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So wtf was Adam Sandler DOING??

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MrsOverTheRoad · 29/10/2017 11:30

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-5027717/Twitter-slams-Adam-Sandler-touches-Claire-Foy-s-knee.html

Yes it's the DM sorry.

He kept touching her knee! What was that all about then??

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WilyMinx · 30/10/2017 06:41

MargotLovedTom1, from around 8:28; RG strokes her back for several moments, and (unless the camera missed a shot of her smiling at him) she looked stiff and uncomfortable.

I re-watched the clip, and to me, it looks to be exactly how BeautyQueenFromMars and StickThatInYourPipe described it.
www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/4792126/adam-sandler-claire-foy-interview-leg-graham-norton/

KaosReigns · 30/10/2017 07:12

Seems more annoying drunk than leech though. Some touches can be both annoying/unwelcome and not sexual. Like the annoying drunk who feels the need to touch your shoulder to ensure you're really getting their marvelous anecdote.

Not that I'm condoning his behaviour, it just seems a bit much to label him some sort of sexual predator based solely on that evidence.

IClavdivs · 30/10/2017 07:31

He's only ever made crap films.
Actually, "Punch Drunk Love" was quite good.

StickThatInYourPipe · 30/10/2017 07:34

He's only ever made crap films
Actually, "Punch Drunk Love" was quite good

Spanglish was very good too

grannytomine · 30/10/2017 09:45

It was a touch on the knee. If anyone cares they really need to get a sense of perspective I think the dangerous thing is when people go on about non events like this is devalues the real abuse some people suffer. Back when I worked on the vice squad I saw and heard all sorts and it made me very wary of men and yet even knowing that I listen to some of these stories and think, "What a fuss about nothing." If lots of people start to think all the stories about sexual assaults/abuse are nonsense it won't help the real victims.

I listened to a woman on the media the other day, she was talking about all the abuse she had suffered. It seemed like everywhere she had worked she had suffered real abuse/harassment. When giving an example of what had happened she said she went to a meeting and someone senior to her passed her a note asking her if she fancied going for a drink. Well I waited to hear how he refused to take no for an answer, how she had been demoted or lost her job but no that was it, a man dared to ask her out for a drink and it was terrible harassment. Do we really want to live in a world where a man can't ask a woman out without being demonized?

Shadow666 · 30/10/2017 10:02

But on the other hand, this is their work place. It's not appropriate for people to be touching people's knees at work. And to dismiss this as a fuss about nothing is shit. Because that's what happens to women at work every day, people touch them, they feel uncomfortable but if they complain they get told off for making a fuss about nothing or being difficult.

I will admit it's hard to tell for sure if she was uncomfortable but she looked uncomfortable and gave a shudder. That's what people are concerned about.

More men need to understand what is and isn't appropriate behaviour at work.

KERALA1 · 30/10/2017 10:08

That stupid comment about how if a good looking man gropes or assaults a woman she will be fine with it gets RIGHT on my nerves.

I was sexually assaulted when travelling in India by a gorgeous man Swiss who looked like Brad Pitt. It was awful. He came over unprompted to chat on the beach while I was trying to read my book there was something "off" about him I did not fancy him in the least. I tried the polite ignoring then went for a swim he followed me into the sea and tried to grope me in the sea and then would not leave me alone despite my asking him to very firmly. He only went when my fierce friend came back from her walk. Put me (unfairly) right off Brad Pitt thats for sure.

grannytomine · 30/10/2017 10:12

I suppose people see things differently, I didn't think she looked uncomfortable at all.

I saw Emma Thompson on TV this morning saying how terrible behaviour is (not in relation to this incident) and then I thought of the comments on here about her ruffling Sandler's hair and I wondered if she would be shocked if she was accused of harassing him.

Shadow666 · 30/10/2017 10:45

But Emma didn't touch him. She just pretended to ruffle his hair above his head. Why do you think she didn't touch him? Probably because she knew that that wouldn't be appropriate.

LosingMyWay · 30/10/2017 11:42

I think the problem with the GN show in general is that there seems to be quite a bit of drinking before and during the show, like it’s encouraged. So he probably had more than he could handle and is cringing the next day. Maybe?

grannytomine · 30/10/2017 12:11

Shadow I didn't see it, I was going by people on here saying she had ruffled his hair.

Katedotness1963 · 30/10/2017 12:45

Watched it, read the posts, watched it again. To me it seems...

He said something about "just like you"
Puts hand on her knee,
Moves his hand as she moves her hand,
Sees it out of the corner of his eye, assumes she was going to touch his hand, moves his hand back, she puts her hand on his, removes her hand, he moves his, boring story continues

grannytomine · 30/10/2017 12:48

Katedotness, I think you have summed it up well.

Pumperthepumper · 30/10/2017 12:50

Katedotness but why is he touching her knee in the first place?

Shadow666 · 30/10/2017 12:50

Emma definitely didn't touch him. Adam was oddly fidgety and looked distracted throughout the show. I thought the vagina comment was funny.

I was once asked out by a coworker. He looked to be in his 50s and I was in my early twenties. I was so embarrassed and spend the rest of my time there walking the long way around the building to avoid him. My friend thought it was hysterical.

Katedotness1963 · 30/10/2017 12:57

He was talking about some award they were both up for and tapped her knee when he said "like you" or whatever. It didn't look deliberate, just thoughtless.

Pumperthepumper · 30/10/2017 13:03

He didn't tap her on the knee, he put the flat of his hand on her knee. Would he have done that to say, Harrison Ford, do you think? Would you be happy if your male colleague did that?

So wtf was Adam Sandler DOING??
Katedotness1963 · 30/10/2017 13:06

I have had a male colleague take me into a back room and put his hands under my clothes, unwanted. A pat on the knee wouldn't fucking register.

Pumperthepumper · 30/10/2017 13:09

I'm sorry about that Katedotness. I've had a very similar experience with a male colleague and a pat on the knee absolutely would bother me.

Flowers
Pumperthepumper · 30/10/2017 13:10

I'm sorry about that Katedotness. I've had a very similar experience with a male colleague and a pat on the knee absolutely would bother me.

Flowers
MaddieElla · 30/10/2017 13:28

Claire Foy is on record saying no offence was caused.

And Reign Over Me is a fantastic film, Sandler is brilliant in it.

Katedotness1963 · 30/10/2017 13:44

Pumperthepumper, I apologise, there was no need for what I said. I lost my temper a bit. No excuse. Sorry.

Pumperthepumper · 30/10/2017 14:19

Katedotness no need to apologise, it's an emotive subject. I'm sorry for the way I phrased my post, I should have been more sensitive Flowers

Mumof56 · 30/10/2017 14:50

2.02 minutes in this video. Emma Thompson definitely ruffles his hair.

tvclip.biz/video/6tzygLu0UNI/donald-trump-asked-out-emma-thompson-the-graham-norton-show.html

Arealhumanbeing · 30/10/2017 15:33

Mumof56

Desperate much?

You’re not bringing an awful lot to the discussion.

Lee Mac asked Gwyneth Paltrow to cup his balls. For whatever reason she agreed to it.

I remember watching it happen and wondering if she did it so as not to “cause a scene”.