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Original poster

To have spent £60 on my DDs Advent calender

112 replies

speakout · 29/10/2017 10:04

Feeling a tad guilty.

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Lifeisforliving25 · 29/10/2017 10:05

Your money

Sparklingbrook · 29/10/2017 10:05

That's proper Christmas present type money. Is it a particularly fantastic advent calendar?

PinkHeart5914 · 29/10/2017 10:05

If you can afford it why not? Who cares what anyone else thinks

NikiBabe · 29/10/2017 10:05

Its your money.

Will she enjoy it? Will she use it?

If not consider taking it back, she may rather have £60 spent on something bigger.

If she's love it and you can afford it, just enjoy.

OwlinaTree · 29/10/2017 10:05

Well as long as you didn't spend £2 on your ds's one it's fine.

Ecureuil · 29/10/2017 10:06

Guilty why? Are the rest of the family going to starve because of it?
Your money, you can do what you want with it.

ButchyRestingFace · 29/10/2017 10:06

Your partridge in a pear tree, your rulz, babes.

LastOneDancing · 29/10/2017 10:06

If she's 1, YABU

Topaz89 · 29/10/2017 10:08

If you have the money then why not.

What does she get in it?

Acadia · 29/10/2017 10:09

Well, it depends. If you're some super wealthy Londonite with a nanny and six cars and a wine cellar, you probably feel guilty about lots of things. If you live on tins of beans then yes, you should feel guilty.

If your DD is a 3 month old, it's a bit different to a 22 year old.

If it's filled with crappy candles, it's a bit lame.

If you just bought it to put on Instagram with the hashtag #lovemykids or #makingmemories, you should feel very bad.

In the middle... meh, honestly I've found that children simply don't appreciate expensive things. In their eyes everything costs the same amount, "About a pound probably", and I find their reactions to expensive things disheartening. They don't know they're expensive, or what expensive really means, so it's not really their fault. In the end buying expensive things does feel like a waste of time so I don't now, saving the money for the future when they will desire and appreciate expensive things more.

2014newme · 29/10/2017 10:10

I spend not huge amount more than that on my dds Xmas present and we are comfortably off but don't go a bomb on 'stuff'. But if she loves especially it why not, but will she expect it every year?
Nb last year I bought myself the clarins one £100 it was crap!

hellsbells99 · 29/10/2017 10:11

I've been mulling over buying my DDs a special one one but think I will just get a thorntons one and use the money towards a nice makeup palette at Xmas. Although I do keep looking at the Tanya Burr 12 days one which is £20 in Superdrug as a 'compromise'. I think I am just missing them as they are both away at university.
Which one have you gone for?

LurkingQuietly · 29/10/2017 10:11

Is it one of the ones with drawers that you'll fill every year?

Actually - meh - if you can afford it and your daughter will like it, who cares!

JonSnowsWife · 29/10/2017 10:13

What advert xalenders are £60? Confused

Why are you feeling guilty. It it's your money you can do what you like with it.

BarbaraofSevillle · 29/10/2017 10:15

My advent calendar cost £60. If it's the same one and she is under 18 YABU, because it's the gin one from Costco.

Otherwise, who can tell. If you're struggling to put food on the table and have spent £60 on overpriced crap, which is what most advent calendars are, YABU.

If you can easily afford it and she will love it, YANBU.

Original poster
speakout · 29/10/2017 10:15

Thanks.

No I don't buy her stuff like this every year, and she isn't spoiled in material ways.
It's the NYX make up one,, she really wanted it and will use it,

From a small toddler with communication problems she has blossomed into the most giving, caring teenager- always thinking of others and it feels nice to make her happy.

And her brother won't get an Advent calender no.

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TheAntiBoop · 29/10/2017 10:16

How old is her brother

solarisWasAClassic · 29/10/2017 10:17

Yes.

I'm intrigued as to what you get for your money. I also get the impression that this is one of those situations where those most able to afford it are least likely to.

I buy mine regular Waitrose ones. I'm not a fool though. Our 3 have been in the pantry since last January. Bargains!

MrsStinkey · 29/10/2017 10:17

If you can afford it then don't feel guilty at all. Your money. I end up spending £15/£20 Donetsk sometimes slightly more on filling advent calendars for my DD's with dairy allergies. One is also soya intolerant so a free from calendar is no good. I don't feel guilty about it at all.

Original poster
speakout · 29/10/2017 10:19

I also get the impression that this is one of those situations where those most able to afford it are least likely to.

Then you are mistaken.

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Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 29/10/2017 10:20

How old is her brother?Shock

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 29/10/2017 10:20

Why isn't her brother getting one?!

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speakout · 29/10/2017 10:20

BarbaraofSevillle

A gin advent calender from Costco Wine

Sounds good.

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Sparklingbrook · 29/10/2017 10:21

I think if it's a teenager and you know they will love it that's not too bad in that case, but what about the brother will he not notice?

Original poster
speakout · 29/10/2017 10:21

Her brother is 19.

He doesn't do "stuff".

Last year his christmas presents were still unopened in April.

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