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Uninvited to Halloween party :(

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Annoyedbaby · 28/10/2017 18:53

Just wanted a few opinions on this really as I'm not sure what to do... fairly first world problem but it's got me really prickled

My lovely friend invited my 8 yr old DS to her village's Halloween party. Low key village hall affair, £5 entrance, the more the merrier kind of thing.
DS super excited, we've got the costume ...first time he's ever wanted to dress up... all good!

Then another mum from the village (and also a mum from my DS's school) then told my friend (pretty rudely apparently) that my DS can't go as only the children in the village are allowed to go. She knows my DS thinks he's going.

AIBU to think that this is mean, petty and unnecessary Sad
What would you lovely peeps do?

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Meplus2equals3 · 28/10/2017 19:06

Its not a private party, its a public event.

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Annoyedbaby · 28/10/2017 19:09

Pengggwn that's why I'm unsure of my unreasonableness ....but it's not a private party

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Chapterandverse · 28/10/2017 19:09

When is it?

We run community events all the time and as far as we're concerned every fiver counts!!!

You don't think your friend didn't want You to go anymore do You?

Pengggwn · 28/10/2017 19:10

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DJBaggySmalls · 28/10/2017 19:12

If it were a private party the tickets would be private. How would they check on the door? Would they actually turn kids away because 'you aren't from round these parts'?
She's full of it.

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Annoyedbaby · 28/10/2017 19:12

Chapterandverse... no friend is pretty upset about it

Pengggwn yes I guess you're right... x

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Pengggwn · 28/10/2017 19:13

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Maelstrop · 28/10/2017 19:13

Incredibly petty of her. 'Local people' only?! The village isn't Royston Vasey, is it??

SpinnerDryer · 28/10/2017 19:13

Maybe shes jealous of you & ypur friend.

She needs to grow up. Confused

Usernamegone · 28/10/2017 19:15

Surely if it was a private party then invites would have been sent. The fact you can buy a tickets suggests it a more the merrier affair. It's not like coachloads of children who know none of the children in the village will be turning up!

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Annoyedbaby · 28/10/2017 19:15

DJBaggy it's a village event, £5 for tickets ...anyone can go.... providing obviously they're from the village.... not sure if just outside the village counts or where the boundary is .....

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bellie710 · 28/10/2017 19:15

We live in an area with a lot of small villages and the parties here tend to be by village and not open to everyone. A lot of the time like Xmas there are presents for all the children in the village so if someone else comes they dont have a present etc.
A lot of the villagers fund raise specifically for their own village so the other mum may be right?

Anecdoche · 28/10/2017 19:18

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Onceuponatime21 · 28/10/2017 19:18

We used to do this in my old village. We used to advertise as a community event, because people from the village always came with their kids, and stayed and socialised and made it fun. Others seemed to think it was an opportunity to drop and run.

Were you / your friend planning on staying and supervising your children ? We didn't mind if people didn't help to run it, we just didn't want to be left in charge of their kids. Maybe if you made it clear you were planning to stay?

SparklyUnicornPoo · 28/10/2017 19:19

I run events like this, just take him. I might advertise it as children from x-area because I don't want hundreds of kids turning up but he's going with someone from the village and I've genuinely never even asked where a child is from before letting them in!

lalalonglegs · 28/10/2017 19:22

Did the other mum look like this?

Uninvited to Halloween party :(
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Annoyedbaby · 28/10/2017 19:23

Thank you all
Yes I would definately be staying at the party
I think I will just leave it Sad

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Annoyedbaby · 28/10/2017 19:24

Lalalonglegs Grin

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TheLiars · 28/10/2017 19:26

thought it was a party organised by a group of bony trees

LOL! Grin

Calatonia · 28/10/2017 19:28

There is a huge difference between a Christmas party which is free for the children of a specific village at which they receive presents..... and one for which you pay five pounds for your child to attend. Your fiver is as good as anyone else's and providing you are going with someone who is actually from the village no one should bat an eyelid.

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Annoyedbaby · 28/10/2017 19:31

You've all been lovely...
I'm still not completely sure what I'll end up doing
But I feel a ton better
Thank you

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Poorlybabe4 · 28/10/2017 19:32

This is rediculous. Do they have a list of every single child from the village? Do all the kids get round uo annually for counting? How would they know if your not from the village. Our village is having the very same and they would never turn anyone away especially if tickets on the door. Its impossible to know everyone in a village!

FlaviaAlbia · 28/10/2017 19:36

They sold the tickets, they should honour them.

But all your friend has too do is say you're having a sleepover with them if asked and you'll be a temporary resident Wink