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To expect payment for ticket .............

789 replies

Guardsman18 · 03/11/2017 13:08

Help needed please!
Was very close to friend for years. She's rubbish with money but was good at spending mine! We don't see each other so much, but still chat and I went to her birthday bash a few weeks ago.

It took me a while, but the penny finally dropped and I no longer 'lend' her money. (Think 'loan' for £1000 seven years ago and have only had £200 ish back).

There is a band that we have always wanted to see - I know I sound about 10!), so we agreed that I would get the tickets on my card and she would reimburse me after Glastonbury - very expensive!

Here's the thing - tomorrow is the day we go and I think (know?) that she won't have the money.

WIBU to just not go with her? Am meant to be picking her up at 12 pm.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 03/11/2017 19:38

It's a shame that all cheeky fuckers don't have a brand on their forehead so that we can see them coming

Puzzledandpissedoff · 03/11/2017 19:39

Appuskidu I think OP said the "friend" maintained she couldn't afford the train?

Or to put it another way, she expected OP to soak up the cost of getting there too ...

ProfessorCat · 03/11/2017 19:41

Good luck!

Puzzledandpissedoff · 03/11/2017 19:47

...at that point, the driver says-'but the petrol alone will cost more than your train ticket, let alone parking, so it won't be any cheaper to drive!'

You're right of course, but surely the point is that the friend wouldn't care because (in her mind) it would be OP who had to meet the cost of driving? She might even have suggested OP buy both rail tickets, if the petrol/parking were going to cost as much as the fare Hmm

As you say, the real question is why on earth OP agreed to drive, knowing what would almost certainly happen

DamsonGin · 03/11/2017 20:00

Because she is a nice person and said okay, as her friend knew she would.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 03/11/2017 20:01

Good for you OP, glad you’ve finally stood up to her.

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 03/11/2017 20:05

Gigzilla is exoecting you to bail her out.

I'm not placemarking for updates, honest!

Mxyzptlk · 03/11/2017 20:12

I agreed Puzzle because she couldn't afford the train ShockShockShock

Genuinely, my gob dropped open at this!

lololove · 03/11/2017 20:13

Haven't finished the entire thread yet, but I like the idea of what Appu says here:

"Much easier to say you'll either meet there or at the train station (where you buy your own ticket and she gets hers). "

By doing that, you lose a lot of the risk of getting miles from home with her only to have no cash at all for.

(of course she might still not have enough for the hotel etc - but at least it's a bit of a help - hopefully..!)

DancesWithOtters · 03/11/2017 20:24

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dustarr73 · 03/11/2017 20:31

Op what made it different this time,that you wont sub her.

LindyHemming · 03/11/2017 20:32

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littletike · 03/11/2017 20:35

You have got to go - we went last night and it was amazing! If she doesn't have the cash when you see her tomorrow go on your own and enjoy the gig and hotel. You can always put a post on FB asking if anyone wants the spare ticket.

FuzzyCustard · 03/11/2017 20:43

Loving CF's title of "Gigzilla"

OP, keep looking forward. You are sounding stronger with every post!

PurplePillowCase · 03/11/2017 20:45

just go on your own and sell the ticket.
tell her that you are going o go without her.

enjoy the gig!

LoniceraJaponica · 03/11/2017 20:46

"Loving CF's title of "Gigzilla""

Grin
Ohffsmalcom · 03/11/2017 20:57

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Fruitcorner123 · 03/11/2017 21:02

Good point Ohffsmalcom if you have evidence it was a loan you could take her to small claims court.

I am so fed up of hearing about these CF friends on mumsnet. I am glad you are standing up for yourself now. You sound lovely and deserve better.

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 03/11/2017 21:04

OP, when the CFE (Cheeky Fucker Epiphany) hits, it brings a shitload of doubt too. I had my own CFE earlier in the year, and I AIBU'd because I thought I was the one being the benk!

I've also sat there drinking pints in front of a friend who "forgot her wallet" yet again.

Channel your inner bitch...and, if you can't find her, feel free to borrow mine!

manicinsomniac · 03/11/2017 21:14

Have you booked one hotel room or two? Because if she doesn't come I bet she'll be really difficult about paying for the hotel. She'll say she wasn't given the option to come so shouldn't have to pay for the hotel room. If you've only booked one room I guess that's not so bad as you'll have a nicer, more luxurious experience with your own room.

I also wouldn't be too forgiving on her not replying when she's at a wedding. I know someone said they wouldn't have their phone on them at a wedding but I find that really surprising - how many people have a separate camera nowadays? I'd be fairly sure she's taking photos on her phone so will have seen the messages.

DarkPeakScouter · 03/11/2017 21:17

Make sure she has the extra cash Op or the trip will cost a lot more than her £54 ticket

Tugtupite · 03/11/2017 21:19

Gigzilla Grin

londonrach · 03/11/2017 21:32

Stay strong here guards

GetYourRosariesOffMyOvaries · 03/11/2017 21:46

If I was anywhere close I'd go! Best gig I was ever at!

FlouncyDoves · 03/11/2017 21:48

You’ll get there. She won’t have the cash on her but will say her DD has promised to transfer it by the time you get to Birmingham. You’ll let her in the car and then the money won’t appear.

If you drive off leaving her at her front door then that’s friendship over with. That may well be ok by you, but just make sure it is.