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Original poster

To have spent £60 on my DDs Advent calender

112 replies

speakout · 29/10/2017 10:04

Feeling a tad guilty.

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BrutusMcDogface · 29/10/2017 10:22

Yes, yabu to spend £60 on her and not to buy one for her brother

CoffeeBreakIn5 · 29/10/2017 10:23

YANBU as they can work out quite good value, especially if she’s into experimenting with make up. But you absolutely should give her brother the equivalent, you can’t spend £60 on one and not the other in this situation. Even it out and make sure they both know you’ve done so, not sure how old
DS is but DD will realise that things aren’t equal if you don’t.

BrutusMcDogface · 29/10/2017 10:23

Ah, ok. In that case, fine.

Why are you posting on here when you're pretty sure yanbu?

MyOtherProfile · 29/10/2017 10:24

Would your son like an advent experience instead?

CoffeeBreakIn5 · 29/10/2017 10:24

Then give him the equivalent money, even if he doesn’t do ‘stuff’ he still wears clothes and shoes.

coffeekittens · 29/10/2017 10:25

Who gives a shit? If her brother doesn't do stuff then he'll be likely to not give a shit about a £60 makeup calender either.

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speakout · 29/10/2017 10:25

No back story.

I don't buy my kids the same stuff at the same time.

I spent £150 on a gaming chair for her brother last week, she got nothing,
Two weeks before that she got new dance shoes that cost £60, he got nothing.
He wouldn't care for an advent calender, that's all.

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Sparklingbrook · 29/10/2017 10:26

Are both DC in jobs earning?

PantPlot · 29/10/2017 10:26

What are u feeling guilty about?

Fekko · 29/10/2017 10:27

I like the Lindt Ines and feel very extravagant buying one for DS.

When did advent calendars move from having cheesy drawings of donkeys and mangers or waxy, shaped chocolate behind the little doors to expensive gifts?

2014newme · 29/10/2017 10:27

Yes do it.

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speakout · 29/10/2017 10:27

sparkklinh, DD is at school, she has a Saturday job. DS is at college, he also works part time.

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2014newme · 29/10/2017 10:27

But next time put all relevant info in the op!

Ecureuil · 29/10/2017 10:29

Do you think YABU?

StealthNinjaMum · 29/10/2017 10:31

yanbu, spend your money on what you want if you can afford it and if ds doesn't feel left out.

BewareOfDragons · 29/10/2017 10:32

I think it's fine, especially if she knows it's a Christmas present. In fact, you could even give it to her for Christmas on the day if you had any doubts. She'll still be excited to get it and all the nice bits.

It sounds like you've raised two nice children who recognize that they're different people with different wants and needs and that you love them both.

kateandme · 29/10/2017 10:34

this is one of those where it practically a hamper in calendar form isn't so it is more like a gift.therfore not so bad.its all relative to whether you can afford it.
our two pound calendar big spedn could be your 60.
and I have seen some of the calendar with gifts be something like a third of the price youd pay if you bought the individual items.

missyB1 · 29/10/2017 10:35

Your money your decision. Personally i buy the ones with pictures inside the doors and no chocolate or other crap inside at all. I would seriously struggle to justify £60 on an advent calendar even though I could afford it.

AlpacaPicnic · 29/10/2017 10:37

Think of it as 24 little Christmas gifts, it's only £2-3 per gift that way. And it's better than spending that 60 on stocking tat.

I buy DH the Lego Star Wars advent calendar as his birthday present every year and he really enjoys it. It seems pricy but it's a month of fun for a pound a day. When I translated it like that in my head, it's like getting a chocolate bar for lunch.

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speakout · 29/10/2017 10:40

Sparkling, no it's this one.

www.very.co.uk/nyx-professional-makeup-advent-calendar-mini-smlcnbspand-shadow/1600100870.prd

It has mascara, eye stuff, lippy, foundation etc, not just lipstick.

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Clovertoast · 29/10/2017 10:44

YOU already think it's justified.
YOU already think she deserves it.
What is the point of the thread?
" Aibu but I already know I'm not and will post snippy replies to those that say I am ? "

Zzzzzzzzz

KingLooieCatz · 29/10/2017 10:45

Sounds like you have raised two decent and un-grabby young people.

I'm pretty tight fisted but we have picked out a couple of bits of nonsense that DS is desperate for that won't break the bank.

If it's make up she'll use and appreciate it doesn't sound like a waste of money to me. And I am not a make up person.

Sparklingbrook · 29/10/2017 10:46

Is she just going to rip it all open today. Or is she to wait til 1/12 then open one a day?
I don't really understand advent calendars aimed at adults, it's really a gift set.

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speakout · 29/10/2017 10:49

She's 17 sparkling and still likes fun.
No it won't get opened , I have shown it to her and she has asked me to put it away for her until the 1st December.
She has a lot of self discipline.

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