe; they are not going to admit it's not are they?

Girls who are not sexually active til around 18-20 and who have few sexual partners are a lot less likely to develop cervical cancer - without the HPV vaccine. Fact.

DianaBlythe · 08/11/2017 22:35

Cervical cancer isn't the only cancer associated with HPV infection. Head and neck cancers, vaginal, vulval, penile and anal cancers can also be caused by HPV.

I know several doctors who have said they will be paying privately for their sons to be vaccinated as well as their daughters having it through the national scheme,

Tippz · 08/11/2017 22:36

All the women I know who have had cervical cancer started having sex at 13-14 and had had 7-10 different sexual partners by the age of 16.

GetYourHandsOffMyUnicorn · 08/11/2017 22:36

AFAIK it's not actually up to you whether she gets it; it's up to her. So even if you did withdraw consent then she could still consent for herself and have it regardless.

Tippz · 08/11/2017 22:38

Well hell would freeze over before I would let a daughter of mine have it, and I know many who say the same.

If the girl wants to to have it herself, then that is her right, but if it was up to me, it would be a NO.