To have spent £60 on my DDs Advent calender

[speakout]

Feeling a tad guilty.

I had the m&s one last year for my birthday and I loved it. Loads of beauty treats I would not have tried otherwise.

You know she will love it so sit back and watch her enjoy opening it every day.

I bought my dh a craft beer one - he loved that too.

It's all good then.

Sunshine where did you buy the craft beer one- That sounds good

Instead of wondering if YABU, you could donate the same amount of money (or some time) to charity - that's what I have done.

lady- so you don't give gifts to anyone?

I'm failing to seee exactly where the problem lies? Except the Christmas presents remaining unopened until April, that sounds a bit bratty??

Now we finally have all the details, I am not seeing the problem either.

Not at all.
I bought my DSil a very expensive one of her favourite makeup this year as she is feeling very sad about Xmas. Her Ddad (my FIL) died in very tragic circumstances this May and she's really had a tough time. I wanted to make her Christmas a little brighter as I know she's going to miss him even more.

I could afford it. Why not? (I'll possibly inadvertently spend a little less on xmas presents for her but I think it's a good decision).

It’s your choice, so do it. I’ve only ever bought the traditional nativity scene advent calendars. No chocolate, no gifts.

But next time put all relevant info in the op!

Not just me who's laughing at the irony of the OP's nickname then?

Just had a quick scoot through the reviews and notice a lot of them are saying this is last year's edition. Is yours..?

Also, one of them has mentioned they paid £20 for it.

Before reading those, I would have said, "Good for you" or "Why not?"

Best wishes x

It's not just an Advent Calendar, it's more of a present to Celebrate the start of the Advent and countdown to Christmas.

I don't think that you have to give exactly the same to near Adult children, even more so when one is still at school.

I used to set a round-about budget and get what was wanted and/or would love, sometimes that would be for the whole year and then I'd adjust my spending at other times.

I don't see the point in buying advent calendars for adults, I'd rather get a decent gift set. It's your money but I do think that you really need to get something that is the equivalent for your DS - maybe a day doing something he'd love or a decent bottle of beer for each day of Advent if he likes real ale.

I don't spend the same amount of money on my DCs but they have the same number of presents to open on the whole.

you don't really need to get another gift then?

That sounds like the equivalent of what you'd get as a present, really. Or maybe just a token present on the day.

We used to get a present from parents AND a present from Santa , and I guess this would have been the equivalent of one of them - only when we were old enough to understand the trade off that we'd be making if we really really wanted something like this as an advent calendar.

Why are you feeling guilty about 60 quid on makeup when you don't about spending 160 quid on a chair?

I don't think make up calendars are particularly good value for money. I had one from Boots and each sample was small. There was a lot of make up that I didn't like or want to use; green eye shadow, blue nail varnish etc.

I would include the price of this when considering a Christmas present budget.
Of course £60 is not a lot of money to some, so it's all relative.

I’d don’t get these type of threads.

I not I’d

I got my ds the Tsum Tsum one which was about £60. I can afford it, he likes Tsum Tsums and i didnt think more than that about it than that to be honest.

Why is it worrying you?

You really reminded me I need to get DD and advent calendar - thanks!

I wouldn't feel guilty, and I like how you don't appear to feel the need to run out and spend the same again on the other just to even it up. As someone else said, your kids sound ungrabby and I like!

I suddenly recall a family I used to know who bought one kid a pony for Christmas, other kid got angry so they bought him a laptop

You shouldn't feel guilty. Ive bought myself a no7 one at £40 but I think overall they can be good value and it's a treat she will appreciate.

I think fancy advent calendars are nuts. Just buy whatever thing it is. Scent, gin chocolate.

Why are you feeling guilty?

I don't see the issue, some spend more than that on wine and takeaways a week. It will give her pleasure for the whole month so why not treat her.

Mine quite often have gifts "just because". You don't need a reason.

Ooh that sounds lovely I might look into something like that for my teenagers.
Does that indicate my opinion?

No teenage daughter here but think will get star wars lego one for son after seeing it here!!